Hey lovely members of CM, Would you go to a gay bar / cruising place while locked? Usually these places require people to be wearing a certain dresscode or on being naked. Is it approriate? Not everyone is into kink, I probably would not go to a nude beach in chastity (even though I like the idea). What do people think?
I think it's context-dependent, and there's no rule of thumb that applies to all settings and venues. Just have to use your judgment about whether it would be appropriate to expose others to your....accoutrement, without specific advance consent. I also think that you must live in a very different part of the world than I do, if the gay bars with which you're familiar "usually require" nudity, or a dress code that would necessarily make a chastity device visible.
Depends on the club. I would go caged. Dress code or nude who cares. If the club is more of a leather club you would want to be caged and show the appropriate handkerchief of what you're into.
If the dress code requires pants, there shouldn't be any problem. If it requires nude, perhaps you can call or email and ask if a chastity device is ok. It might even be covered in the FAQ on their website.
If it is a club that embraces BSM, gay or straight, I find it hard to see how a chastity device would be out to place. Especially if your KH accompanies you with the key.
just what I was going to say! There are a few gay clubs where I live and they have set fetish nights where the dress code is fetish wear only, a chastity device would be appropriate attire.
Well, I wouldn't, because gay bars don't interest me. However, I think you could probably call the place ahead of time and ask. You don't have to tell them who you are or anything, so there's no reason the be embarrassed.
Go out and see the world. Go more than once so you can check it out and get to know what is OK. The best BDSM clubs are I credibly diverse. I’ve seen all kinds of gay, straight, bi, queer, trans, poly sex. I’ve gone caged, with my KH. There was an MFM couple playing out an obviously consensual “forced” bi scene. Wife topped husband for a while, and then invited over their companion to bring him to a climax. I’m not personally into MFM, but it was still hot to watch the Wife in control of whole thing.
Sometimes I have to wonder about how some of these places define "fetish" wear. There was a show where they had vendors and demos and other things. If you were dressed in "fetish" wear, you got half off the admission fee. Two of the doormen did not think we were in "fetish" wear. I had on a black all-in-one girdle, fishnets, knee high black boots and only a fur coat over it all (it was cool outside that day), I also had on a huge ladies' hat with netting from the 50s. Husband was wearing a satin "sissy dress", petticoats and heels. I, of course, responded just like Karen would and asked to speak to their manager. The supervisor actually came and decided we were actually in "fetish" wear. For some reason, the supervisor felt compelled to ask if I was husband's "Domme". Of course I answered "No, I'm his Disciplinarian". I'd think a chastity device would qualify as "fetish" wear, but you never know what some people are thinking.
I met my Mistress and Master in a Gay/Bi/TV/CD/singles/Couples Sex Club and I was dressed in an open crotch lace body, Silicon Breastplate, Girdle and black FF RHT Nylon Stockings and, of course, my chastity cage locked in place, This signals to others that you are passive only and is therefore acceptable as it informs the other participants your status of submissive. My Mistress approaxhed me and told me to perform oral sex on her Husband ( now my Master) in front of a audience of about twenty people. As an exhibitionist, I was down on my knees with his cock in my mouth without having to be told twice!
In all the "Intim clubs" in Denmark, the Golden Rule is not to judge others behavior whether you like it or not, this is only superceeded by the rule "wait to be invited before joining in, and No means No"
You are closed, so you can't actively practice sex but your butt is just available. So why should there be problems? I also always say is like a PA piercing only that it is larger and fulfills a different function. And, even if I am not gay or would go to a gay bar, should I take off my body jewelry when I enter the room and may have to be naked? I actually always have the cage on. In the MRI it is taken off or when I have to go to a doctor who needs "free" access to the parts.
I mean, I'm a straight dude but I'd hang out in a gay club wearing just a cage. Party's a party, right?
Well in fact gay bar and other gay place are open minded place, on my side I only goes to sauna and wearing a cage is a cal lto the other to tell them your are "passive" only. I see no much problem on this. I am sure it will be welcome, there are also gay people in cage.