The Honour System

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    How many people have been in this situation by a Superior Female?

    The honour system in essence is where you both agree there will be no touching unless washing and going to the toilet.

    The question naturally comes how long can a submissive go without a cage before you brake his bond and word? That's the point of the system as I see it..

    Mistress and Dom's have you tried the system before? What where the results of I may ask?

    Submissives have you ever done it for October as an example, no cage just you and your honour?

    How long have you gone if you have!?

    Do you always need the cage?

    In my experience especially with older mature Dommes that's where the starting ground seems to be as it also helps with communication and brings out a bratty or needy side to which may need attention.

    What are everyone's experiences with the Honour system and chastity?
     
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    My wife primarily cares about her control, not my self control. So the “honor system”, is not an option for me.
     
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    So her words not enough then? Interesting.
     
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    I think the honor system is a great way to introduce the male chastity dynamic into the relationship & for some couple there is no reason for a male chastity device. It's specific to what works best for the couple.
     
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    For her? No, they’re not enough. All of her bondage gear has locks too. She doesn’t believe that telling me to hold still puts her in control either.

    Stunning, isn’t it.
     
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    For me
     
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    For me no! Absolutely not as I would feel like a burden and a time sink. More practical slave myself as I enjoy being useful.

    That's why I asked really, for some cages and locks are fun and have there place in the lifestyle but not practical however for you they are and that great news for you two.

    Technical fault on my last post.. sorry hehe
    Still getting use to the site
     
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    I have always been chaste with honour system. I didnt even knew that chastity devices exist. I think chastity is always a honour system. Noone stops you from breaking your cage/belt/device or use a vibrator to cum.

    But i have never been in a honour system without touching, but the opposit. The women motivated me to edge a lot. And i have to admit that edging helped me to stay chaste, because it aroused me sooo much that my chastity fetish got super strong. The more i edged, the more i wanted to never cum again.

    The longest i have gone without cumming was 15 month.
     
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    I've never been locked but I have gone 67 days with the honour system, but I must admit 15 days and I have a hair trigger and accidences happen, not always but quite often.
     
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    same here! For my madam, the cage is a must! She loves that I am under constant restraint and punishment! She loves the constant adaptation and challenges that comes from wearing a cage though every day life.
     
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    This is a great example of how different dynamics work for different couples. My wife is the opposite. My kink cannot inconvenience her in any way. I cannot tolerate the cage sitting all day at work so it comes off before I shower and goes on when I get home. I am on the honor system every weekday and was also during my record 86 day stint a few years ago. I don’t want it to end, so I’m good.
     
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    Older mature dommes??? How many dommes have you had?
     
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    I've been submissive all my life and in my 20s I went to Pro Dommes and thought I would grow out of submission and Female Supremacy. It's only got stronger

    I tried financial domination for a while as well but now I'm 30 there's a feeling and want settle down and find a D/s lifestyle arrangement.
     
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    I had an online sub, where we used the honour system. It’s about trust. He went for over 150 days, but personal circumstances helped determine that time too.

    Ps I love how I can tell who is in states and uk just by the spelling of honour/honor x
     
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    I'm on the honor system and also I am allowed to masterbate...I just can't cum.
    She would know.
     
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    Women always know haha.. even in text they know!
     
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    I'm mostly on the honour system at the moment. I don't seem to have any issues with the temptation for self pleasure, I think we might have broken the habit.

    My Wife and I started the year with me locked up and agreeing to a Female Led Relationship. It was agreed that it was her property and for her pleasure only. This sort of kink for us ebbs and flows with our moods, sort of a scene that might go on for a few weeks or months. We've only just flowed back into a more vanilla relationship. I spent most of the year controlled and locked, which for us is a really long time.

    Even though at the moment I'm mostly unlocked I don't seem to have any desire for pleasure without her. It still feels like her property. I'm pretty sure she could tell if I was bad based on how long I last, it's pretty obvious nothing has happed since she was last in the mood.

    She is still occasionally locking me up. I'm naturally a switch and she's more comfortable being dominant. When I want to play and suggest fantasies like tying her to the bed, experimenting with the riding crop and then ravishing her helpless body... she'd rather lock me back up :)
     
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    I have never worn a cage. It's not a case of self control: my Wife is in control.
     
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    I am on the honors system this weekend while ma'am is out of town. She has encouraged me to masturbate, but only to edge and not cum. I am good at that. I am not good at not touching my dick at all. When I am on the honors system for no touching at all, I fail sometimes.
     
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    Good luck. It's so hard to stop, so for me the only way is not to touch at all.
     
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    Let's be honest for a moment: We are all on the honor system, caged or not.

    You can touch, masturbate, or cum in a cage without much difficulty. The idea that chastity prevents any of this is fantasy. All it does is prevent the normal masturbation method or use of the penis with a full and satisfying erection.
     
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    My Wife would disagree with you. Your wife relies on both your self control and that you will report honestly on what happens when she is not present.
     
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    Your correct for two out of three. I have never been able to cum in my tube device all attempts become painful and frustrating. I certainly could cut the 2 gauge PA pin. But, I’m unsure that I could do that without injury. If I was undamaged from cutting it. I would then have to pull the jagged cut pin through my urethra. I’m sure I could do it. But, it’s going to bleed. She doesn’t by the way care if I somehow successfully orgasm. She’s spent enough time trying to get me to cum in my cage to see how damn uncomfortable it is for me. So that she’s happy with the result.

    Nothing against your system. But my wife won’t use it.
     
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    My Wife does not rely on my self control because I do not have any solitary urges to control.
     
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