On the death of a male friend in 2006 it was discovered by my wife Ann & her girlfriend Katie that I had been having a bisexual relationship dating back to 1992 it was decided that my future relationships should be more closely supervised. I am now on my 16th year of experimenting on and off with enforced male chastity and orgasm denial. Over the years my experiences have been administered by my wife, her girlfriend and to a lesser extent latterly Lorraine a Mistress I met online. During the early years I was given regular orgasms as my wife and her girlfriend, weaned me away from depending on them and controlling my daily masturbation. Their goal from the beginning was control through orgasm denial and supervised reward orgasms for good behaviours. After a few years the only effect I felt was a constant state of arousal by even the slightest thing sensual, like the curves of woman, the sight and scent of their lingerie, the list of arousing triggers was lengthy Sometimes I really missed having orgasms and being able to masturbate whenever I liked but in the end I learnt it was not worth the seconds of pleasure to lose the sexual energy that was coursing through my body or the heightened state of arousal I could experience through submitting to their control, also it increased my ability to receive more cathartic release through masochistic pleasures and regular punishment sessions. I also importantly learned to please in other ways. While my wife and her girlfriend were in charge of my sex life, we were always equals outside the bedroom. Over the years I found I would just get horny easier, my ability to serve and submit grew stronger and I went longer periods without orgasm without complaint or dissent, and on the occasions when rewarded by an orgasm, they were far more intense and meaningful. Alas the 10th year came and the ménage a trios was no more and as my troubled relationship with my former Mistress didn’t really include chastity, the writing was on the wall and the Mistress/slave relationship began to follow an increasingly tumultuous route, eventually leading to it’s demise and going our separate ways. To date I have not had intercourse for over 12 years for both fetish, physical and medical reasons. My wife’s girlfriend who had her own room in our house for 11 years also moved out 8 years ago. I found that my wife’s girlfriend sexually dominated me much more than my wife. My wife has had a lot of problems with endometriosis so intercourse has often been uncomfortable. She get’s to enjoy sex with women more because she never felt guilty or pressured to have intercourse which is uncomfortable to her most times. So with sexually dominant women in my life I just got used to letting them controlling me sexually. It was actually a great relief from my high level and stressful jobs. It was nice to let someone else make all the decisions and engage in acts which would not allow me to think about whatever it was that was stressing me out. Sort of therapy! Along the way I got used to doing without regular orgasms in return for being part of a greater dynamic. So for the last 6 years I have unsatisfactorily tried to recreate the years of harmonious chaste lifestyle that I once knew. I have on numerous occasions locked myself in a device as a part of a chastity training exercise in the belief if I were ever one day be fortunate enough to serve again, that I will be ready mentally and physically to trained and under the control of whom I serve. Now that I have a PA piercing I have somewhat successfully had periods of escape proof chastity, the longest to date being last October when I achieved the full month of Locktober and an extra week in November.
Welcome Dannelle, and thank you for sharing your life story, as it relates to female domination and chastity. I find it useful, especially the struggles and reality of these kind of dynamics, so thank you.
Wow, congratulations, so it's quite an interesting path that brought you here, with your late boyfriend, her girlfriend and the Mistress, but now there's just the two of you. But it sounds like you don't have enough ingredients to re-capture what you had before. What do you think is missing?
Welcome Dannelle to the mansion, your story is very interesting and I hope you find peace here. It’s a very diverse group here with many stories, I’m sure you will fit right in.
As of 2022 I am happy to say our relationship although non sexual is now stronger than ever. My wife fully participates in my new diverse "in chastity to/ keyholder off ‘relationship that I have with a lifestyle domme that I became friends with during my involvement with previous Mistress. I shall amend my post so that it reflects this change and add ….. to be continued.
You seems to have a very rich chastity and kinky life yet, welcome to the mansion, it is agood place to tell us your story in the section "my journal"