Hello, I am a 38 year old male, in London, UK. I am pleased to find this community as it seems to have lots of real life examples and advice. I have recently (last few weeks) started chastity with my long term female partner. Previously we had tried (and I had failed) at the honour system and devotional sex. But this was a useful prelude as it introduced ideas such as tease and denial, not cumming every time, putting the lady first etc. so having a cage and her having the key is a big step, but less of a plunge. Currently experimenting with different cages to get the most comfortable and most secure (but it seems that none are 100% secure). Using steel Chinese versions. The plastic ones where a nightmare with chafing for me. My partner has taken to it well - better than I thought. I think that she enjoys the power and having me extra motivated to please her, by being more tactile, romantic etc.
Welcome to CM, I'm sure you'll both learn a lot here. Almost all of us have failed at the honour system and found we need to relinquish control in order to be able to become the more romantic and deferential partner we want to be and that our women want us to be.
Hello Jst180 . I'm in lock 24 /7 my wife is the keyholder . She uses me for oral sex when her need arises. She will unlock me andet me pleasure myself under her supervision every few weeks or so . I'm in a cb6000s, it is comfortable enough for me. Every day I wash through the holes in the sides and end and when dry add a few drops of baby oil . It works well for me . When she lets me out to pleasure myself after I'm done I wash thoroughly, and scrb the inside of the device with a toothbrush with soP and disinfectant.