Hello All, I'm just an ordinary married guy who just decided to bring up the idea of chastity and FLR to his vanilla wife. I already own a lot of cages, mostly Chinese steel cages that are more for experimentation and kinky play than for long term wear. But few of these and my ht-v3 and v4 cages seem to he suitable for longer wear, as far as I experimented in self chastity, one week maximum so far... So I wrote a personal secret blog for my wife to let her know about my thoughts, and at the same time here I am, registered to this community where I hope to find some support and help. My motivation might be familiar to some of you, our relationship is great, but our sex life went down to near zero, and my wife - a rather firm lady who likes to take leadership - seems not to have any more interest in attaching to me emotionally and sexually... Well, in her way ash is very much connected to me and lives our common life just as I do, but... So I came to the recognition that something must change, my attitude as well as our sexual relationship. I don't know what she thinks of chastity and if FLR would make her active in our sexual life again or not, but time to find out. I love her and I am ready to give full control, hoping they she has the will to use that!
Welcome! There is a saying that kicks around here a lot that that is to be carful for what you wish for. I’d also add another and that’s something along the lines of not putting a vegan in charge of the BBQ (no disrespect to vegans). Good luck, keep communicating and let us know how it goes!
I have high hopes on my wife. She pegs me, supports my bisexual adventures, she is really open in sexual fetishes, but we cannot connect really well our sexual lives these days. Giving her all control might change this, and this is what I also want, but it is a hard road to get her into the idea.