Ann has been gone for over a week, she is coming home today. Yes, I have been locked and she took the keys. She told me 2 days ago that she is exhausted and for me to expect to remain locked for a few more days when she gets home. She just wants me to service her with pleasure with my hands while she sleeps and re-coups from her trip. She was slow to pick up being my KH but now she seems to be finding pleasure in what started as my idea. I am thankful but maybe a little nervous all at the same time for her new role she is beginning to like. I have no idea how long I can go and looks like she may push our old-time limits this time around. I realize I am a light weight compared to some of you that have been at this for years. I am sure I will be awake all night tonight massaging her as she sleeps on my chest.
Everyone has their own journey. Some go longer some are in chastity but still get to have sex/orgasm 3 times a week. Do what works for you and Anne. It is nice that she has tried and accepted your kink. Hope you guys continue to enjoy it.
True to her word there wasn't a cage key in sight last night. I am guessing there won't be one tonight either. which will put me at 12 days tomorrow.
Wait until she tells you she lost the key on her trip!!! Glad to hear things are progressing nicely for the two of you. Slow and easy is usually the "key" to getting our Lovely KeyHolders to warm up to the idea and allow it to grow. ~subrick
Congrats and as others have said, there's no right or wrong way to do this. We are new to chastity as well and it's a slow process for us as she's hesitant in a lot of ways. I can understand why you're nervous, as I will be too should that day come, as now it's starting to get real. The unpredictability and you're going to learn what giving up control will truly be like. Good luck, have fun and please keep us posted. I like to hear what works or doesn't work to try to learn as much as I can.
Thinking of things that us Vanilla Fellas like to hear......You past vanilla fellas would probably scare us pretty bad with what you might be hearing already or like to hear LOL 1. Honey, I think tonight is a Cage Night 2. Going to bed and you see she has laid the key on the nightstand and starts working you up and you think this is the night, but she lets you know smiling the whole time that she needs you locked another night 3. As you are pleasuring her, she might say something like, I sure like that cage on you 4. I could get used to this for many weeks 5. You know honey, I was talking to my friends about chastity............. Do you guys got any?? -or- girls too please respond, what are some you have used that got their attention
I think vanilla women are so programmed that men are pigs and just want to come that they can't believe their husband is asking for restraint on him only. Of course, many men are pigs LOL. Ann I think is barely getting over feeling guilty if I don't get to come. I would tell her I enjoy this as much as sex. I did tell her I still enjoy the old way but not all the time. Once a man comes it is over in so many ways, I love laying with her at night all pumped up and letting her enjoy me touching her and it can go a long time if I don't release. One of the hard things she has understanding is that I really want this to be her decision and not mine, don't ask me, just decide and that is what it will be. She is starting to believe me and get a little comfortable with some of this. Hopefully, yours will too.
My wife is slowly getting used to me not cumming and just enjoying the attention, but ultimately, she enjoys my penis/balls and so locking them up is denying one of her pleasures. Each time we have stopped/ started chastity she is more comfortable that it is something I want and each time she extends lock up period she is more comfortable. I try not to discuss it too much and don't bring up lock up periods unless she does. I thank her for indulging in the kink but that's about as far as it goes
Please continue to enjoy and don't be surprised if she enjoys the attention you give her when you are locked compared to unlocked.
She has figured that out pretty quickly. Definitely her favorite part when she isn't wanting the whole package
We just did short by one day 2 weeks. That was pretty incredible on me, not sure how to describe the sensation
Ann is definitely liking me in chastity now, it has taken her nearly a year to get over what she thought was weird about it. Last night when she got in bed she tells me that she wants to keep the cage on me and wants me to watch her play with her egg. After that, I ached in a very good way all night just holding her and making love to her with my hands. This is the part, me making love to her with my hands the way I do when I am locked is what got her over whatever stopped her in the past of liking this new love I have shown her. I don't think she ever wants to live without this kind of attention again now that she has found it. I Can't help but wonder how long this time will she l keep me locked. She won't tell me, even if she knows. She is my perfect lady.
Just remember from my experience the more you ask to be let out of chastity the longer she may keep you locked
You, sir, are living the dream. As far as how long, etc... Lock ups are hers to determine and hers alone. When you start trying to have a say, she will feel like you're undermining her. Unless she specifically asks you for your input, silence is the best choice. Glad you're having a great experience with it all.
I got up this morning, nothing on but my cage, Ann seemed to be checking me out smiling at me. What? I said smiling back at her. She replies, I'm just checking out what I have and she just keeps smiling. I walk over to her side of the bed and kiss her with a good hug. Driving to work I was thinking about her looking at me and I am feeling pretty good, also thinking tonight she is going to unlock me, because something like that exchange usually means she is ready for all of it. Later she texted me around lunch and told me I could watch her play with her egg and then hold her as she goes to sleep. Shew she is getting good at giving me head rushes.
Friday afternoon Day 5 this time. 5 days has me pretty ramped up. As usual I am clueless of her intentions of what she will allow this afternoon/tonight. Last night she told me she was glad that I have given this to her, her exact words, "Thankyou for doing this for me." Believe it or not after playing with this together for almost a year I think she is just now realizing what it all means to her and it isn't just for me. My best guess, the cage will stay on at least one more night. She is so beautiful and so worth it to me.
Tuesday the morning after , getting dressed for work and Ann opens her eyes looking at me as I am about to pull my underwear up and she says, put your cage on. Here I thought I was about to go to work loose and free LOL. I guess not, she layed there watching me lock up smiling. I handed her the key that she gladly took from my hand. Best guess, maybe Friday, time will tell.
Ah... I remember the good old days when lockups were measured in days, lol You may get to a point where your beg her to keep you locked. That's when you know you're hooked.