Hi all. I've been a long time chastity fan. If you look at my earlier posts, I've tried to keep it real. Being locked is mostly boring with a busy, stressed wife. Mostly, I want my wife to act just like a fantasy keyholder. She has no time for that. In her mind, if I am to be locked, then I'll be locked. I have gone a long time in a mature metal device. During those times, she isn't into teasing, domming or whatever. She occasionally will want me to go down on her, but usually just for stress relief while I am still locked. After the last long-lock session, the cage sat in the drawer in our bathroom. It's like she doesn't care if it's on or off. Then, earlier tonight, she caught me rubbing myself. We were both surprised. She walked out of the room. I didn't finish. I was embarrassed. 10 minutes later she tells me to lock it up. I could tell there was an edge to her voice. As in, not faking, she's mad. So, I did. So, yep, I'm locked. For real. I don't really want to be. I know these next weeks will not be enjoyable. I know that I will work to make her happy to get the key, so I again, this is for real. Asking her about it will just annoy her. So, SERIOUSLY, be careful what you wish for. Ed
Same for me.. my wife doesnt have time for strict supervision, monitoring and inspection in cage removal and relocking, penis cleaning, milking.. and what not.. (eyes roll).. nor does she hang the key over her neck or stash it away in a 16-digit code iron safe… she simply leaves it on the dressing table.. its for my convenience of unlocking for cleaning every 2-3days and/or forced adjustment if a ball pops and slips out.. Ok, back to your posting.. Yes, was found out several times that i was pleasuring myself in the early stage of chastity.. her reverse psychology punishment..? Making me masturbate in her presence and eating up my own cum.. embarasssing..? Yes.. she went further in making me mastubate once more and twice more.. the dick went cramped and limp from forced orgasm.. masturbation was no longer fun…
Ed As your learning. It’s not a game. And it’s about pleasing her. I don’t get why guys don’t get that women think differently. And we need to learn to understand them. Hopefully she’ll use this to take control and to help you learn to be a better husband and man. Good luck. And I hope while it won’t be easy that it’s a good time for you learning, growing and changing.
I’m sorry, but it seems as if your relationship is not providing you the basics of what you need. Even in a FLR and/or chastity, there needs to be a mutual understanding and effort toward assuring each partner’s needs are being met. A lockup without any attention could be very frustrating for you. And not the good frustration. I sincerely hope I misunderstood your post.
Sounds like you two need to have a talk about the situation you find yourself in. Is she taking control of your relationship or was she just angry and hurt at catching you. Also is the key still on the dressing table your your access or did she hide it.
I would suggest a week of good behavior on your part. Treat her like a queen and do everything you can for her. Women in my experience will respond to the pampering and attention more than the sexual aspect of chastity. That is how my wife got into it. She loves the attention and eventually started to get into the teasing. Give it a week and if she ignores you, then you need to have a talk with her. But with a week of good pampering by you, she will have an idea of what it could be like. Good luck.
Being ordered to lock up is better than doing it on your own. A shame she is too busy for some tease and denial but she now is controlling your dick. Isn’t that the name of this game? If you must have a release ask nicely for supervised masturbation. My busy KH will usualy grant that. She just doesn’t want me wanking behind her back. That seems like the common thread in this lifestyle.