Need help cumming to quick

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    So me and my kh/gf do lock up about 4 weeks at a time she loves piv we have tried toys and she said it's not the same.
    The problem we have is we will do for play and then do piv and bang done after about 30 sec.
    I have told her about numbing cream (she didnt like the idea of that)
    I told her about making me cum before ( she said the point is not to let you cum )

    I'm running out of ideas if anyone has any over ideas I'm all ears

    Thank you
     
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    I wear 2 condoms for any piv to slow me down. It works great. I also sometime try numbing spray as well as the condoms.
     
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    Did you try to train your pelvic muscles to hold back just as you would do top hold back your piss?
     
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    Think of your grandma.
     
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    IB-Chaste Chastity Superman.

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    Also, just tell her the numbing cream is lube. Leave it on while you indulge in a little extra foreplay ‘for her pleasure’ and then proceed when it kicks in. Although, anyone who’s tried it will tell you it’s not that numbing.
     
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    While we are just starting out with MC (correction- I'm starting out and my wife thinks it's weird) I do have some experience with excessive time between piv. We went from once every year for a few years to monthly and now weekly. I needed to make things last a bit even with so little "experience" when it was monthly or worse. For me what worked was edge play. In our relationship all intimacy is prepped, lit, smoldered and fuel fed by me so If I knew this was going to be the weekend I would prep. For a few days before we have sex I do some edge play over and over (maybe 10-15 times at a session) and then again the day of without cumming. Combined with a cockring I am as hard as a 19 yr old in a naked sorority pillow fight and I can last pretty much as long as she wants. I became very proficient of slowing things down when needed to extend. Granted she pushes buttons to move me along before I really want to (she typically has already had a few pregame orgasms so she is basically over it).
     
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    If you leave on the numbing cream the lady's pussy will also be numbed. And she will crack your skull for it.

    A good quality numbing spray can only help a little. Apply it generously all over the penis. Wait for 10 minutes. Wash it. Then go for piv. Take deep breaths as you go along. Take it slow. You will thank me later.
     
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    You may have already the onset of PE.. the anxiety to perform and satisfy after being locked for extended duration may cause unexpected ejaculation upon penile entry. A numbing cream may not help as testified by a friend of mine who has PE.. (results may vary between individuals)…and whose wife has given up sex with him because he cant perform to satisfy her. Your wife doesnt want you to cum either. What is good of a penis if it cant stay long/hard enough and it is not supposed to cum..?
    You may want to explore other ways to pleasure her..while you are unable to, she should not be held back against.
    Isnt that chastity training..?
     
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    Have her tease you with a flesh light stamina builder multiple times a week… she can choose to let you orgasm or just edge you with it… practice makes perfect.
     
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    Thank you for all your comments I will try some of these and see how it goes
     
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    I have the opposite problem LOL
     
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    While I’m sure it’s different for everyone, here’s my experience.
    Before chastity I could last a long time. 30-60 minutes was the norm, sometimes longer. Once we started and I was locked up for longer periods (2/3 weeks), the first couple times it was quick. Less than 5 minutes quick, which worried her as she’s always liked my stamina. So I started adjusting my depth, strokes, etc. and putting a lot of effort into finding the spots that still got her going but limited my stimulation, as well as changing positions more after she’s had an orgasm or two so I get a quick break. Now I’m back to lasting as long as I used to, the only difference is there’s very rarely an orgasm at the end for me. It’s been around 7 weeks since I’ve had one and we have intercourse once or twice a week so it seems to be working well.
     
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    i purchased 90 Dapoxetine also sold as Priligy. I cant attest to effectiveness. I am 140 day without release and have not tried it yet. I saw another post somewhere here about it and it seemed to work for them. It looks at the rate of my lockups what i bought will last me for the rest of my life. Also not available in the U.S.
     
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    I think all of us men have suffered from this from time to time in our lives, especially when very excited and turned on, or after a period of abstinence, both of which are the very conditions our kink creates.

    If you want to train yourself to be a long-stayer and able to do marathon sex sessions, there is a simple technique that worked for me. I have fingers, tongue and toys ready for use. When your lady is ready for and wants penetration, then in you go, but I suggest you are on top to give you more control over yourself. As soon as you feel the early indication that you are about to cum, stop immediately, withdraw and switch to using fingers, tongue and/or toys, to maintain constant stimulation for your lady, whilst giving you time to calm down a bit.

    Once you have calmed down, go for re-entry and repeat the whole process as many times as is required. The more sessions you do using this method, the more likely your body and brain will adapt over a period of time, so the number of stops you'll need should get less and less.

    Hopefully, she'll be calling you her "Marathon-Man" in a few months. She can always decide to stop you and re-lock you, without orgasm, when she's had enough, to keep you ever-ready for when she wants more.

    Personally, I would avoid any suggested drug-related cures. This has far more to do with your brain than your body.

    Good luck.
     
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    Me and My Love had the same issue. Consider just continuing after you finish. Yea it's uncomfy and intense but you just came before her. It's deserved. It's what we do and she just goes until she's done even if I finish in one stroke.
     
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    I would highly recommend Chinese Brush numbing liquid...if you can find it.

    This stuff is the ABSOLUTE BEST! You apply and it heats you tip after a while. Then...NOTHING! And I mean NOTHING! No feeling AT ALL for a few hours! You can actually wash your tip so that there is no transfer and "SHE" still feels everything!

    If fact the issue I used to have...WAY BEFORE chastity was she would be spent! I would exhaust her with O after O!

    Well after an afternoon of fun...she would be like...Your turn...can you feel that...and I would like NOO!!!!! Nothing!

    Then she would say..."Poor Baby, maybe next time!"

    Hmm Now that I am thinking about it...I wonder if she always, deep down, had this desire for chastity.

    Anyways, works amazing!!! All natural!

    Used it for years and never an issue!

    [​IMG]
     
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    OMG! Found it as a Walmart in Sacremento!!!
    (培元堂) Pau Yuen Tong + Kwang Tze Solution China Brush Delay Erectile Kit for Men - Walmart.com
     
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    But how do you stay hard after loosing all feeling?
     
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    I always have reservation about chemical laced ejaculation prolonged techniques.. correct me if im wrong, once the dickhead is numbed, wouldnt it lose sensation and therefore there is not physical feel sensation inside or outside the pussy? How is he going to maintain erection in the 1st place..? Or maybe does this technique have to be combined with another stimulant oral drug like viagra/cialis/tribulus..? To me losing the sensation of the dickhead is like shoving a worn out broomstick aimlessly trying to clean a drain..
     
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    Through an organ called "THE BRAIN"
     
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    I would rather get and stay rock hard when my dick head is numbed than in the questionable state of being fully sensitive, be it a side effect of the drug (we would usually use Lidocain/Xylocain) or the mindfuck of having my male organ reduced to a senseless toy that is used by her for her pleasure and does not belong to me any more.
     
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    This works.

    After some practice you'll be able to hover around the point of orgasm indefinitely, whereever and whenever you like.

    Unlike other methods it takes practice and self control.

    If you want to learn I'd suggest this book:
    https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/0943358191/

    And for her, if she is interested:
    https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1594770689/

    :)
     
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    Sex is Mental Pal...don't you get an erection just thinking of your woman...the cage...a session? Easy! The hard part is NOT getting hard.

    My wife just has to whisper a few thing and WHAM! Diamond cutting hard.
     
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    This works - I've done it on those occasions when she desperately wanted piv, and I desperately didn't want a post-orgasm drop.
     
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    Could be like my wife and just lock your cock because you can’t last long enough with piv sex anyways. That’s why I caged currently
     
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