How to accept submissiveness as a single without watching femdom porn

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    Im 20 and im sexually submissive and im into chastity and some other things but im single iam not owned by a mistress all i can find is femdom porn to be dominated as a fact that i dont like to watch lot of porn how can i fullfil my submissive favours as a single without watching porn until i find my life mistress? Any guide please for this young slave
     
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    Well you could read erotica. You might find that helps you explore your sexuality.
     
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    I strongly prefer written porn for my subby side. There's much more content about the mindset of the sub and Domme, and it's often gentler and kinder than what you see in femdom porn vids. Literotica has a good selection.
     
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    Femdom porn has very little grounding in reality. Erotica might give you a better picture of real life. The only domme I have any serious knowledge of is my Wife, and judging from members accounts here, Dominant wives have remarkably varied interests and kinks.
     
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    I can only speak for myself, porn has really fucked me up. Over the years it’s skewed what I think is reality, and it made life harder for me. I’m sure a lot other people would say otherwise and that they can handle it without issues. I can honestly say after 40 years of it I would’ve been better off without it.
     
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    Erotica is much more sub oriented in my view. Have you considered trying to find others in your area who might be interested in same things? Like BDSM Munches or local groups. Fetlife might help.
     
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    This 100%


     
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    Submissiveness is a head thing. Eroticism is a matter of the head.

    You don't need porn for that, unless you want to enjoy a naked or fetish wearing body.

    When I see a woman in a pencil skirt and think how she gives me orders, it's enough to get horny.

    Oops I hope my wife does not read this :)
     
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    Or that she owns a pencil skirt!


     
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    Well, there are shows and films about people who have a life of service:

    • Upstairs, Downstairs
    • Downton Abbey
    • The Remains of the Day

    You might find the Marketplace series of interest, as it’s based more in D/s and service than porn-scenarios, though I would definitely categorize it as alternate universe fiction because the big gimme of it trusts too many people to complete secrecy.
     
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    hello @Naveen please is that you in your piccy.
     
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    do you have a link to marketplace?
     
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    Realistically you're not going to stop masturbating, so try to control the situations in which you masturbate. Try to reduce the frequency. Do this gradually and don't beat yourself up if you fail. And try to do it without watching porn. Someone suggested reading erotica. Great idea. Or just lie back and imagine. Good luck.
     
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    Thank you guys and mistresses all for your replies ♥️i would like to hear more from you soon!
     
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    I suppose it depends on what sort of relationship you picture yourself having, and what skills you imagine yourself deploying within that relationship. Reading a bunch of books on etiquette, hosting, memoirs of butlers and other professional servants, how the households of nobility and royalty are run, etc. may help to fan those fires. With other people, it'd be information on shoe / leather care. Or chauffeuring. Or dressage. Or beauty school classes in nail care, massage classes, or cooking classes.

    Or ... whatever is parallel to your actual fantasies, without going into all-out porn. Nerding out on the vanilla / real-life / professional / original version of your fantasies need not be a fantasy killer as much as training and education for brining those skills into your actual life.
     
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