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    #1 <Jack>+<Costy>, Aug 13, 2021
    Some days ago was my birthday and my Wife gave me a gift. It was a little box. I opened it and I was surprised: I find inside a chastity cage. She was very happy. She said me that would try it on me in the next days and She would have kept it in a place unknown to me. I gave back Her the box and I remained without gift. I was confused and a little frustrated. We didn't talk about what happened.

    Three days ago my Wife gave me the cage and ordered me put it on. That wasn't the first time for me, I had already had the chance to experiment how to wear it. I did and after I went in front of Her. She looked in my eyes and slowly closed the padlock. My heart was accelerate and the sound of padlock made me feel scared. She kissed me sweetly, taken both keys and went to work. I told Her I was scared but She reassured me. "If you need", said, "you can call Me and I'll solve the problem".
    I spent my time on the coach, confused and excited. In the middle of the afternoon She called me to reassure Herself that everything was going well. I felt in his control for the first time. My mind did not stop thinking about the situation and at the end of the evening I began to feel pain. I probably had the wrong ring size as I was having large, I had painful erections. (What should I do with the ring? Too small is still very painful. The cage is a CB6000.) I called Her and She told me to work. She ordered me to clean our bathroom. I often refused and found excuses but this time I ran without objecting. Probably She have find how control me. A news for me. Working for Her/us I was able to control my mind and my erection but on Her return, after She put off it from me, I felt pain in the pubis for several hours. As soon as She took off I knelt down and kissed Her feet (because heat She didn't wear boots with heels as usually in winter). I thanked Her for what She had made me feel, including pain. We have not talked about it anymore but I am waiting for the situation to repeat itself soon.

    I'm scared now. I didn't know how chastity cage is powerful on me and i don't like to lose freedom. I am not so submissive as I always thought. However, I don't know how to refuse Her order and I know I won't be able to do it in the future. I need to talk to Her about it now but I wouldn't want to ruin Her happiness. I'll wear it one more time and then decide what to do.
     
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    #2 true42, Aug 13, 2021
    I like the way that you're still telling yourself that it's your decision. :love:
     
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    #3 <Jack>+<Costy>, Aug 13, 2021
    I think so......:(:(
     
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    #4 bondinchas, Aug 13, 2021
    Why are you scared of someone who you love and who loves you?
    She won't hurt you, will she?

    Go with the flow, it's an adventure.
     
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    #5 Isopropylforyou, Aug 13, 2021
    What really scares you?

    What are you really afraid of?
     
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    #6 <Jack>+<Costy>, Aug 13, 2021
    I am afraid of losing my freedom. I don't know if what I have often desired, his control over me, I am capable of enduring it. Not being able to oppose, as it has happened to me, worries me, I'm afraid of losing my identity. Maybe I should trust Her and knowing that what She does is the best for both of us. I have known for some time that I am not as submissive as I thought and accepting this situation can be difficult at first. There is something that torments me that does not make me stay calm in this situation. In another post I will talk about it.
     
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    #7 Xileh, Aug 14, 2021
    I think you have answered your question as best it can be answered.

    What if you both agreed to a one month trial? At the end of the month, both of you can have a glass of wine, and talk about the experience. Either of you may decide to stop, or keep going. Would that help you to relax?
     
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    #8 <Jack>+<Costy>, Aug 14, 2021
    We will try so. I will take it with more serenity.
     
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    #9 Isopropylforyou, Aug 14, 2021
    Fear of the unknown is normal.

    If you are unsure if this is for you then try it for 2 weeks.

    After the 2 weeks, sit down and thoroughly discuss it between the two of you.

    See what worked, what did not, what each of you like and disliked about the experience.

    Chastity is what the two of you decide it is. It is not a one size fits all type of thing.

    Iso.
     
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    #10 bondinchas, Aug 14, 2021
    It's consensual. You can choose to allow her to dominate you, but it's still consensual, you can always withdraw that consent. If you both understand that then there is nothing to fear.
     
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    #11 WhiteKnight, Aug 17, 2021
    CB6000 comes with various size rings doesn't it ? Take it slowly: use one of the larger rings to start with so you can always switch down if you need to. It does take a while for your body to get used to wearing any device. There will be chafing - at least initially - so make sure you use something like Vaseline. Get your Wife / KH to inspect regularly and if you get red or sort stop wearing it for a while.
    I would also advise against trying to wear it through the night - at least initially - and many people do this. Theoretically if you're cuddled up next to your wife you shouldn't be getting up to any unauthorised, solo, fun.
    But above all, both of you have fun ! Chastity is easily the most fun you can have without actually having sex. Enjoy.
     
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    #12 Billy J, Aug 17, 2021
    Good luck on your adventure. Good to read that ground rules and expectations have been discussed.
     
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    #13 bondinchas, Aug 17, 2021
    Many might dispute that!
    We certainly have just as much, if not more sex with chastity.
    It's just different sorts of sex, anything that doesn't end with a male orgasm.
     
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    #14 true42, Aug 17, 2021
    I am hoping to be able to eventually say the same ...
     
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    #15 WhiteKnight, Aug 18, 2021
    Agreed. I probably should have said: 'Chastity is easily the most fun you can have without actually having PIV sex.'
     
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    #16 DonnaSue, Aug 18, 2021
    Confused here. In your post, you said that you were afraid of HIS control and later that "I should trust HER" Is your dominant a man or a woman?
     
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    #17 bondinchas, Aug 19, 2021
    There are many signs in the text that the poster is not a native English speaker.
    Gender is one of those places that often gets confused with language translation, whether by man or machine.
     
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    #18 bondinchas, Aug 19, 2021
    Profile says "Lyon", I don't know of any other than the one in France.
     
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