Is it normal to feel submissive after wearing a cage when you weren't a sub before?

Yes, I think that's right. Clearly men are 'hard-wired' for sex: to procreate. When you're locked you very quickly realise that the only woman on the planet you have any chance at all of getting off with if your keyholder. And boy does that give you a really different outlook on life ! Furthermore the only way you're getting out is if she is really happy with you. And that means being nice, real nice. So what you refer to as being submissive is merely your mind and body doing what it believes is the best or right way to an orgasm.
This also explains the 'drop' after you do cum when all the horniness and frustration vanishes. And why subs famously get ansty and have attitude problems immediately afterwards: they are out, temporarily satisfied, so their focus changes.
This is also why edging, tease and denial, ruined orgasm and even prostate milking all work so well. They just leave the poor caged male feeling hornier than ever.

 

Glad it chimed and hope you found it useful. You are not alone . . .

 

It starts out so innocent. Let's try something kinky. Chastity is the latest thing. Just try it for a week. I bet you won't last 2 days she says. Next's its "If you do this I'll unlock you". Then it's pics and videos on her I Phone shared with her girlfriends and posted on porn sites. Now you are blackmailed with the pics and videos and doing kinky things you never thought you would do just to be unlocked if only for a little bit.

 

I agree!

 

Depends on how you feel about it. If it bothers you, you need to set up acceptable guidelines so you can maintain yor Mojo. Most women will lose interest in a man as a man if you are docile. Beware the inadvertant friend zone. Sounds like your partner may be noticing a change. If docile doesn't do it for you change what your doing. You don't want her to lose respect for you as a man even if she loves you as a partner.

 

umm...if you're lucky and it's your kink, too!

 

being locked is a constant reminder of your position in the relationship so feeling submissive seems a natural thing to me.

 

I don't feel submissive at all.

Though when I'm locked and loaded I feel I am in tune with my KH wife. Attentive. Respectful. Affectionate.

But not submissive.

 

I am starting to think that there is a distinction between submission in the common sense and submission within the context of a power exchange. I think those of us in a more vanilla lifestyle are sometimes confusing the two, or maybe even experiencing both when we experience chastity for the first time.

To submit to another person in the common sense is simply to put their needs above your own. This can be applicable to any relationship and is essential in a good marriage.

When a husband submits to his wife in a power exchange there is a pre-agreed upon construct in which a role play or game is operating within. The sub is giving up rights in exchange for something. In the case of chastity, the husband may give up rights to his penis in exchange for the sexual thrill of hearing his wife say “No.” and hoping against hope for a release. That is the submissive feeling I think that can surprise us. Some of you probably felt a little something when you read those words! When I first started deferring more decisions to my wife I felt that little something, but now I realize this is what it means to put her needs before mine. I associated a sexual dimension to it in my brain (which is my real sex organ). In reality, I think it is just being a good husband, but the thrill I feel is a bonus.

 

I don't feel it. Depend on the type of chastity cage, I will use urinals in public toilet if possible.

 

yes makes me more docile and agreeable, thats why she keeps me locked

 

Yeah I often tell her that caging my cock makes me into "a good husband ".
Ofcourse that shows up a pretty big flaw in me...that I need a cage locked around my cock to be a good husband.
But it really does seem to work though it is counter-intuitive.

 

Only reinforcement

 

Sucks to have to admit it, but yeah, without this lifestyle I'd probably still be an awful husband.

Oh well, very glad to have found this lifestyle, and if it takes a cage to help me learn to be a better husband, so be it. My wife is happy; that is (now) what matters to me.