I give up

it ain't easy, I'll give you that.

 

Sorry you find it too frustrating. Good luck going forward.

 

Why are you giving up?

Because you cannot find what you want?

Because you are being true to yourself and what you want??

Because you will not "settle" for anything other than what you desire and deserve??

Good

You see the fact of not finding what you want as a negative. It's not.

You know what you are looking for and you are sticking to that. You should be commended for that.

My advice, learn some more about yourself. Begin reading books on Chastity, become more knowledgeable about what you desire.

Have you been to any Munches? That is a good place to start your journey. Sometimes we have to look for our community. You found us here right?

We all have our own path to walk to our own destination. This is yours.

Keep going, you have learned so much already. It would be a shame and a waste to stop now.

Iso.

 

Then expand outward.

Are you willing to drive to a munch? That will keep your secret safe and hidden.

Or since you drive around a lot, how about finding one on your journey.

If you want something bad enough, you will find a way to make it happen.

Do not get discouraged.

Also "Roll Tide"

 

Sorry to hear that.

Let me give you an alternative to IP4U's suggestion. Find an open-minded woman, get into a relationship, and only then talk about your kinks.

Lots of people have kinks, but it is quite impolite or rude to talk about it early on in a relationship. Both my wife and I like kinks, but there is no way that I'd consider her, or she me, early on, if she'd spring it on her. I think that discussing kinks prior to a relationship existing is a faux paw. Don't do it.

 

Finding an open minded person? Hmm how do you do that, exactly?

More often than not you will enter into a relationship, become attached, then when you bring up your true desires you are met with indifference or worse, disapproval... then what? Spend the next 20 years pining for something you won't get, getting frustrated, then cheating, or who knows what.

I am not advocating bringing up kink on the first date, but I would definitely put a toe in the water early on to find out where the other person stands before committing to a relationship. Life is too short to take those chances. Sure, you might lose a few, but if they weren't open about kink, do you really want them? Trying to change a vanilla person is highly unlikely.

It can be very frustrating to find someone who matches your desires, that's for sure, but I would be open about it as soon as it makes sense, otherwise you could be in for a long dark life of disappointment.

To the OP, I would say seek out munches farther away, and at some point look to move away from your small town to a bigger locale. More people, more chances.

 

I couldnt agree more with this! So you invest 6 months, a year or more into a relationship to find out they dont want anything to do with your ______________ (insert anything). To me, the sooner you bring up things the sooner you can decide what road to take next.

 

People have been relocating to find love and acceptance for the longest. I love living in the woods but I detest small town minded people, especially in the south.

 

^ This

 

I’m sure someone will come along maybe just be brave and mention the lifestyle you love to a lady friend who you know well and trust to keep your openness to herself I’m so very lucky I have two ladies who know and who are very open minded one being my keyholder wife and the other a friend who also leads an alternative lifestyle who one day a long while ago trusted me with her feelings and lifestyle choices our tastes are poles apart but we can talk and share our feelings I hope you don’t give up this lifestyle is amazing and so rewarding!! You will find that special someone