What do you KHs do to make your man more submissive

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    Everyone is different, so it all depends on what you desire. Chastity does not make me more submissive without being dressed in fem. One locked in a steel device that can not be removed without the key, dressed in a sexy maid' s outfit ( 100 mm heels, white knee sock, mini skirt, white top that displays breast, ear rings, make up, and wig, I am fully submissive to KH. Additionally, KH has installed an electrical remote in the cage that can keep submissive on edge or if necessary can deliver enough shock to correct any undesirable action of the sub. Once all is is place, KH has total control of submissive and the sissy will obey; fear and pleasure works.
     
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    Domestic chores! When my wife comes home from work and sees that the bathrooms are clean or the dusting is done and she tells me how that turns her on that makes want to do more chores/house cleaning. Even if we don’t have sex I enjoy knowing she’s happy so I want to do even more.

    Last Sunday she was watching football while I cleaned the living room. She said I’ve become such a good house-husband, turns me on and makes me want to do more with no effort on her part.
     
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    I am definitely learning to be more aware of how i say things. I always used to thank my pig when he did things for me, no more
     
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    I have instituted a mandatory 5 minute naked corner time. No talking, no touching from me just put in corner to hopefully make him feel more vulnerable and submissive. We have a house full of company this weekend and he returned from an outing with the guys. I marched him in the bedroom for corner time and i think he was surprised i remembered☺️
     
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    A simple thing I'd like to contribute. When we are in public...store, walking in a parking lot, church...doesn't matter....I have been trained to: 1. always walk next to or behind Mistress no matter her pace; 2. hold her hand in those settings if possible; 3. of course, get all doors.

    At home she no longer does dishes. I bring her food and drink to the table for her. I clear her spot when she is finished. Mornings when she goes to work before me I am obligated to a footrub before she goes, and at her choosing I might be allowed to kiss her feet.
     
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    The longer I am kept from an orgasm the more submissive I am, strangely as soon as I have orgasmed I no longer feel one bit submissive. This can sometimes last months.
     
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    It was a huge surprise, especially since we have out of town company staying with us for the weekend, so we disappear for a short time. BK says I will get corner time every day for at least 5 min.

    I know BK says I top from the bottom, and that’s probably true. Ok, I guess it is true but I just want some engagement, some FLR/Femdom time. I know it’s all about her and not about me but I need something more. I am not a full time slave, we are an old married couple working to get to a better place. I need the Femdom engagement the same as I need her touch, kind words and the laughs we have together. I know a lot of people will not agree but it’s not all about her, it’s about us, the love, the relationship, the laughs. Is is about 85% her, but I am in the equation. I know it’s not her kink, and without me she probably would not have it, but it’s been so many years that it’s part of us now. We both want it be it for different reasons but none the less we are both all in. So as usual it’s not as easy as reading a post about someone topping from the bottom, it a lot more complicated than that. It’s about finding our way and finding time when life gets in the way. It’s abut submitting and self esteem and confidence and communication.
    Love ya BK
     
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    My man is exactly the same, i would guess you probably all are..
     
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    I think maybe we are all the same to a degree. For me however I am not into feminisation, I have only wore the odd thing of my girlfriends after she has worn them, to spice things up a little. I think that would be as far as I would venture.
     
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    Yes. Sissygasms are a wonderful option.
     
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    Wow. Just wow. Lucky husband. Most men here would dream of that
     
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    #38 SubSnuggler, Nov 1, 2021
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    Topping from the bottom would get punishment in my Lady's house. Usually a stern warning delivered while I'm on my knees for a mild or first offense. If a serious offense or the behavior continued I can count on a serious spanking and corner time. I can't help but submit to a spanking and they f'n hurt. Nothing enhances submission like bending over your Wife's knee and knowing she's gonna whale on you until your ass glows for 3 days.

    If I start getting my ankles and thighs trussed up in belts (so I can't wiggle) I pretty much want to start crying before it starts cause I know I'm going to cry during.

    The last time I got this treatment was when I told her a couple months ago, "to calm down and get a hold of yourself." Oh fuck no, never ever tell a Domme this, I know I never will. EVER

    Obviously every FLR is different, and mine can be ... extreme ... but it does work lmao
     
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    As you settle in, that will come more naturally and you'll find your own voice. It's a positive feedback loop where you being more direct will trigger submissive headspace, which will cause him to be more attentive and to give you what you want, which will build your confidence.

    I personally know dominant partners who are quite formal, and who use please and thank you with their VERY submissive slaves. So find what style works for you and build from that.
     
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    I would venture to say that this is not uncommon as couples start out, and are finding the balance between his submission and her dominance.

    It does not always mean he is behaving poorly.
     
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    Dear @BKwife what were the 'not so good things'?
     
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    Oh geez! I told my lady "to calm down please...for the rest of life".
    She reminds me how disrespectful that was every so often.
     
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    This sounds like a variant of the too-common 'locked and forgotten' problem. @BKwife ,maybe he's looking for more overt signs of control? But at the same time, he doesn't get to demand to what extent. Your new cornertime and tone of voice (directions, not questions and thank yous) adjustments are good starts.
     
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    sounds familiar!
     
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    Print out this Recommended ejaculation Chart (my profile pic) and stick it on the fridge. :)
     
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    This is my same issue! This thread has helped me a lot!
     
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    Dear @BKwife
    Firstly I am so sorry that the avalanche of commentary/advice originates here from men rather than the KH's you initially asked, but you are generous in reading it all and replying!
    Secondly it is so utterly lovely to hear from a Lady who takes her man's ( 40 years together wow!) chastity SERIOUSLY.
    Thirdly I believe there are hundreds of men here who wish there SO's were serious like you and @Gigaman is a very lucky fella...

    I'm too novice to give advice and still trying to convince my good wife to take chastity seriously!...but thanks for your beautiful posts.
     
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    Like any business, KH must take its job seriously and responsibly.
    It’s not all about locking something up and leaving. Property that is not guarded quickly decays.
    The spell will be gone in a few days. A man is like a garden, you have to look at him every day, mow, arrange, plant, pluck, plow, admire the beautiful, criticize the bad sides.
    In my experience, constant communication is most important. There is always something to do, you always have to know what we are striving for, what we want, and how to achieve it. We must always make it clear to him the task and hint at a reward.
    Reward and motivation must be known. Another secret to success is to always have a positive approach, with a smile.
     
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    from my experience i can say things make more submissive my husband was:
    - been cutted off from sex
    - been caged
    - be remaind he do not enter in me, while others does
     
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    That’s a perfect analogy of the situation. I have to say that in the past i have been guilty of not checking in daily, whether it being playing with him, teasing and specifically training. Works both ways. If I’m not training daily and checking in with him, he cannot learn to serve me properly.
     
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