Boys! What are you?

I am by title a bitch because it means female dog which is the role that my owners have chosen for me. I am kept feminine and spend my days keeping house and yard. At night I am down on all fours as their pet.

 

I refused to be defined! Oh, hang on... I'm a Wench

mmm... interesting.

In terms of the original question I guess I'm a submissive... though a lot of the time I feel like a maid

But then thats just one of the personas hidden inside.

 

I'm a submissive but inside I'm a sissy. Unfortunately I grew to big and strong and my Mistrss married that big and strong guy, so no sissy for me externally. Not really a problem though, my Wife's love is WAYYYYY to good to lose through wanting to look stoopid in a frilly dress. If I could do magic though, I would trade bodies with my Wife for a couple of days so I can feel what it is like to dress so pretty, have a soft, smooth wman's body and to be just girly.

 

Rest assured, you wouldn't be disappointed ...

Hugs, maid katrin

 

In vanilla life, I am just a husband. We live as equals, make decisions together, and are the best of friends. In bed, sometimes I am a vanilla lover, but most of the time, I am her "toy." She keeps me in panties daily now, but doesn't have me dress any further than that (she's talked about it, though). She controls my orgasms and sexual pleasure completely, though we don't have a working chastity device yet.

 

I must admit, two months ago I would have a clear, simple answer, but at this point I'm so sure. We are still working out a contract. I am hoping to be at least a submissive who gets used daily (one way or another). I love being teased, but I don't think Mistress fully understands what that means. Most of the time, I am her Master, but that's not what I am hoping for. I am willing to do all kind of things, cleaning, laundry, cooking, or just about anything else she can think of, but I want it to be role-related, not just chores (if that makes any sense).

I love humiliation and have told her all the things I can think of that humiliate me. I want to be teased as often as possible (at least several short sessions a day). I want to be denied for as long as she desires, and I want to be locked in my CB3k for as long as she wants (I love those points of intrigue). Ideally, I would like to be her full-time slave, but I don't know if that will ever actually happen. Only time will tell.

 

I am a submissive more than anything else, but in the bedroom I am put into certain roles such as sissy or slave.

 

I'm just me. I dont call myself a slave or submissive or anything else. My Femdom fantasies are limited to sex. And I just like my girlfriend to be somehow dominant in bed and take control of me. Out of bed, I'm pretty normal

 

I'm whatever Madam wants me to be, which atthe moment is feminized CD maid kept in chastity.

 

I've been asked this questions many times in my lifestyle life. My vanilla obligations require that I have choice in my lifestyle relationships yet my heart is very much that of slave in serve to any Lady who will consider me. So the title submissive is the one that best fits me at this time in my life.

submissively yours...
tracy

 

MW I would like to suggest another option. Chastity Husband. I'm (gasp - no the universe is not about to explode into M&Ms) pondering this. The idea being that there might be fairly Vanilla mode for this that is focused on making a better husband, expanding the role (And control) of the bedroom to the wife etc. And not particularly needing a device (At least not long term)

 

I'm single, 90% straight. I lean towards being submissive but I consider myself a Switch. I'm a nudist at heart, and I'm not in chastity right now but I do enjoy playing with my orgasms.

 

Jimi123 - This almost exactly sums up my actual position right now (see my earlier response): Husband using chastity to improve our relationship and not using a device.

 

I've started to ponder (I know this is making people go WHAT?) possibly even using a device of some type. I'm still very undecided on taking any step this way without more thought and conversation. I think the idea and how it works at some level are logical. Is the goal possible in some other way? I think thats where we need to talk it out and work on what goals and how best to get there.

I really do get what your wife is saying. I doubt very much that my wife would retain a lot of respect for me if this got to most of the extremes that we see in some of the blogs, porn etc. If I expressed an interest in embracing my female side with high heels, maid costumes and or estrogen I suspect she would be supportive and maybe drive me to the doctor but I doubt she would retain any interest in me as a spouse. ;-)

And truth be told while some of these extremes can seem hot (Like wild random hotwife Sex / cuckolds or???) in fantasy I think its one thing to get horny watching this on a video or talking about it to stimulate each other then it is to really do it. Anyway, the sex part of this? I guess my issue is not that I want so much to change our sex life or make it hotter but to use this to make me a better husband and to not screw up a good sex life. If this can allow her to own more of what we do in the bedroom? Or even how we do it? Great! I think that can be a very positive thing. But with lots of limits on what we both agreed we are not into. ;-)

 

I have been trying to follow this thread, but I think I am getting lost.

I am getting the feeling that one of the problems might be a fear of what happens if the wife decides not to unlock the CD for say... A year? Or ever? My suggestion to alleviate this fear would be to give the KH a kay and put another key in a safe place that the lockee can get to if he gets too fearful or things go in the "wrong" direction.

Maybe I am way off base, but I keep a key on my car key chain just for emergencies. That way, I feel safe (on a number of levels) and I still get all the joy of being locked up.

 

Whats the point of chastity if you can get out. May as well just work on the honour syste.

I lock sub in, and I keep the key round my neck. There is a spare but I;m not 100% sure where. He curently has no idea when he will be allowed release, as I haven;t decided :happy0011: And when he agreed to submit to me, he agreed to that. He has already told me he'll stay locked up indefinatly if that is what I want.

I also intentually loose the key ocasionally.

But each to their own

Mistress B

 

Well... The point is safety. What happens if you are not around and your sub needs to go to the hospital? I'm not saying that (in most cases) there should not be a punishment for using the spare key if there was no emergency, I am only saying that there should be one.

Not only that, but when a couple first "experiments" with chastity, what's to say the KH doesn't have other ideas? I am sure you would not be happy if you were locked up on a temporary basis only to discover that your KH decided to make it permanent?

Just saying...

 

I am my Mistresses Submissive Servant. We felt that slave had too many negative feelings towards it. I serve her and I am submissive to her needs. When she needs her cock, she gets it. When she tells me to get her something I do. But I am not in "bondage" and do have independent thought. I have the ability to get in my vehicle and go to the convenience store without asking. Mistress does not plan out my day, every day. But I am obligated to serve her when she tells me to. its a bit confusing but the line we have is pretty straight forward.

 

That's the thing - it's different for everyone. Most kh's ensure their sub is safe - I know I do. There is a spare key at home, but he doesn't know where. I have before now gone out for a day with him and forgotten the key. Besides, the fear they may have to go to the ER and show someone their device, or panties can be a hge turn on. But, it is each to their own. I have found as we have go older, and more lifestyle, we worry less about what people think.

I like to think if I told him to drop his pants and show the world he would, but I haven't yet!!

Mistress B

 

OK, fair point, but unless you have some seriously expensive device with a substantial lock, those little dinky luggage locks can be opened pretty easily. On the CB line, the plastic post can be cut through in seconds with a pair of side cutters. I'm sure that if one were motivated, grabbing the ring in one hand, the cage bit in the other and pulling up would result in your getting out. Probably break the device, but what's a few $$ if there's a real problem?

BTW, I actually have had this happen - wife was out of town, I got hurt while locked, and couldn't find where she'd hidden the key, AND couldn't get in touch with her. Ended up just going, as the injury wasn't near my groin.

IMHO, a good solution to the overall problem, esp. if a real lock is involved, is to put a copy in a box and use one of the numbered plastic things to make tampering visible. A sealed envelope will do as well.

Oh - probably nice to at least attempt to stay on topic - Out of the bedroom, I'm just a husband. In bed, when we're playing, I might be slave, and her mistress. When we're not playing, then we're fairly vanilla.

 

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Honestly, I identify as a sissy boy. I choose to be a sissy; I can be masculine, but it isn't too convincing and a lot of the more macho men see right through it. If I wasn't stuck living with the parents, I'd be painting my nails and dressed like a sissy goth (wow, new flavor of goth?) all the time.

I wrote on my Fetlife profile a while back, I feel like I'm in the "fourth role"- after butch male, butch female, and femme female. Femme male. Does that make me inherently inferior to the other roles? Not at all. I submit because I enjoy it, and my partner enjoys dressing me up.

 

Nemo... there are two separate issues going on with you:

1) Who is in control? In reality if your KH is truly your KH, you are giving up control. If you keep a cheat key, then you are not giving up control. It probably would be better to sit down and say, my limit is xxx days in chastity and then you both agree. Then, you will feel the true "thrill" of being in chastity.

Right now, you are like a convict who is left in an open jail cell.

2) Should there be an emergency key? Absolutely. But your KH needs to know about it and be able to tell if you used it. Otherwise you are back to #1 above. If you use it every once in awhile to jerk off, then I guess I have a hard time seeing the point.


To get back on topic, I used to classify myself as a submissive / "love slave" but lately have decided to forgo the chastity, submissive nature and other elements of our relationship. So now I guess I'm just plain ol' vanilla. I do sometimes miss chastity and think about it but frankly it had a lot of bad baggage for me personally...