newbie - desperately need help..

You don't need help. Have fun with it, explore it. You can be a man and still give up all control. Buy yourself a MCD and see how you like it. Cuckolding is a whole other thing When done right it's great , but it isn't for everyone, but that doesn't mean you can't fantasize about it and keep it in your JO library.

 

I'm not into cuckolding myself (and thankfully neither is Mistress), but for me part of the attraction of being dominated and locked up is that it's so different to my usual masculine guy self. It's like a part of my personality thats hidden away gets to come out any play.

 

Hello there, my fiancé are relatively heavy into BDSM and chastity. The major theme I have seen is " safe, sane, and consential". Any fantasy you may have that lines up with these ideals, IMHO, is one that should be explored.

Simply because it seems a little out of line with gender stereotypes doesn't mean that it is not healthy or fun. I myself am a 27y/o and still maintain a very happy and satisfying sex life, chastity is simply a way to enhance your pleasure

Don't be afraid to try new things, after all, some of those things are tons of fun

 

There are a lot of sexual activities where,IMHO, fantasy is better than reality. I think that's because fantasy doesn't include the day to day realities of life & relationships. For instance, being locked, teased, and denied doesn't go on 24/7. You still have work, chores, and day to day life to contend with. You have to realize that going in. That said, it doesn't mean one shouldn't give it a try. Just be prepared that reality will be different than fantasy and your journey into a chastity lifestyle will, most likely, not go exactly the way you plan( or fantasize)!!

 

I think the current results of the poll should tell you everything!

Every one is different and so are their kinks. We started BDSM and found chastity. We use it as part of our BDSM. Some never go to the BDSM side, and are basically vanilla except the CD.

Others cuckold. I love a good cuckold porno clip, but does that mean I'd do it? Start slow, take baby steps, find your place.

 

I think it's fabulous that you have discovered this at such a young age! You're going to make some Mistress very very happy!

 

Serving a mistress has nothing to do with YOU getting off! Haha!

 

I can only echo everyone above.

It's a two-way street and communication is the most important thing.

Give it a try with one of the cheaper devices, if it works for you then progress further.

Definitely make sure this is what you want though, as some women run with the ball and are never the same again!

 

Is that really a good time to make such a big decision as cuckolding?
Usually when horny you dont make the most balanced choices as a man.

Like Mistress Spike suggested, submitting and serving a mistress comes down to very little 'you getting off' and lots of 'you doing chores'.
You should research 'female led relationships' with a lot more devotion then you need to watch cuckold porn. Because even if you get cucked, its like 1% of the time and the other 99% are vacuming, cooking and shopping.

And when locked up watching you precious porn is out the window because it will just frustrate you.

I dont say that to be negative. But i dont want you to be dissapointed that things are not a 24/7 sex festivus when in chastity.

 

Cockolding and chastity are both wonderful with the right partner.

Chastity are new for us, and we hav'nt even a device yet - but we will have within a short period of time!
Chastity is my fetish - I love the idea of me being the only source to his relief - and the sight of a caged cock - uhmm, I especially enjoy the metal cages they look awesome.
But I've decided that we're gonna start with a silicone-device as an easy start - and see if it vill work out for us.

We practice cockolding..... but in our own way!
I have no desire to fuck just some guy from a bar - so I have decided, that he has to have something special - in our case a (very) big dick, and luckily my husbond loves it
Often we just fantasies about it, and talk about what I like about it and what we should do with such a wonderful piece of meat ;-)
I'm quite aware that we're playing with very strong feelings such as jelousy - and I do whatever I can to make sure that my husbond is feeling secure of my love for him.

With the right girl by your side you'll have some wonerfull experiences ahead of you - but get to know eachother first, before you let other people in to your life - you really have to be sure of eachother before you play with fire.
And start of slowly, so you can stop before you get yourself into circumstances, that are dificult to repair and undo if you should have second thoughts.

Don't be ashamed of how you feel, I would have loved to meet a guy like you - in my opinion it is quite a precious gift you give to that special woman of yours!
It took us severeal years to get to this - but now we finally have the most wonderful and satisfying sexlife ever
(sorry for the grammar - since english isn't excactly my best)

Miss Foxy

 

I think it has to do with Alpha and Beta males, if you are a Beta, you can try to deny, but that wont work. For me, i always was and am attracted to women, but sexually i always felt i was the minor sex, and the need to be submissive to them.
That arouses me, and makes me happy. Fighting that feeling wont help, just give in, you are who you are .

Greetings DutchBmale

 

Miss Foxy,

Your Grammar is excellent. You have a few spelling errors, but honestly, you're doing better than most Americans would! Don't be worried about it!

Thanks so much for your contribution

mikecb

 

I have not voted, as I cannot give a quick yes/no answer. As some here have warned, some fantasies might better be left as fantasies. But you might also get a lot of fun and pleasure by exploring your fantasies. Chastity fantasies are safer to explore than cuckold fantasies.

Please do not worry too much about traditional roles (like having to be a MAN), as this might limit you too much. You can be considered a real MAN in public, and at the same time in private be a pussy-whipped cuckold in chastity.

Personally I think I am considered even more a man in public when I am in chastity, though I am not quite sure why.

Keep it safe, sane and consensual. Make sure both you and others you involve like what you do in the long run.

 

I do not regret having given my mistress control of my sexuality. I am very happy that way.