Is the honor system possible after long term chastity ?

im a beliver in zero orgasms althouygh its only been a few months for me . can i ask has you penis and or testicles shrunk and by how much . my penis has already shrunk by about an inch just wondering if you balls have to

 

No, my balls get stretched wearing the belt...

 

No matter what level of willpower and willingness a man has, it's a challenge to do the honor system. I've done it successfully, but I've also had lapses.

Unfortunately, the only absolutely sure way is using a device. Only the key holder can determine how important this is to them. A proper and devoted submissive will accept that decision even if they don't like it.

There are life decisions a sub can question, for example decisions involving kids or retirement, medical options etc, but honestly chastity is not one of them. My Miss doesn't give me a choice, and while I struggle with it, I don't question her Leadership on this topic.

 

The honor system has never worked for me. I am simply don’t have the strength to do it. I end up edging too many times and always slip up.

even in my queens keep I could get my pinky in there and rub my glans enough to orgasm. Now I have a PA with a captured bead that requires a tool to open. The end result is that the material for the pa ring took up the space unused to be able to get in a finger.

so, for me? No, I have no honor!!

 

In all honesty I am sure there are some men who could refrain from self-inducing orgasms under the honour system. I would think that they are very few and far between. Although through not being locked they will of course have far more nocturnal erections any one of which could result in an 'accident'. If he has a sufficient number of 'accidents' he will of course have less need to resist urges to self-relieve.

For me though the head-fuck .. kick whatever you want to call it is. That we have done our level best to create a situation in which I can not cum as opposed to being in a situation where I may not cum but could choose to do so.

 

Excellent decision. Real male chastity enforcement requires a secure device and strict keyholder.

 

Does she get pleasured with oral, or a strap on worn by you? Was PIV ever much of a thing for you guys before you went into (what sounds like) permanent chastity?

 

From my point I have to jerk of at least twice a day all depends on your drive and mindset. If I can I will.

 

Mistress likes to use the honour system but has to lock me in chastity for a week or so after i have been allowed an orgasm as i feel i need 2 orgasms to be properly satisfied but after a week in chastity the urge to finish off my orgasms with a wank pass and i can settle back into the honour system for 3 months or so happy to serve my Mistress in a very happy subservient way as she always says i am (-:

 

It works for us. There are weeks when the cage has to come down, because of illness or because something has to heal. My wife only monitors me closely to see if I'm wet "again" or if the penis has developed the typical smell of cum.

 

After a long lockup a number of things happen, mentally you just accept that you're chaste, so having the device on or not makes little difference. Physically, you have far fewer random erections, so if you're otherwise occupied, you get distracted by sex less.
I have had periods of days after a long lockup where I haven't even had an ererction before I was locked up again, but equally I've also been unable to not masturbate repeatedly at other times. It's normally the former though.

 

It has worked for us. We started in June and did just over 2 months with the chastity device. This broke my masturbation habit. I was released once per month for an orgasm. She never liked the device though. In mid August she said I could take a break from the device, but no masturbating. I thought the break for was the weekend, but she was done with it. I have honored her request and have not masturbated even once. A little self play is all. She still is allowing me an orgasm once a month (so far at least). She does have a trip in January and I suggested that she might want to lock me up and take the key. Not sure if she’ll do that though. I guess I’ll see.

 

I've gone 6 months on the honor system, and that's with daily teasing and edging.

 

My wife does chastity her way. I'm in chastity all of the time, except when she wants to have sex or she wants to play. If I'm out of the device then I'm in some form of bondage that compels me to put my device back on when she wants it. I almost always have an orgasm on average a couple of times a week. Sometimes delightfully pleasant and sometime totally not (extra strength Bengay hand jobs are not for the faint of heart), based on what she's in the mood for. She has PIV with me frequently but I'm tightly bound and she's totally in control. She absolutely will not allow chastity or anything else for that matter to get in the way of her having sex exactly how and how often she wants it. Her comment on submission or the honor system. "F-that, I don't want your submission I want control"

 

Like most of the replies... some can, some cannot. Most will lapse at some point.

Yes, the cage can be defeated but that's not the point.

I am NOT able to live outside of a cage without eventually failing... hard to resist those primal drives, it can be done but it is primal.

 

On one hand I AM on the honor system because it's very easy for me to cum in a cage. On the other hand I couldn't handle the denial without a cage. The urge to touch myself would simply be too great. It'll be like "I'll just edge myself for a bit" and the next moment I already made a mess.

 

Iam self locked, on day 79, with my key accessible at anytime, but have only removed once a week for a good cleaning and trim, and right back on. Even before chastity for me, I was an addicted edger with denial, so maintaining the denial aspect has not been an issue. I can still stimulate my locked clit with rubbing on my cage or with a vibrator to bring a little pleasure without release

 

I don't think honor system will work.. Keep him caged.. If you miss peneteative sex, find a lover and turn your husband into a cuckold.. This will be better for everyone and will deepen your husband's submission to you.

 

I couldn't promise the honor system. Heck, I have a BIG challenge coming up: My Lori cage has to go back for more changes so I will be in my CCC while wife goes to FL for 2 months. I just lost a bet and am now obligated NOT to try to cheat it, pull out, or pick the lock. All 3 of which I know I can do. My word IS my honor, but honor vs 3 million years of evolution is like the proverbial rock and hard place. I wouldn't have promised if I didn't think I can do it, but consider that I only promised not to go out of my way to cheat a pretty damn good fitting cage. If I was free no way.

I think you are making the right decision to go hybrid. Perhaps I would recommend he get a few days out as a reward for good behavior. Yes, maybe even an O if really good (there is something mental about thinking you will never have another orgasm that I think makes the honor system even harder). And if YOU want penetration you should get it whenever. Try some numbing cream on him 20 minutes before (EMLA is very good) and a condom (to keep it off you) and use him at will, trust me he will love it, too!

PS: Sounds like he got in this predicament by being a bad boy. Also sounds like he got the point. I'm kinda suggesting you insist on the cage and shift the focus to rewards for continuing to be good, i.e. time for the carrot instead of the stick.

 

My Wife has 3 things that are absolutes for her:

1) I will never take a leadership or even a co-equal role in our relationship
2) I will forever by locked in chastity
3) She will forever control my orgasms and my sexual activity

We have discussed these things many times and she is resolute that this is just how it's going to be for me.

So, 2 & 3 pretty much rule out the honor system for me lmao

 

The "honor" system is totally impossible for me if I'm honest with myself. I've masturbated my whole life, even during my marriage in bed with my wife sleeping next to me. Masturbators have no honor. May I please stay locked?

 

DITTO!!!!

 

my Queen will never buy my bullshit of "i have learnt my lesson". For me/us the honor system is just a lie and we both know it. Plus She will not tolerate any loss of submission to Her or control of our FLR.
When my Queen finally requires piv, She has me take viagra while still chaste. Once the cage begins to tighten, we quickly remove it and i will then service Her for as long as She needs, or until the drug has worn off and i am limp enough to return to chastity. this has worked well so far, however, i have warned Her that leaving me chaste may cause my dinklett to shrink even more as time passes. She just says "I don't care".
You are the key holder, i say do as you please ; )

 

I think the honour system could work for some.

it could work for me for the right person
I can see the attraction for her.. me not cumming because she does not want me too
I would prefer to be locked though
The sense of being controlled and denied is much stronger
I don't have to worry about attempting to get hard (a well fitting cage won't allow it)
and I like to think that sometimes when she takes out her keys she will see the one for the lock and be reminded why she has it ...if only for a second

 

I think it is dependent on the individual. For me definitely no. It is the main reason I am locked and stay locked until my wife decides otherwise. The honor system would mean not pleasuring ones self AND telling if you did. I could not be trusted to do either. Even my maintenance (wellness check, deep cleaning and hair grooming) and caged daily showers are monitored by her. The last time she left off the cage for a day for some inflammation I cheated and got caught. That was a 6 1/2 month lock up. I told her I learned my lesson but in my heart I know I would do it again.

Chastity is only chastity when it is controlled by another party. Otherwise it is just abstinence.