Hello all, New to being a key holder and excited to explore! A bit about me, i grew up in a culture where sex is sorta taboo...No one talks about it and men expect you to be a "good girl" or at least pretend. Needless to say my sex life has been vanilla...until i met Rose Bud (@dominasbichboy)... We fell in love very fast and i knew before we married he is much more adventurous than i am in bed...I didn't find out exactly how adventurous he is until he brought up Chasity shortly after we got married. At first i was intrigued, then i was weirded out. But i love him so i went for it... Our first go around was exciting and we started to do things i had never done before. However, things started to happen really fast and i got overwhelmed (and lazy i must admit). We also weren't in a good place emotionally so that soured my desire for sexual exploration. We took some time off, worked on our relationship and decided to give it a shot again... So far things are so much better but a little slow.. I find myself worrying about how to tease my sub.. I don't want him to feel locked up and abandoned.. I'm here to meet other doms and hopefully learn to truly embody my identity as Domina Dee.
Welcome to the mansion. Enjoy the rediscovery and best of luck. My wife restarted our chasity and submissive journey and has continued further than I could imagine. She is my love and I find great pleasure in serving my Madame and all that she requires.
Hello Dominadee, i do hope you connect with other dominants on here as i'm sure you will find it very helpful. i like what you said about not wanting to lock him and abandon him. i feel this way a lot and have talked to my Queen many times about it. But i always feel like i am topping from the bottom. It does improve for a short period of time after our talks, but always seems to go back to just locking and leaving. i thought She was just not that interested at first, but when i am unlocked even for a short period of time, She insists that i submit to Her and the cage, so......i always do. On the upside, She is reading a book about male chastity right now, so maybe She will figure out a way (s) to set aside a bit of time for Her sub (and us). We have a morning ritual that is never overlooked and we love it!! So grateful for that as it really helps to bond us and reinforce/remind me (and Her) of my submissive role in our FLR. It sounds to me like you already know that communication is key. Hope your journey goes well for the both of you and hope to see more posts from you!
Indeed start slow and build. My lady restarted my chasity December 2020 and the journey continues. She has enjoyed developing her dominance over me. She has and continues to expand my education to better serve her and our relationship only gets better. I have accepted her ownership and I continue to fulfill all her directives. If course my failures require her suitable punishment. May you be as lucky.
Welcome! Dont overthink it, it isn't that hard. We locked husbands dont need a lot. A cage squeeze, a kiss, a whispered reminder that you control his erection, the occasional reminder that he's not allowed to masturbate without supervision, is all it takes. Two or three brief reminders a combined 60 seconds a day will keep him reminded that you care about his chastity, it's all we really want, to know that you care.
My KH/wife really had to break me first. I would always try to top from the bottom and convince Her about my fantasies. She had zero tolerance for that and would regularly punish me with stuff I really didn’t like. Once She thought I was in the right mindset She started teasing and denying me excessively and often to make me understand that if, and only if, I fully submit to Her with my attitude, demeanor and all, She would be so just to reciprocate. Later She revealed to me that once I was broken and deep in sub-space was when She really enjoyed getting more and more proactive and adventurous. Hope this helps.
Welcome.. I am certain that you will enjoy this site and will find others who will help you on your journey.
Welcome miss, you have all for a good start and being a great Dominatrix, I have no doubt on this. I recommand you to be certified and then you will be able to go in the lady only area where other Mistress will help you in your journey, I wish you the best success.
This sounds familiar. My submission status is regular subject and is constantly being reinforced. It has steadily increased. Good luck!