Male Post-Ejaculatory Moodiness Explained

Awesome post, I am glad that there is a scientific explanation for this.. While I love a good orgasm, I have always had a bit of a depression afterwards.

I always thought it was something analagous to training for a big match/game/race. You work hard every day, you build and build an build, and no matter what happens in the game, at the end it is over, and at least until you start working at it again a little bit of what makes you get up in the morning is missing from your life.

 

but i feel happy... what's wrong with me?

Very interersting, thanks for the post. i am glad that this helps you know what goes on and that there is no 'fault' on anyones part, personally, i don't get depressed/moody in a negative internal way, maybe i push my Mistress' rules and boundaries but that's because i feel absolutely great and energised for ages afterwards, sometimes days, and just so bouncy that i sometimes forget my place.... and then back to 'normal', whatever that is! i guess my levels are more in balance all the time and not as peaky as the diagram explains? Who knows eh? but nonetheless a very intreresting post, once again thanks.



i fully appreciate that everyone is different and on the standard deviation curve most people will fall in the middle, hence some form of what is 'normal' is explained... i guess i fall at the extreme end of this particular curve.

 

i did enjoy them. i also enjoy your other posts, they are clearly formed in an articulate and capable brain.... hey..... a better than 'normal' brain i would suggest! a :ten-on-ten:brain.

i am hugely fortunate to be owned by a Woman with an IQ of 150 and it sounds like your man is equally blessed with an intelligent and 'thinking' Woman. i think we are lucky guys.

i remember having a conversation with one of my teachers many years ago about normal.... She has a great line.... i will never forget it...

'Normal is what everyone else is... and you're not...' She was a great teacher (genetics, lots of normal there then!), This has some great and endless possibilities for 'interpretation'. a simple example......

So... If i was in a room of females... i would not be normal...?? i am sure You can think of many more!

 

Gender differences?

Hi Looking Glass Girl,
Sorry, I just found this thread, thanks for posting! I also find this interesting. I have had some direct experience where medications I've taken have altered my mood and I don't "want" to act a certain way but the meds predisposed that of me. Sounds like that has some similarities with post orgasmic response, based upon this site. there is certainly a wealth of information on this site, and I probably only scratched the surface, but I didn't see any discussion on gender specific differences. I think this would be interesting, especially to CM members.

Bear in mind that orgasm denial (for me, the hubby) is a kink that my wife and I enjoy.
In my own experience, I have been an outright a** after I have climaxed. Just a complete jerk. My wife has given me a really super intimate experience and I screw it up big time. I am cognizant that this can happen, so I do my best to avoid it. When I do climax, I usually want to cuddle afterwards. I suppose I may have conditioned myself to deal with the brain chemstry proposed on this site.

My wife has never done anything like that. After her first orgasm, she definitely seems sedated but not moody at all. For example, if we discuss doing some kinky play that involves a lot of attention on her part (prostate play for example) she is FAR less likely to do that after she has had an orgasm. I am not sure if that has to do with the brain chemistry discussed on that site, or if it is a function that when we do play, we are usually very very tired (we have kids...). So, it's clear that if we are to have some kink in our play time, she has to do that before her climax. Otherwise, a large proportion of the time, she just doesn't have the energy. But I would not say she is moody per se, she is just satieted and lacks the motivation or energy to continue. She will allow a second orgasm and massages for her

In any event, I didn't see gender differences discsussed. Perhaps I missed it.

Some parts that resonated with me included the pleasure that I receive from non-orgasmic sexual play. There is no doubt that having an erection is in itself pleasurable. I *enjoy* the act of penetration or manual stimulation alone, even if it does not lead to orgasm. My wife is not that way. She is very frustrated if something isn't leading to a climax. I wrote a thread about this recently, my wifes focus on orgasms. So denial for her doesn't seem to work for us. Indeed, I get a lot of pleasure just in watching her climax, and I wouldn't want to deny the vicarous enjoyment of myself. I am interested in how long I could go with sexual play without orgasm. When I am denied and then allowed release, I come very quickly. I wonder if I could recondition myself to last longer if I was denied over a longer period of time... I think I read a few couples discussing that the male hasn't ejaculated for half a year or so!

Anyways, thanks for posting... very thought provoking!