How do I get my wife to commit more

Yeah its more and more normal when the Lady no longer bothers to think about it...and you just keep up the good services for her!

 

It takes time. Be open and honest, when she does something that you like, tell her how much you liked it. Ask her what she likes about it, certain aspects, etc., and be sure to make her feel good in those situations. For example, she loves that you help out a little more, so do an extra load of dishes or laundry when she isn't expecting.
If she likes pampering, give her a random foot rub and don't even mention chastity. Later or even the next day, tell her how much you enjoyed giving her the foot rub and that lately, since you've been denied, you have an incredible urge to make her feel good.
Tie the positives for her back to your game, help her connect those dots, but don't overpower her with chastity talk. Women typically don't want to talk about sex as much as men.
Gently reinforce that is a game and it should be fun! Make up a game where she gets crazy benefits, win or lose.

 

"How do I get my wife to commit more?"

Simple. She doesn't. You do.

You have to commit to making her life better, in the bedroom and out of it.
Do that and you'll both get the benefit from chastity.

 

Good advice.

The thankfulness definitely has helped us. I am very consistent to always thank my wife (or otherwise explicitly show her appreciation) for allowing me to do something for her, or when she asks (tells) me to do something. Sometimes I'll thank her in a note that I write later, so she knows how much I appreciate my time spoiling her. And it's not faked; I love getting to spoil her.

 

My wife became an absolute strict keyholder after I had cum the first time through her fingers in my ass. Since I could otherwise, as actually every man, only come once and then first time break was announced, it was fascinating for her to see that it went on after the cum.

Since we had previously used the chastity cage primarily for teasing games or to make a swingers club visit more interesting, she already knew that the horniness builds up here.

But the moment of the cum was for her the moment where she tells me again and again that she decided to make it permanent.

This is now so for over 2 years and you have not regretted it, as do I!

Everything else that belongs to it, you both learn on your way!

Because what she and you enjoy does not necessarily have to please others.

 

How does your Wife get you to commit to making it more about her? Are you addressing, Her fantasies, her desires, her pleasures? Do you know what those are?

 

That sounds like a positive set of changes! Keep it up!

 

All good stuff. But, are you telling me that if asked, your wife would answer, “…my top sexual fantasy is to have my husband in chastity doing more housework and giving me more orgasms”?

 

Leave her notes with rules about her household. Discuss them with her and mention that you are trying self-improvement. Start small and give her the ability to scrutinize the chores/home improvement you do. Try to extend that to consequences she might be comfortable enforcing:

I.e. Don't accept invitations from your'friends unti you check with her, my Alpha.

Rules can easily develop into asking permission, as well.