I know there have to be several threads on this, but I couldn't find anything specific to this question. I am curious what are your Rules of Engagement for sex with your keyholder? My wife and I have been back into chastity for a while now, I don't know, it may be permanent this time. Neither of us could remember why we stopped. Anyway, we are both enjoying the dynamic. She is much more comfortable with keeping me denied a release for longer periods of time. I hear No, or no cumming quite often. But then we are not anywhere near the level of most couples here. When we got back into me wearing a cage 24/7, I asked if she would consider a few requests. First: I would like to be let out of the cage once a week for a full erection. This should not be a problem as she likes sex and wants intercourse a few times a week. So far so good, but we have started discussing a strapon harness. She also likes to give me a T&D blowjob once or twice a week. Second: I would like a full orgasm once a month, no schedule, simply at her discretion. She agreed with that but quickly pointed out that she could give me an orgasm on the 1st of the month, and the next on the last day of the following month. I hadn't thought of that so I may be in for some 60 day denial periods. Third: For more than 20 years, I have been the dominant partner. She was my sub in our many BDSM scenarios. So I asked if she would allow me 2 days of year to have her in any way I desired. She laughed at that but agreed. She always did enjoy being securely bound, gagged, and used. So that is what we are currently doing. Keeping things simple and having fun. She knows she can change the rules as things evolve. She loves that she doesn't feel any pressure to have sex when I am caged. I never ask to be let out, I only ask if she would like an orgasm. She decides how. If she is not in the mood, she will just caress my balls a little and tell me to go to sleep. As a side note, she also really enjoys teasing me mercilessly in the cage when we are in bed watching a bit of TV. My squirming and moans just make her giggle.
please i think everbody difrent and that why. some men am let out to use their willy and some are not let out. the ones that not let out use other thingys for the Lady.
As long as he's not under Discipline or in chastity, any time husband wants it, all he has to do is ask. I've told him it doesn't matter how tired I am, what kind of a mood I'm in or whatever, if he wants it, all he has to do is ask. Of course, this sometimes leads to him getting put in chastity or under Discipline. He'll want it, I know he wants it, but, he can see I'm beat up, so he doesn't ask. He's always the gentleman. What happens, though, is he usually decides to take matters into his own hand. I forbid masturbation and pornography, unless it's for disciplinary purposes, so it's under my supervision. If h e disobeys, I discipline him. He'll try to plead he didn't want to bother me because he saw how beat up or whatever I was, but, if he's going to play the considerate gentleman, he's going to play it all the way. Part of being considerate is knowing what I think about pornography and masturbation and respecting that. If he's under Discipline or in chastity, he's not permitted to ask for it. On the other hand, this is all about Me. If I put him in chastity and I want it, the cage comes off and I get what I want. If I notify him on a Monday he's to report for Discipline on Friday, and I decide I want some on Wednesday, I'm getting what I want.
I agree, I think it’s down to each couples dynamic. I used to be in a situation very similar to what you described, but as our dynamic shifted, so did our rules. But it’s whatever works for you, and is sounds like you have got it working perfectly, thanks for sharing!
M makes the rules and I follow. Very occasionally I am allowed out of my cage and in her pussy. Almost always there will be delay spray and I absolutely must not cum. She hates the post orgasm drop so ensures this happens as rarely as possible! I’m happily along for whatever she wants
Mrs. fd and I re-write the rules of engagement periodically, sometimes more strict, sometimes less, sometimes to try new things out. One fun way to do it is she'll tease me quite a bit to get me in an advantageous (for her) head space and then have me write a "proposal" of sorts where the proposal had better have attractive terms. I get to push my own boundaries that way sometimes, if she sees something she likes. I get myself in a little trouble too from time to time by making too-ambitious promises that have to be kept for some period of time.