How often does she want you to orgasm?

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    My Wife has been slowly bringing down the number of orgasms each month over the last couple years. This is year 3 of using the cage. I’m currently on day 35 of denial, I’ll get to cum on our 31st anniversary on Aug 29th, so on day 52. Then from Sept thru Dec I’ll get one ruin and one full orgasm per month. I was averaging around 7-8 orgasms per month this year until this current lockup.
    We still have plenty of piv, just no finish for her penis.

    We’ll discuss what happens for 2023 at the end of December, but I imagine if she’s happy with my attitude and servitude, the routine will stay the same. A massive change from daily sex and cumming our entire marriage, but we’re both very happy, so might as well keep locking up!
     
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    Normally every 8 to 12 weeks but I never know when its going to happen
     
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    That is me also, I crave attention not an orgasm, in fact I love being teased then denied.
     
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    #29 knightly, Aug 13, 2022
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    Likewise, frequency at the beginning of the year was about every 5 days. Then I asked for ~10. Then said you choose. It had been around 11 or 12 days. Currently on 14.

    She has said to let me know if I need to have one (but I would not necessarily get...still her choice). Need? Not really. Want, yes. But no.

    I agree, the attention and teasing is a lot of fun.

    As much as I crave release and it drives me crazy, I don’t really want it. It’s maddening.

    I think at this point she won’t give me one unless I ask or say I need one. Which I don’t want to do. I’d rather let her choose. But I don’t think she sees any reason to if I’m not complaining.

    Ugh!

    And during teasing, she will go crazy trying to make me cum, but stop for the night if I get too close. So I have to relax into it and never let myself get so close to the edge that I have to tell her to stop.

    It's like she's figured out this perfect feedback loop.
     
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    I don't know how often she would want me to orgasm ideally. I asked her this question not so long ago, and she basically avoided it. I get the feeling she wants me to wait longer, but she's still not comfortable saying that to me directly.

    Not counting ruined orgasms, we are currently at one day a week for me to orgasm, but she'll make me climax multiple times on those days. We have done every single day in the past when we aren't playing with orgasm denial.
     
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    No interest in making you cum or enjoys tormenting you with tease and deniial. These are not necessarily the same.
     
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    She likes the extra attention she gets, and my better behaviour, when I am chaste.
     
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    I really enjoy my wife's orgasms and often we have sex with only her cumming, usually several times. She is too kind to me and often allows me to rub my caged willie against her wet pussy which makes me cum in seconds. She get absolutely nothing from this but just does it to let me have a release on about half the time we have sex, which she only desires about once a month.
    I feel like I am using her body for my own selfish pleasure so more recently I have said that I don't want to make a mess and she has been content with that. So I'm kind of denying my own orgasms when my wife out of pitty offers me the opportunity to have one. I want to test myself to see how long I can last without giving in to me urge to cum.
     
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    Maddening is right! That's where I'm at.

    I'm not allowed to ask for release or how long until next release. And I don't want to whine about how needy I feel. 0

    This could go on awhile because she isn't talking about it.
     
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    I know the feeling. Like you I deny my own orgasms too, when my wife (when I am uncaged) uses her hands to edge me. On the occasions when she wants PIV I always pull out before I make a mess. I’ve been managing to control myself for months now.
     
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    Once a week and inside her only. She says it makes her feel close.
     
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    Frequency has been steadily decreasing for the last several years. That is for what she considers a full orgasm. Ruined and edging are different in her mind. Currently we have settled into 100 day stents of no orgasm. I am currently in my third round of this. Along with this she will edge or ruin an orgasm simply to get cum to use in my continued submission and training.
     
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    I have to stay locked for about 30 days. The longest has been 43 days . Then I only get a majic wand release . Don't even get hard . Last less 3 minutes . Then back in the cage .
     
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    My partner seems to want to gradually extend my periods of denial. Generally she says she wants me to orgasm once a month after enough training. But today she said maybe twice a year. I don't know if she was teasing or if she meant it.
     
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    Ditto here.
     
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    Yup. Totally get it. 3 minutes tops!!
     
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    Thats me and Madame Vanilla too.
    She has decided to have sex 3 times since mid June and made me cum, twice inside her which is her preference.
    She decides but has no plan.
    Nobody knows when I'll cum next.

    I have suggested she let me cum on celebration days...the day we first met, first fucked and our wedding anniversary. Theres a gap between the last 2 of 250 days.

    She really doesn’t plan ahead. She likes making me cum inside her, but desire for it is down to a few times a year.

    But we snuggle and cuddle and suckle and spoon and kiss and caress and lick and grope like fucking teenagers...as long as Im locked.
     
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    I'm lucky if I get to cum twice a year and that's only when we go away to a dungeon for the night but not even then it's not guaranteed .
     
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    I'm pretty jealous of those of you who talk about being taken out to be played with or to be edged because that never happens to me!

    Last night, after an unusual roll in the hay and pleasing her orally, she asked me while we were cuddling afterwards how I was feeling about orgasms! Ding, ding, ding! I told her I wanted them! She asked how long it has been since my last one... "almost 3 weeks". She jokingly laughed that that was nothing and said I had another 2 months + 1 week to go. Then she told me she wished we had a target to shoot for and I didn't know what to say. I told her whenever it pleased her but that I wanted one now! That seemed to signal the end of the conversation because it was clear she was ready to go to sleep.
     
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    Next step is wand release without being unlocked. There's no reason for your peenie to be free.
     
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    Seems to be between 1-3 times a week. As for the why: Because she wants me to.

    Sometimes when she's under a lot of stress (kids can do that to a mom), sex doesn't enter her mind. That's really the only time when I have to deal with actual denial, i.e. zero sexual attention for an extended period of time. I really don't consider playing with chastity to be denial, in the sense that she is still feeding the monster. But when the attention stops, it sucks ... and I just have to deal with it (because the last thing that I want to do is to put pressure on her, make her feel guilty, or add to her stress ... my job is to support and love her).
     
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    My wife got inspired by @Aussiecple and thinks that 4 full and 12 ruined orgasms per year is a good starting point.
     
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    7 to 8 times a month!!? Pretty sure you have a decent size cock ; ) LOL!! my little dinklett gets to squirt about once a month, but that is because my Queen still requires a small amount of piv. It is usually just a couple of minutes cuz my cocklett has no stamina left anymore. Chastity has taken it away. On rare occasions She will have me use Viagra if She needs more than a few good thrusts. i do get T&D if i have been obedient, but am always fully restrained for it and am NEVER allowed to squirt from it : ( Once it is limp, i am put back in and then released from my restraint.
    Quite sure i will eventually be taken off pussy forever. Then it will just B Bull cock 4 Her.
     
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    I’m not permitted penile orgasm as madam hates the drop in my submission, but I am allowed anal O and prostate O pretty much every request.
     
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    My wife lets me have an orgasm a few times a year. And none of those are during sex, just from masturbating with her permission. She has had almost 300 orgasms in the last couple of years and I have had, up until last week, less than 8. She rates her orgasms from one to ten. When I reached 500 points, I got a few extra treats but none involved cumming during sex. I am currently almost at 900 so we are planning what the "extras" will be when I reach 1000. The reasons are multiple. The most important one is fter an orgasm I don't listen as well and lack energy for a few days. I can be downright snarly and disobedient. Two -it makes such a mess. Three -my little clit has never done anything for her so why should it entertain me.
     
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