Why is it so hard to find a keyholder? I post all types of different places and either get crazy women demanding money before they will do whatever they want to me or some other weird person. I just want a lady that will take care of keeping me locked up, let me out when required and be there to talk about whatever. Not living where I can just go out and find one in person online is all I have. I live in a state where kink is misunderstood and mostly illegal so going out and looking in person would be bad meaning online is the only place I have. Could just be that my post suck and just don't draw interest, who knows.
Because you should not look for a keyholder, but for a person with whom you can get along. Fetish, lust and sexuality then come up later and if it coincides, you quickly have a 24/7 chastity relationship
You are looking for a person to perform what is essentially a sexual service, for which you are unwilling to compensate. Think about it. You want someone to lock you up, and to be available to talk to you occasionally. That's both a keyholder and an escort. If you don't want to pay for a service, then what is in it for her?
I may be wrong but someone who talks to you would be a friend, right? Nowhere in that post did I say anything about a freakin escort, we aren't going there.
Then you just have to listen more to the women and take a step back. First find out what she wants to talk about, and many a relationship has started on completely different topics. With my wife and me, for example, about the Lord of the Rings.
First I have to actually meet someone that isn't a fake or crazy. Last one I met on here was crazy as she wanted money and a no questions, from me, relationship.
The money keyholder thing is a plague, I agree. I can really only recommend that you look for normal people, you will not find them on specialized forums. The art is then to slowly move these people to risk a look into the worlds that are arousing for you.
First you find someone you like, date, while dating you open up about your desires and fantasies, she excepts or rejects. Part of letting someone know the real you, is the risk that they may not like the real you. That’s ok though, you don’t really want to be with someone you have to pretend around do you? I would wait long enough for her to start liking you, but not too long that she gets upset that you are wasting her time. Probably a month or two.
Are you at any point considering what she is going to get out of this? You get your kink looked after. What about her? Your cock is locked up - so what, what difference does that make to her life?
Haven't made it that far with anyone, The only ones that reply just ask for money and tell me to do as I am told. Haven't had anyone answer that will actually have an actual conversation with yet.
Reflect on what you've just said, and what I said earlier. If you're only thinking about women as providing what you want, without giving any consideration to their needs/wants you have no chance.
Several other members here have responded the same way. You are looking for someone to perform a sexual service. People who perform services should be compensated. How would you expect to compensate them? You have not answered that question.