Hello all So recently me and my wife has debating about role that we should do... Since then im not locked and yes she is a bit irritated about that... So here is two of our role 1 hers Im allowed orgasm after she orgasm...everytime we do sex... 2mine I want got orgasm after she got 2 or more orgasm... So what do you all suggest?
Not all women do the multiple orgasm thing. And even women who can orgasm more than once don't always feel a need or desire to. Rule 2 may not be practical.
take it from me - go with her rule. otherwise you are topping from the Bottom and it becomes all about you not her. my wife hated this at first but she is now in charge and dictates how things go.
Give her permission to deny you... a lot of women struggle with the idea that a man wouldn't want that pleasure. They expect you to want that satisfaction and it doesn't mesh with their understanding of how guys are wired when you turn it down. Tell her it is okay, you want to focus on her needs as a primary but you'd love some 'foreplay' as your reward. When you have explained your side, understand her wishes and do what you're told.
No matters like this that have absolutely no barring on the course of your life... she makes the call on it. Communication is key, but something like this needs no input other than if you are ok with it. This takes two people to work and everyone has to be ok with it.
Do what makes you feel good as a couple. Who gives a crap about topping from either side. One persons topping from the top/bottem is anothers good communication. The KH rules only matter and are enforcable if the othere partner agrees.
Isn’t this fun? I love the friendly back and forth of these two positions! I like the idea of being denied more, so I’d love one for every 10 of hers! Not long ago my wife told me that she wanted me to come that night, but I didn’t want to yet because I was just starting to get that high I get at about 10 days in. Anyway, I didn't object because she asked me to do it and our agreement is that in the bedroom she’s the boss. Both positions are right, of course; but it’s more fun to believe the control is absolutely real!
There are many ways to do chastity so “whatever SHE says”, isn’t always the right answer. I’d let her evolve at her own pace, if you are looking for more denial at this point though.
When my Wife and I started playing with chastity earlier this year the rule was that for every ten of my Wife's orgasms I would earn one. I didn't neccesarily get this one orgasm straight away, it was still at her discretion when I would be able to orgasm. after a few months we revisited this as She felt that this arrangement was putting pressure on Her to have sex when she didn't neccesarily feel like it. So now I get to orgasm whenever she allows it. I get to ejaculate (ruined orgasm) more often, around every 2nd day, as I have a high risk of prostate cancer . If you want FLR you have to let Her lead. This will be at her pace, not yours.
You can also purpose her that you MAY have an orgasm after she comes 10 different times or so if she wants to give you an orgasm. But always listen to you're KH/wife....