Over the weekend me and my wife had a talk and chastity was discussed. After 13 years of using it she still didnt fully understand but thats down to me being unable to explain it properly. I found some literature on line that explains it better. Behaviours Feelings How it changes mindset She said they might as well of put our names on the article as it described us to a T. I've mentioned key holding in the past. She took the keys, threw them in her draw and let me be. I was locked and she didn't get pestered for sex. I mentioned it again and this time she wanted to know more. We spoke and read more articles. I then got a shock when she said she wanted to hold the keys and become a proper key holder. I had dreamed of this for years and now it was going to become a reality. She read more and more. Reading about edging, ruined orgasms, teasing, locking me away for indefinite periods at a time. We talked about everything. My love for bondage and women's lingerie. I even showed her my photos on here, she liked them. This is now a new chapter of our lives together that we are both looking forward to. I'm nervous for this new adventure but now I have my soul mate doing this with me, we can guide each other.
Wow! What a progression! Happy for you. If you don't mind, could you share some of this reading that got through to her? I've found that a lot of "keyholder's 101" stuff is actually just porn and the last thing I'd wanna show my lady haha.
So the journey has well and truly begun. While at work yesterday she started messaging me saying how she was feeling horny and wanted to do stuff when I got home. Happy days I thought. One last release before she takes the keys. So I got home from work and we went to bed. Told to lay down naked where she proceeded to edge me a couple of times then lock the cage on. So frustrating but amazing at the same time. here are a few links to some.of the bits that helped her understand more http://www.brassiered.com/tamingthecagedbeast/introduction.html https://cuttothechaste.net/your-husband-wants-chastity/
So we are almost 4 weeks into this new chapter of ours now and my wife has really taken to being a key holder well. Since my last post I have been allowed 1 ruined orgasm only while she has had many. She teases me by rubbing or touching my cage and loves my reaction to it. She has agreed completely that this way of life works for us and will be here to stay and that she enjoys the power that she has now. I'm no longer looking to porn for a release and my moods and mindset have completely changed which she has commented on. Being locked 24/7 is now going to be the normal for me. I currently have no release date and even my wife has said next time we play don't expect to come out. We both really couldn't be happier.
Best of luck to the 2 of you. As you get deeper into your journey things will evolve and you will find what works and what does not. This will be a positive and allow you to spend more time in the new space you have created. New tools will come forward, my wife hated porn but now uses it as a tool on me and this leads her to pleasure and her frustration. BDSM has become less frequent and more intense when we use it. Our hot tub has become our refuse and safe zone, but also one where teasing and comfort are our bond. You have started that journey and will understand better each day.