Renewing Marriage vows in a FLR

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    My thoughts lately have turned toward renewing my vows with my Wife. Both of us wish we had embarked on the course we are on now when we got married, but that was 20+ years ago! We were young and had to mature to get to where we are now. It had to be that way.

    Now we are both thinking of renewing our vows. It's too late to take on her maiden name as I've often wished I had. Still it would be fun to swap that one vow we always joke about: to honor, love, and obey. :):):)

    Anyone thought about how fun it would be to have a Female Led wedding or renewal of vows? What twists would you include?
     
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    "To have, and to hold thine key till death..."

    I like it. It could be really fun with the right officiant and guests.
     
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    Good luck!! I hope the best for you guys.

    We got married on a beach in Jamaica 10 years ago. I was proudly wearing my chastity belt with her wearing my key around her neck. The whole, love, honor, OBEY thing really takes on a whole new meaning! LOL
     
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    Madam and I have thought about doing this also! Good luck and have fun!
     
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    Pretty sure I’d be wearing the dress and absolutely to love & lock lol
     
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    I [sub] take thee [Domme] to be my owner.
    To be locked and teased from this day forward.
    For better or worse or else!
    For footrub's, for massage's.
    In stocks and in chains,
    To love, cherish and obey,
    Till death us do part
    According to Goddess's holy law.

    I give you this cage as a sign of our marriage.
    You will honour me always
    All that you are, you give to me freely
    and all that you have and are belongs to me.

    I give you this key as a sign of my obedience.
    With my tongue I thee honour
    And all my orgasms I thee endow


    Needs some work, but it's a start.
     
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    lol could just say here’s the key im your slave
     
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    I was going for a more traditional approach.
     
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    Laugh if you want but I had to say obey with my vows to her. She did not.
     
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    It'd be fitting if instead of placing the ring on your finger, she locked a permanent cage on your cock in the ceremony lol
     
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    My wife tells people that 25 years ago I did, even though neither of us did. I say something like "I'm not sure I can't remember, she wouldn't lie to me though" Anyway....She expects me to obey, and if we renew our vows I definitely will.
     
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    Domminister blesses the cage and key then the Dommother-in-law locks you up and the puts the key around her daughter's neck
     
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    I'll be marrying my key holder soon. There's a nugget or two in here I can use :) Thanks
     
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    My wife and I had a female led wedding. All of the guests except one (husband of her best friend) were women, all of them knew about our FLR, and our officiant (also a woman) incorporated mention of our written agreement into the service.

    It wasn’t spelled out what that agreement contained, so that family members could watch the video without being alerted to the full extent of what we were up to.
     
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    Sounds like a beautiful ceremony.:+1:
     
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    That sounds really neat! I'd love to hear some more about that group and how the ceremony went.
     
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    We’d been in an FLR since our third date, and my then fiancé had told me it was a deal breaker if I wanted anything else not long after that. By the time we came to get married, she had made me propose to her on both knees and say out loud that I understood that marriage would me submitting to her permanently. She told all her friends that we had agreed that she would be in charge, although how much detail she gave depended on how open they were. With one couple, she openly explained at dinner that I had agreed to submit to her 24/7.

    She had me write out an agreement that we were going to sign when we got married, and told me that we were going to follow it starting then, and that would give us time to make any necessary changes before making a final commitment. A few changes did get made over time, but only one that was significant.

    We signed the agreement on the morning of the wedding.

    The group was quite small - 6 women, including the officiant plus me and the one other guy.

    The ceremony itself was based on a mixture of traditions from our countries of origin, and it included a section just before rings were exchanged in which the officiant announced that the basis for the marriage would be a set of agreements that we had signed that day, and that could now never be broken.

    The FLR element wasn’t super apparent from the ceremony itself other than the mention of the agreements, and of course, the fact that everyone there (with the possible exception of the other guy), knew about it.
     
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    Let me tell you, they put up with us all these years, it is time for me to show my appreciation!
     
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    How did I miss this thread? Must have been on our holidays.

    Lady C and I had a mock FLR wedding service during lockdown. Just another one of these things to do when there was nothing else to do. Our scripts were similar and changed to suit who was saying the vows:


    Lady C's Vows

    Today in this special place, I Lady C of Somewhere take you A to be my submissive husband.

    To control and dominate from this day forward:

    · For better, for worse
    · For richer, for poorer
    · In sickness and in health
    · To spank ass and balls
    · For to lock cock
    · Forever

    And this is my solemn vow


    Lady C’s Symbols of Female Led Marriage

    With this cage, I wed you, and with it I bestow upon you all the power of my heart, mind and hands.

    The fitting of this cage with its unending circle, symbolises the extent of your chastity, the steel the strength of my will and my everlasting power

    The placing of this cage upon your cock is the fulfilment of my command to have you as friend, my love, my submissive husband and to live as Mistress and submissive forever


    And she consecrated the bonds of obedience and we lived happily ever after....

    A
     
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    Its only too late if you both think it is, or you have a handful of kids and others that you don't want to have to explain to.

    C'mon think about it ...socially how many people know any of our surnames

    I have different groups that I socialise with that call me by different nick-names and few if any of those know my surname and of those that know my surname some don't know my forename...
     
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    #21 SubSnuggler, Sep 30, 2022
    Last edited: Sep 30, 2022
    I've mentioned this wish to my Wife and strangely she has no interest into at all and is actually against it. Here's why:

    She came from trash, dirt, poor, ignorant and backwards. When she met me, her prospects were poor and she had run away from home at 16. I met her on a blind date when she was 19 and I was 27. My family on the other hand was solidly upper middle class, with some members of the family stupid rich and I had a decent shot at being a trust fund baby later in life.

    Fast forward many years later, She has a successful business, a large net worth, lives very well, and has a pussy-whipped submissive husband. All the members of my family have either passed or are distant relatives. In effect, She has taken over the family name.

    On the other hand, her immediate family remain dirt poor and ignorant, living on the government dole in barely more than a shack. When She visited them last, she remarked to me that the car she was driving was worth more than the entire net worth of all 3 generations of them put together.

    They treated her like shit when she was a girl, they treat her like shit now, and she has left them far behind. She has one older sister she supports by providing her a home and a small stipend. She could give a shit about the rest of them. She has taken over my family name and doesn't want anything to do with hers. Is this a storybook Domme story or what lol?
     
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    I've considered it. Husband's even agreed to it, we just haven't figured out more than that. One thing I'll insist on and husband's agreed is this time I wear the tux and he wears the dress. On the :wedding night", I'll be wearing the strapon.
     
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    Bumping this thread, in the hope of more input. 3 weeks from our 25th anniversary. She isn't up for a full renewal party, but I will do that privately with her.
     
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    Myself and my amazing fiance @Wife of queens property are due to get married in October so I'm sure wel be checking this thread for ideas if more comment on it.
     
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    Sounds pretty cool good luck
     
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