sex..

It sounds like you have started to figure out what works in your relationship. My wife also has a low drive compared to mine in a very vanilla life. She has learned she has the key and the cage comes off when she wants it regardless of how much I want sex. It is worth the wait for me since it is so much better when she really wants it. My wife has likes that she never feels pressured to have sex. If she says no there is nothing I can do about.

 

This delay is very normal in males, especially males over 50. The refractory period gets longer, chastity needs to correspondingly get longer. There are many discussions around CM about the point that neediness and submission don't get deep until after sometime around Day 5 or so, and doesn't peak until Days 10-14 or so.

 

On opposite my KH was bored with sex and PIV, she feels nothing and oral sex was bad.
Since we bagan FLR, cage and chastity things have change a lot, she love a lot PIV and has a lot more than before, of course for her only pleasure, she says when it start and when it stops and has no care for my own pleasure.
In fact I have became a nicer dildo that she loves to control. I am no longer permited since years to ejaculate in her or ejaculate at all during PIV.
She discover it allow me to stay hard longer, and if I am frustrated and still full of my semen, I am absolutly ready for another round if she whish for.

The less I ejaculate the more I get horny and desire to please her.

Same for oral sex and massages and caress, the FLR has muted me from an ordinary guy to a efficient and malleable sex toy. The one that fits well with her magic wand.


One funny things she discover, she now act like men, she fuks, joy and let her partner down (and send me back to kitchen) sometime she sleep after. Exacly what she found awfull into men before.

So if you don't have enough orgasm, please push harder your sub/husband to do it,
It takes time to pass from a bad lover to a good one. The results is only up to you to educate him.

 

I do sex with my wife only when she is ready. This happens with almost everyone. If she is not ready, I never even seduce her. Whenever I'm up for it, I never let the opportunity go. Whenever she isn't with me, I try sex toys from Hismith and it gives me pleasure but I use it only when she is not with me.

 

I am a bit confuse, you wife is a real female sub or your male that you call and made as your wife?
As marked as female I am a bit confused.

My wife, a real female has discovered Lidocaine, many use it here, she found love so much better when I use it, of course I became just a hot sex toy and she has all the pleasure for her only. A new step for her domination.

 

@Kylara, it could be a typo or she is married to a woman.

 

We still have sex every weekend. I'm usually the one who initiates it and she's always the one who decides if I stay caged or uncaged. Sometimes she will say (after her third orgasm) oh, I forgot to unlock you.
She has always been a giver and is slowly seeing how male chastity can benefit us, both in and out of the bedroom .

 

I'm only allowed to use my tongue on her, no PIV for me, she prefers her dildoes and wand

 

When ladies control the penis, they control the man.....they can get anything they want

 

That sounds like our sex life as well, only we're still looking for a device that fits well enough for longer term use.

 

Sex..? Of course.. she unlocked my purely for sex alone.. couple of years back.. the penis has to be placed for some good use.. and relock back until the next occasion or as when she felt was the right time…. Now? Its never unlock.. sex to her, if from me, is oral orgasm.. I stay locked, much better concentration this way, listening to her moans and breaths… no more thrusting aimlessly with a semi hard penis.

 

My wife can be at times seems reluctant with chastity saying we don’t have sex enough… I have pointed out that she can let me free whenever she wants for sex. She never actually does. When she’s feeling generous we play games and have a whiteboard wheel in which she writes on various things she wants to do before spinning to see where it lands. A lot of the time it seems to fall on a full massage where I get to use her wand on her. She quite enjoys her giant strap on so that comes out regularly. Last week I received a ruined handjob which was nice.
We haven’t actually had PIV sex now for 2 weeks, where as before it would be 4-5 times a week… same routine, same manoeuvres… but I used to let a whole lot longer.

During periods when I’m not caged we have PIV sex around 3 or 4 times before one evening I’ll try to initiate and she’ll happily tell me “it’s time to go back into your cage”

so after my meandering thoughts I’ll summarise that maybe she isn’t actually reluctant at all and just likes the thought of sex at times. While also concluding that maybe spin the whee is rigged

 

This is pretty much like my situation

 

keep him locked longer then