Men are so overwhelmed with their erections. The little head crowds out all thought, the big head atrophies. But when I am locked, when erections are under control, that brain space becomes open to be occupied by by long-avoided thoughts, by new thoughts, by the softer more feminine side of my personality. I become aware that I can be more, experience more, wear more. The conflict and hardness and aggression that is socialized into us is replaced by an openness to submission, a desire to understand the thoughts of the other 50% of humanity, and to worship their life-giving nurturing natures.
I have a slightly different take on this. I'm in an honour arrangement so I'm not caged and I'm not forbidden to have erections. Indeed, they're encouraged, as long as I do nothing about it. I have found, in the 55 days I've been chaste, that my erections have got harder than they have been for a number of years. But they are caused by different things. I don't allow myself to think sexual thoughts about my guide and inspiration, as that would be disrespectful. I simply think about my chastity, and the submission that lies behind it. And that is what gets me erect. It is the thought that I am obeying her orders, satisfying her, restraining myself from doing what I want to do because she has told me to and I want to please her - that is what makes me hard. So I take pride in my erections as symbols of my devotion, rather than of lust as they used to be.
You're too kind, Goddess but thank you. Once we accepted and embraced the innate superiority of the female, submission and obedience came naturally.
As the dynamic of our relationship progressed the honor system became a part of how things worked. Not that I consider myself that old but at my age i had a little issue with the nocturnal emissions, more than i remember having had way back when. A good friend (wife of a couple we know) suggested the chastity route to help with the mind is willing but the body.... So just our situation, chastity has helped me better focus. I have found as I'd read and been told that more extended duration locked are "better" The first 2 weeks or so i tend to be off balance, Not that anything would be allowed if I were free but mentally that's about my adjustment stage. It's a very real reminder of the dynamic and role. And one that does improve my focus. And I find i almost prefer to being free.
I was thinking the same thing during My scroll. It's pretty remarkable to Me, once I started thinking about it (then doing a little math, heh)... thousands upon thousands of erections were basically taken for granted before pet was locked up. Many likely went unnoticed. Tsk, tsk. Such a waste of energy... I am thrilled that every single twitch or hint of erection is impossible for him to ignore now. Regardless of the futility, the arousal is crystal clear in those moments. It makes reading our locked one(s) so much easier - and quite fun! It's even better when said erections are hand-selected for use, rather than readily-available at any given time... or saved for later, whatever the case may be. I've thoroughly enjoyed the increased productivity My pet experiences after being locked for a while. It really does seem to serve as a switch - one that I can usually flip to change his focus as it suits My needs. Whether that's getting dinner together or kneeling, performing well at work or serving Me in the bedroom, he always seems focused on the task at hand.
Thousands upon thousands taken for granted. Or made to spurt. Now, even those nocturnal ones are impossible to ignore and leave me newly awoken with fresh memories of denial. Men can do math too. A newly chastised 50-year old man quickly figures out that he's already had 99% of the orgasms he'll ever have. 35 years at an average of one-a-day equals 12,775. The ensuing 25 years of (generously) six per year equals 150. 150/12,925 = .011. Think about that guys, and be careful what you wish for -- or be grateful that she's finally put them to good use.
Shit like that also happens to me. I am blessed as a sub male..... but I need a miss who enjoys being dom
So many wasted orgasms over the course of my pre-chastity life! Now, every one of them is so much more pleasurable and memorable! And not taken for granted! And part of an encounter with my wife that she equally enjoys!
Good threads should be kept alive! YES! The mindset of a man who uses women to satisfy his sexual wants vs the man who uses chastity to submit his desires and energy to his woman are as different as light and darkness. I will not worship a woman but I will elevate women above myself, most especially my wife, but first I need to stop disrespecting women in my mind with masturbation and sexual pressure.
As soon as I stop masturbating and was under control my real submission to my wife became a reality and both of us are much happier with her in control and me in chastity.
Chastity has actually made my erections better. For several years I couldn't guarantee to get hard or even cum when we had sex, I even purchased over the counter viagra as I was so concerned. I've self locked 24/7 for 3 years and keep my erections and orgasms for my wife and now when we get intimate (which may only be several time a year) I experience a good strong erection every time . I know my wife appreciates this so I have to say chastity works well for me albeit not the traditional chastity that many on here experience .
Well, I am definitely more aware of when I see an attractive woman (which is 99% of the time my lady) and how my mind and body react - just because the cage gets tighter.