Rules.... what's your favourite ground rule?

Only one rule - Lady C decides. Easy. No problems with having to memorise rituals.

 

oooo you posted it, teehee here goes.

have clear names and when you should refer to each other by them the more humiliating for him the better as he'll be afraid of you using it

start with serious stuff like the bits of life etc neither of you can touch, like if your wider family finding out would be awful. or if it would affect your work.

set some minimum standards of what you expect from him (e.g self hygiene)

Give him a list of chores (you can add to this that he must be wearing certain things when he does this, maids dress!)

you can modify his body any way you like (he'll think you mean piercing but this could be painting his nails, shaping eyebrows a little(a lot!), removing nose hair, removing body hair all the way up to piercings tattoos and branding)

you'll choose his cosmetics (time to get rid of horrible deodorant and after shave for nice ones that others might notice on him!)

you'll choose what he wears each day, if you haven't given him an instruction by x time he can choose himself.

he must wear x at these/all times (panties, butt plug etc)

you reserve the right to find someone to satisfy your needs (even if you don't want this it really puts him in his place)

you reserve the right to choose if he should play with someone else (as above and will scare him especially if he is hetero)

set out punishments, what will they be, what will they be for (you can always add surprise extras) choose punishments that turn you on so if bending him over and caning works do that, if seeing him take the bins out trying to hide bra and panties do that, you can also have timed punishments so every infraction earns him x time in high heels (walking around not sitting(standing washing dishes is also good)!) this is then a punishment and will help him practice! or every infraction earns him time in a humbler.

it's always good for you to say what you will do, so you'll take care of him, check in every so many days etc

definitely finish with that if either of you want out of the arrangement you'll discuss and if you can't resolve it stops. neither of you need the trauma of it going wrong (from my own experience)

 

Doing as I'm (you're) told first and foremost. Do not question her instructions.

Never ask for my cage to be removed unless it's for a good reason.

Never ask for a sexual release, those are gifts.

Provide her with as many orgasms as she wants both with her vibrator or orally.

Sit to pee 100% of time home and away.

Cook and clean per her instructions.

Accept discipline for failing to follow her rules.

 

put him in Pantyhose daily.

 

I so agree, corsets and stockings!

 

other things I found on my old contracts.

fitness goals, noone wants a slob sub so an ideal weight or if they're active maybe something like yoga (done in proper yoga pants!)

financial....this is your chance to take control if you want

you could set some long term tasks as well like the maid one I told you about or something like waist training.

 

Ours changed over the years but most of the basics were covered early.
-No cumming or touching her penis without permission
-Must notify her of any issues with cage right away to avoid any damage to her penis.
-Must keep her penis in pristine condition in case she would like to use her penis.
-Must keep all body hair removed in a timely manner before it becomes stubble.
-Will wear whatever she picks out if she chooses to do so.
-Will follow directions on how and what to please her with.
-Must be willing and available to please her any time she wants.
-Will serve and pamper her without being told.
-Will worship her pussy and bottom either in the morning or that night every day(this has been modified to whenever she wants).
-Will wish her a good morning and good night either in person or by text(I’m home every night now so it’s not by text anymore).
-She will punish me as she feels fit for not following her instructions or rules. Discipline, more time in chastity(she doesn’t do that now I’m always in chastity)or ruined orgasms (doesn’t do this as punishment anymore either).
-Will call her Mistress or Amante (this wasn’t practical, in real life you don’t really have the need to say their name when it’s just the two of you).

We also had some hard limits back then such as maid service and cuckolding. I currently am her maid about once a week, and she has reserved the right to find a lover if the situation calls for it with some ground rules. She hasn’t as of yet.

There are other little things that aren’t spoken but have grown to be routine. In the winter I start her car, each morning I make her coffee and get her lunch packed. I do the cooking, dishes, and clean the house (usually maid day but also whenever I need to pick up). I also rub her feet every day.

There were some others we did for awhile or talked about. Like greeting her at the door on my knees when she returned from work, once a week full body massages, worshiping her feet fully before giving her her foot rub. Now most of those are just occasional and not planned.

Hope this gave you some ideas! Have fun

 

1. She is always right
2. When in doubt, see #1

 

This should only be answered by true female key holders

 

A new Domme i've been chatting with has one simple rule, OBEY,

 

Why?

 

why, many of us have had long term experience of this and know what works. It's up to Hippy what she wants to use! she could post in the female only if she wanted no subs to post..

 

The golden rules of my Mistress:

-NEVER ask when I will release you
-NEVER mention the cage or how frustrated you are.
-NEVER claim for the time I have you caged
-NEVER dare ask me anything related to the cage and your chastity​

Any violation of these rules will mean punishments ranging from 1 week to 3 months extra caged and without cum.
Depending on the state of mind of the Mistress and the recidivism of the offense.

 

Not sure why it is a bad thing communicating about chastity? Even more because she can always decide when the topic is over.
I totally respect if this is important for you two, but it looks strange if the cage is that important that there exists so much rules about it while it's not allowed to talk about it.
While we recognize beeing in chastity all the time, your KH could very easily forget it.

Feathers.sub

 

Just what I was going to post!

 

If that were the case, she wouldn’t have a single reply. There’s a special part of the site if a woman wants only answers from other women.

 

No milking, no ejaculation in cage

 

It's hot for you to require your sub to ask permission for most things that aren't routine household activities .

 

She may want to train him to find pleasure and occasionally orgasm in new ways that don't involve penetration (by him anyways).

 

Mistress Mandi has the final word, if she wants it, for every decision

A posture collar,, locked and with her as my owner on the tag. It keeps me inside the house while she’s out. It only gets unlocked when all chores are done

 

Maybe assign your sub to draft some rules for you to consider? You could even tease him a little first to coax his creativity and eagerness. Could be a really fun game and give you the pick of some rule ideas pointed directly at your sub's mind.

 

I am not allowed to touch my KH wife without permission.
I used to touch her nice bum several times a day, this behavior doesn’t fit with my caged status. Also hugging, laying next to her in het bed are to be asked first. And with this rules I tried steeling kisses as a compensation but she realized soon enough. So no touching her is a ground rule now.