I am proud to have abstained from ejaculation for 16 days, all without a cage, just by my own will. We had PIV several times but I told her, I wouldn't need to shoot my load. My wife is still in the process of understanding why I don't want to cum but she is already appreciating the changes in my behavior taking place. I am 57 years old but still horny every day.
Sounds like it is working for you. I often go without a cage, for various reasons, but staying chaste can be done that way. If you're getting buy in from your wife, then it looks like you'll experience chastity play as much as you wish.
My mistress has left me unlocked for the last 10 days. It’s been hard but I’ve been good. I had a little blister thing on my hip around where my belt sits but it’s healed up now. I’m not sure what her plan is but she doesn’t want me to lock up until she says so. I like chastity with my belt so much more but I am doing as she wishes.
It is a cage. It's stronger than metal if you let it be. Trust me. Look, for most people doing this, the "trick" is knowing they're controlled. Whether it's by a metal cage. Or just a word.
I guess that I was that way. One day I promised her I wouldn't do that, and if I did, I promised to tell her. I'm more scared of having to tell her, I guess So far, so good.
Me too, no way I could make even three days without playing with my erection. I'm a masturbator, I know I need to stay locked and erection-free.
Amazing self control! No way I could do that, Just this week I was told I’m not allowed to touch my penis when the cage comes off. I never realized just how much it was habit to play with it a bit until that privilege was revoked.
Actually I do play with my penis - but I don't cum. So it's kind of a long-term tease & denial. Yesterday I was very close to shoot my load but I stopped and today I am 22 days cum-free
I think a device helps, just like a collar or cuffs to remind one of their position but in the end it is all about consensually agreeing to give up their power and rights. I don't think it is that unusual to practice chastity without device as long as one is willing to still let the Wife/Owner/KH decide when and how an orgasm occurs. I do love the symbolism though and the embarrassing yet appropriate feeling of my genetalia being locked up. Bonus: usually abstinence yields higher loads of cum which is extra fun for sluts like me who have to eat their load