Male chastity makes male/female relationships more equal?

I'm seeing the truth in the article, I agree with all of it, but question the idea of of if "vanilla people understood this they would be running out and buying cock locks". I just don't understand why women are soooo slow and reluctant to embrace male chastity?!?!

 

More equal??? In a FLR there's nothing equal... at least, not mine: my wife (often together with her bull) take decisions, all that's left for me is to execute. I'm not complaining, I'm just saying that if you live an FLR the hierarchies are clear and defined.

 

FLRs are on a sliding scale, the bulk of relationships are not so defined as Aspc has, most have a tremendous amount of male ignorance in regards to what women need from the relationship. Put a cage on a husbands dick, give the wife the key and let her wait, his new full time job will be studying her, pursuing her, pleasing her. She will have the power to bring the man to his knees. So, ya, FLRs may not be equal, but closer to equal than a free dick relationship, with male chastity the pendulum swings in her direction.

 

Many folks here that practice chastity in an FLR are at the extreme end of the spectrum where the man is a completely submissive slave and the woman is a very dominant master, and that's totally fine for the folks that desire that. But if chastity were to be accepted on a much more global scale, not all relationships would have to be so extreme.

The primary goal for these new chastity driven relationships would be to eliminate male masturbation, and then take it from there. Most couples would not be looking for a 24/7/365 lock-up, it would be sufficient for most people to recalibrate the male to the female's timetable. If she choses to unlock him for full PIV sex everyday, that would be her choice. I think most women would eventually learn that the key here is to limit the male refractory period, so they would more likely end up with a "once a month" schedule, rather than weekly or daily, perhaps even "once a year", who knows? And for most couples, the benefit of this simple realignment of the sexual balance would be sufficient, they wouldn't need all the other stuff the D/s couples look for.

 

Because most men present chastity as some wonderful gift they are giving their partner, instead of confessing they have a major fetish and would like to explore it. Women have a wonderful BS meter and are suspicious of dishonesty, especially as it relates to sex.

 

Well put Chaz69

 

I'm going out on a limb here, but I'm betting most women want, desperately want more emotional connection in there relationship. How can they get it? They can't just go rub one off. This is why to romance novel industry is way bigger business than the porn industry. I think a womans need for the emotional is larger than a mans need for the sexual, and that's BIG! Most men keep women in emotional chastity, offering only leftover scraps, then get angry when sex isn't up to par. If male chastity is only for the mans fetish then all this goes out the window, but male chastity can put the woman in a meet her needs first position!

 

Why is it that one person has to be brought down so the other can feel better. Wouldn't it be better to bring the women up instead of emasculating the husband and ingnoring his sex drive( with the exception being those who want to be caged and/or emasculated)

 

I feel that many of the people posting above have not really grasped what the piece is about and the point it is trying to make, regarding a more harmonious relationship between a man and a woman.

As a "younger" man, I was also driven by my sexual need to unload my cum as often as possible, preferably with female involvement, but if that wasn't available, then my hand would do very nicely to help me keep the pressure at a manageable level. I was able to recover fairly quickly and go again, so it was only rarely that I was caught out by over-wanking and not having anything in the tank for the lady in my life.

I am now an "older" man and my physical abilities are no-where near what they once were. It now takes me so much longer to recover to the extent that, if I am not careful, my tanks stays empty for too long and I miss opportunities to show my lady that I still have what it takes and that she doesn't need to get a younger man in to assist, although I am willing for that to happen if she wants to.

Over the years of slow progression from "younger" to "older", I like to think that I have acquired some wisdom along the way. I have discovered that, by resisting the urge to unload so often, there is so much more to enjoy in a relationship than orgasms alone. My focus is now much more on my girlfriend's needs, both emotional and sexual and our relationship is all the stronger for it. My own needs seem so much less important to me and I have become a great deal happier and more content as a result.

However, old habits die hard and the temptation to unload is still there ("The Force is strong in this one !!"). I know that some men are strong-willed enough to resist on their own (the honour system), but alas I am weak. If my focus on my girlfriend's needs is to be constantly maintained, I do need her assistance to resist, by making it physically impossible for me to give in to my urges, which of course, is where my chastity cage comes in.

I am now absolutely convinced that male chastity and orgasm control can bring real benefits to any female/male relationship (other types of relationship are available), but it can be difficult to persuade our ladies that this is so. Some women seem to take to it like ducks to water, some take a bit of convincing to see the benefits to them and some simply reject it as just another kink that their men have gotten themselves into. That's life I guess!!! I am still in the process of convincing my girlfriend, but she is open minded and hasn't rejected it. I think she is beginning to see the light.

Personally, I really do wish I had been where I am now much earlier in my life, but I am grateful to have found the benefits of chastity and I look forward to greater happiness.

Good luck to all on their journey.

 

From the OP's link:

"Male masturbation creates an emotional barrier in relationships and allows a man to remain somewhat disconnected in a very self-sufficient and self-serving way. Chastity helps remove this barrier.... With masturbation, a man’s emotional offerings are at a level that’s considered sufficient for a male, but insufficient on a female level. Chastity ups a man’s offerings to the level a female requires in order to feel ultimate fulfillment."

This is so true, in my experience, and is perhaps the primary reason I am in chastity.

I love this line! And us masturbators do keep her in the deepest emotional chastity.

That's true for me. I think masturbators are like alcoholics, we're always in recovery, we need to stay away from those erectile saloons. My chastity cage keeps me out of the pub.

 

I completely agree!