Annoying misinformation and male fantasy blogs on chastity

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    So bit of a rant really about the state of information regarding chastity on the internet. Forums like this are absolutely brilliant because it brings people together on a common subject, but if you were say a lady looking into the subject on Google you'd probably be horrified by the fact that many 'blogs' or websites on the subject literally read like a male fantasy!

    I needed suggestions on how to introduce my wife to chastity information after the initial chat, so I looked over this site and found useful recommendations and decided to buy her Lucy Fairbournes keyholder book on the subject which she's started and seems to be enjoying.

    While she reads it I thought I would search for additional information and ideas so I Googled male chastity, and OMG 95% of what comes back is total rubbish, written by obviously horny men living out their fantasy's; but worse still I've seen blogs that claim to be written by women and I am very certain are actually written by men.

    This one for example: https://jessicastrone.medium.com/
    I read this at first thinking it could be useful, but the more I read the more I started seeing information like the importance of punishments, dressing up your man like a girl, taking him anally etc - it's literally the submissive mans fantasy blog. To check my suspicion I google image searched the picture of the sites author and wasn't surprised to see it's a famous celeb who I suspect is very unlikely to be writing anything about male chastity.

    My thoughts are simple, we all have reasons for being here and for many it's a massive step to ask their partner to get involved. What would really help if we could weed out the nonsense sites and list the ones that are actually well written, informative and genuine; in addition if a site claims to be written by a woman I'd like to know also as they write from a totally different p.o.v from the men which I think ladies like my wife would relate and trust more.

    I'll start, two sites I trust and recommend that I know are mentioned on here:-

    Thumpers guide to chastity life including device reviews - https://denyingthumper.com/
    Sarah Jameson's Blog on the subject - She offers a guide delivered by email which is a good read - https://malechastityblog.com/

    Can anyone recommend others?
     
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    That's an excellent site, very informative and well written - thank you
     
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    My wife doesn't do porn. But she likes that I "save myself for her" You need to put things in terms that she can get on board with. Even the site I sent you is a bit much for her sometimes. Go through it yourself and choose carefully what do you need her to know for now. Unless she is happy to do all the reading now, (my wife can only take a little at a time) then be careful not to overload her. This is your kink for now. Give her time to get onboard. A lot of what you will be experiencing is quite counterintuitive. She has to see it works before knowing it does, if you see what I mean?

    Before you know it she won't want to go back, even if you do. Be careful what you wish for!
     
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    Absolutely, to be honest my wife enjoys kink but isn't dominant so she struggles with chastity etc, however that's a topic for another thread.

    My goal is to find good quality links for me and others that want realistic information without the fantasy that men in particular like to present.
     
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    Unfortunately, reality and truth don't sell and interest as much as fantasy. Good luck on your search
     
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    Maybe the LucyFairbourne book was written by a man...?
     
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    I’m sure your not the first to think this.
     
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    Anything is possible, but it's written entirely sympathetically and emotionally, i.e. completely unlike a man would write it. Us men focus on the act and gravitate to extremes, women starting out do not.

    It's interesting to read the replies, I thought I'd find many others including men that would agree the misinformation isn't a good thing, particularly men writing articles as if they were women to sell a fantasy, seems I was wrong??
     
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    You can often find useful information for "vanilla" in blogs that deal with sex in general and not with fetishes in particular. There are also a few approaches worth reading on the specialised pages.

    Examples:
    https://www.kinkly.com/7/8950/sex-tips/bdsm/what-is-a-male-chastity-cage-and-how-does-it-work

    https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a36789418/male-chastity-cages/

    https://metro.co.uk/2018/02/28/i-wo...-for-a-fortnight-so-you-dont-have-to-7295136/

    http://arizonadreaminevent.com/why-everyone-is-talking-about-cock-cages-and-what-you-need-to-know/

    https://www.houseofdenial.com/pages/chastity-device-user-guide

    But you are right that 99% of fantasies are good and not particularly informative.
     
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    Agreed, the porn version of chastity is a horrible travesty. Porn does this with every fetish, turning into something cheap and tawdry, miles from the spirit behind the original idea. Some good recommendations here from folks, thanks.
     
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    Well I agree that 95% is garbage. But that's pretty much a reflection of the Net today.
    And yep you can not suggest to a vanilla lady to research it on the Net cos the garbage really stinks!
    The Mansion is pretty good though lots of off-putting kinks for someone just finding their feet with chastity.
    Plenty of threads on here saying cut the crap...
     
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    I do despair at the 1-handed advice people dish out, especially those operating under false colours.

    I've had a blog forever (see sig line), but these days I also have a substack where I try to post my most thoughtful articles.
     
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    haha, totally stealing that.
     
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    Sadly, Sarah's blog hasn't been updated in a year. However, before it imploded several years ago, she had a lot of articles that have been aggregated at the old ezine site:

    https://ezinearticles.com/expert/Sarah_Jameson/621858
     
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    I don't have a problem with fantasy wank-fodder per se, as long as it appears in an area clearly labelled as fiction. People have a right to wank !! Where I think it can be potentially quite harmful is when it is presented as being a real life experience. Anyone new to the kink then gets the idea that this is what they have to replicate in their own lives.

    With our own particular kink of chastity and FLR, although I appreciate that some have to, it isn't much fun in doing it on your own, so we rely on being able to get our partners on-board and enjoying it with us. We all know how difficult that can be, so mis-information is a real problem.

    To be fair, we do have a few proponents of fantasy wank-fodder on this site, so I would like to see more done to call it out and relocate it to a fiction section, where it can be taken for what it is and enjoyed by wankers the world over. There's not much we can do about the rest of the internet.
     
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    I don't!
     
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    I've tried calling it out before and got shouted down. If people are enjoying the story, they tend to defend the fiction writers. Even see short posts/questions from some that are obviously looking for innocent people to provide them with wank fodder, and you'll see a string of members not see through the bullshit and provide them with it.
     
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    The oracle has spoken.
    Well said.
     
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    I do think that Lucy steps in and moves anything when it is blatantly obvious that it's a work of fiction.
     
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    The thing is I don't have any issue with fiction or fantasy, it's fun to let your mind run free.

    What I don't like is deception such as the site in my original post, it's elaborate and misleading, but ultimately it does no one no good as once people looking for genuine information realise they are being misled it breaks down trust.
     
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    I couldn't agree more.
     
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    Perhaps the resulting list can be pinned somewhere?
     
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    My wife and I were talking about this the other night. To both of us, it is very obvious when someone is fantasizing. Hey, to each their own, if this is a creative outlet for them fine, but I do agree, there should be a place for fictional writing. Personally, I would prefer reality and real life experiences to fantasy posts.
     
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    There is a place here. Members Fiction section.
     
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