Wedding night.

It's a matter for the dynamic of each couple.

 

This is an interesting thing to ponder CZ. I think my wife would have acted like yours. If she knew in the very early days the benefits of chastity, she may not have unlocked me at all.

In fact, you remind me of a question I have: Do you think there's a value in a wife locking up her husband from day #1 and NEVER allowing him intercourse?

 

Sounds like it's time for your second honeymoon!

My Lovely Wife & KeyHolder and I will be celebrating our 30th Anniversary in about 3 months. I know that She has NO PLANS to let me out of my cage during our planned anniversary "get away" and I'm 100% SURE that also means NO ORGASM for me as well.

Projecting back 30 years, I'm pretty sure Her thoughts would be the same. On several occasions, She has said something to the effect of: "...if only we had started this FLR/Chastity enforcement decades ago!!!"

~subrick

 

I think that the before/after comparison (ie., free range/locked) might be something most partners need to experience in order to perceive the benefits .

 

Fair do's Tom. I would agree in most cases.

I was thinking--but wrote poorly--that perhaps the woman had previous intercourse experience and knew very well the ramifications of never allowing her new husband to have intercourse.

 

This would have to be one of those hypothetical situations in which one needs to employ a willing suspension of disbelief. It would be an unusual circumstance in which a couple would knowingly not want to have at least some knowledge / experience of intercourse with each other.

Possibly en secondes noces, if she has either no desire for intercourse, but except for a D/s reason, I can't imagine it happening in real life.

Case in point: Mrs Edge and I are still well into the idea that my denial is going to be permanent. However one of the things that makes it so hot for the both of us is that we actually did have a good sex life previous to this. That seems paradoxical, but she loves the control that she now has, and that augments and enhances her enjoyment. And naturally, having experienced her body first hand makes her denial and my use of the Vixskin all the more deliciously frustrating. I doubt we would be enjoying it this much had we done it from Day One.

 

That sounds very nice! I bet you got a moment of "gulp" when she said that!

 

I agree with your point. If we elect to stay grounded in reality, your scenario is much more likely.

It's so easy to let fantasy be justified by twisted logic.

 

If I had been immersed in chastity before marriage, i'd think a long buildup prior and through wedding ceremony would be the way to set the stage. Then a few select releases during honeymoon to sort of set the table for a return to an extended lockup in first months of marriage would be my preference. Sort of give a reference point for why i need to submit, obey, and follow my new wife.

 

E

 

Upon reflection I think there is is enough dedicated juice and focus in a married relationship until after the children are born. A man must have his needs met and often at this stage, in the absence of a totally sexually committed wife, will resort to masturbation as his go to solution. This is the time for permanent locking in my view. It stops the masturbation, redirects the attention to the relationship, ensures the man is at his wife's disposal as she returns to full sexual vigour. In addition, given the inducement of occasional reward, it will focus the man on domestic and childrearing responsibilities, rather than trying to escape from young children and homebound chores. These become a pleasure. Husband and wife become true partners again, wife gets endless sexual attention and satisfaction, and the man lives in domestic bliss and permanently at the peak of sexual anticipation and excitement. Every movement of his body reminds him of his cage, and every swelling of his trapped member reminds him of his commitment to his goddess wife.

 

I was wearing a cage when we got married and I was wondering what was going to happen on our wedding night . It turned out that she still believes that the marriage is not official until you have made love on your wedding night . Hell of a woman my Goddess .

 

We were so tired after the wedding and reception. We had sex, but honestly just because we’d heard that many couples are too tired to do it and so we wanted to not be part of that statistic. A better metric/question is probably would you get let out during the honeymoon. If I had to guess, I’d say yes, I would probably get let out but not allowed to cum most of the time.

 

I'll bet your experience is much more common than people realize. It was true for us. By the time we got to bed on our wedding night it was 3:00am and both exhausted. We went right to sleep. Days later, however, we enjoyed a terrific honeymoon filled with lots of sex.

 

It depends completely on the situation. If you sex life revolves around chastity, then sure, why not? But what if you're trying to get pregnant? In that case, maybe unlock until the pregnancy test turns positive, then go back in the cage, since she has no more use for her cock at that point. And then the cage stays on until she's ready for another baby. Add some rewards-the more quickly she becomes pregnant, the more unlock privileges you will be allowed. There are all kinds of fun games.

 

Well not being of any use to my wife ( if you look at my pictures you will see why ) . I was allowed sex with her that night. But came to fast, and couldn't stay inside of her, kept popping out when she was thrusting. So I made a mess. I had to finish her orally. And preformed Orla on her the entire honeymoon.

 

What I understood yesterday, I understand differently today.

If we had the benefit of hindsight from the beginning, perhaps there's much we'd do differently.

Perhaps not.

 

Not a hypothetical question here. Got married in February and YES we had sex on our wedding night! Except, um, I was the receiver of her love. In all fairness she did unlock me and give me to the count of 5 first...

 

Completely depends on the dynamic. For myself and Mrs Sen, I'd say I would still be unlocked. She likes my penis and likes PIV. That I am locked up in between PIV sessions doesn't change that fact.

As much fun as simulating PIV is with a strap on, or performing other sex acts, for our relationship and dynamic, there remains the need for that physical connection.

Now, how to incorporate a chastity commitment into the vows.......

 

Hah, yes, same here. We had a cocktail and hors dourve reception, and people were enjoying it so much that they took up a collection to pay the dj and waitstaff to keep going. We didn't get home until the sun was coming up. Fortunately, we didn't leave for the honeymoon until the next day and that was when we finally got to sanctify our matrimony.

 

I was married wearing my belt. After all the fun of the day, we finally got to our room she unlocked me. I felt like she was unwrapping a gift or something. She had me lay there, teasing me about not unlocking me and then slowly did and pulled my cage off. It was magic for sure!

We had been into male chastity and our FLR a few years before our wedding. The FLR went to WLM that day!! LOL

 

Living the dream Buddy! Nice!

 

of course she won't......it's only been 30 years!