My KH and I are NOT equals...

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  1. beta7
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    I made a list of ways we are not equals for my Alpha. We call these affirmations:

    You have great financial instincts. Checking with you when I want to make larger purchases makes perfect sense.

    You make the rules in the bedroom.

    You dictate what we eat. I always defer to your preferences: how spicy, which protein, what vegetable I serve with meal.


    Any projects we do together are prioritized by you. Also, you supervise, check my work and tell me if I'm done.


    I wait on you almost all of the time.


    If we haven't tried a particular food dish, you must approve it. It is my job to search for new pleasing recipes, but I mustn't just decide to cook them at my whim.


    You decide on my bedtime.


    I should treat you requests as demands.


    If you feel that I am wrong, I must apologize and promise to do better, even if I feel I am right.
     
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    I like your way of thinking! this type of thinking is a very good start to a FLR. Always remover she is always superior!
     
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    Are these affirmations one she created or you?
     
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    I was required to write these and recite them when told.
     
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    Would you like more?
     
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    I'll give you more anyway:

    You must approve of anything I order at the restaurant. If it is something expensive, I must acknowledge that it is your money that is treating me and thank you for that fact.


    I have to ask permission to have an alcoholic rink, and you must approve what type of drink.


    You would have to approve any job I might apply for.


    You don't tolerate back talk from me.


    If you want me naked, I take my clothes off.


    I beg you for various reasons.


    You are the doer.


    Only I have a safe word. You don't need one.


    I am scared of you.


    If I disappoint you, I feel anxious.


    When I must ask forgiveness, it's from my knees if you so choose.


    "I'm not in the mood" is not in my lexicon.


    You can take privileges away from me.


    If you are lecturing me about disobedience, I answer, "Yes, ma'am."


    You can use a different tone with me.


    You could tell me to drop everything and run out to get something. And you can tell me to make it quick.


    When you are telling me to do something, no joking on my part, repeat the instructions and of course, "yes ma'am".


    For time sensitive tasks, you can tell me to write a reminder. It might be that I set a reminder so I can remind you to make an important decision for us.


    I have to ask permission to get up from the table.


    I have to come up with new ideas to emphasize your dominance: me wearing a collar, "Alpha's" somewhere written on my body, kissing and licking your ass,


    You decide how, where, when and if I get to come.


    I surrender to you, daily.


    You can pound me harder in bed. You can take more than I can give to you. Simply put, you can dominate me in bed.


    You manage my affairs. I report to you on demand or if something is out of order.


    I must be humble to you.


    You can put me in chastity at anytime for any reason. Or no reason at all, just to show me who's Boss.


    I am required to have good manners.


    I am required to be cheerful, especially when I am doing a task for you.


    I am required to be thrifty.


    If there is something I want to do that is scheduled, I must ask you in advance for permission. For example, if there is a football game I want to watch, I have a much better chance of you granting me permission if I ask early. Otherwise, you might say no because I knew the event schedule and didn't ask soon enough.


    Breakfast in bed is my job.


    You don't have to explain yourself but sometimes you do for the teaching moment.


    I must explain myself without being asked.


    I must quickly obey your orders or be punished accordingly.




    You’ve started to employ “time outs” for me if things get tense.


    You have accepted my submission and taken me as yours.


    You have beaten me is more ways than one. For me, this result is stress relief, this is letting go, this is you taking the reigns.


    You determine how fast, how hard and how long you’ll fuck me.


    All the details of our sex life are up to you and you decide when we are done for the day.
     
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    That's very extreme, "I'm scared of you" WTF? Probably better for you to avoid men altogether.
     
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    This sounds like a level 4 FLR or extreme where the female lead takes all control of financial, sexual, and life decisions of the male. The male is a slave for lack of a better term and can seem to be borderline if not outright abusive to onlookers but consent is a big deal with this. If he has agreed and consented to this arrangement ahead of time and continued consent is given and it’s what they both want then that’s most likely what you’re looking at an example of.
     
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    "Scared" is all in good nature because it's just that I get a little nervous around her when I have done something wrong.

    My female Alpha doesn't treat me like a slave because she will do sweet things for me and listens to my opinions (to a point).

    It's just that I must serve her - like always cooking breakfast and clearing her plate afterwards. Sometimes she will just get up from the table and leave her dirty plate there for me to take care of . She is the breadwinner so it's just a division of jobs that need to be done.

    A slave is forced to do things, I'm not. I enjoy it. It makes me hot.
     
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    Well if you are happy and fulfilled then fair play to you. I expect the right Lady could have me scurrying around after her too. I'm just naturally a cautious type is all. Be happy
     
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    Thank you. We are happy with our complete role-reversal relationship. My Alpha loves to hear me say that "she wears the pants in the family". She knows it reinforces her as HoH.
     
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    please @beta7 dose She ever give you a cuddle.
     
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    She likes to cuddle a lot. Especially, after a she punishes me. Sometimes we cuddle and she has me repeat affirmations to her using language that includes HoH, she wears the pants, who's the boss of me, etc.
    Like I have mentioned before, my Alpha Wife, loves sex. She will even bully me in bed, always getting her orgasm always first while I can hope for some relief. She is so attractive to me because of her dominance and self-assured approach to sex. We always cuddle after sex whether I cum or not.
    I am in a true FLR and loving it.
     
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    i am always irked when the abuse police show up and use their standards to judge another's relationship. what is more annoying is when the supposedly abused person feels compelled to justify their relationship to suit the abuse police. if your happy do not allow other's opinions to effect your chosen lifestyle.
     
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    I couldn't agree more. Well said.
     
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