My wife and I have talked about her giving me a list of preferred fantasies. She says preferred because she knows the limits of her control in this area, but is a little interested in the idea of an encouraged list if you will. Naturally, they would be things she would prefer I get excited about, ignoring things she is less fond of me thinking about. Does anyone here live in such a dynamic?
No, I have given my wife a list of the fantasies I think she might eventually accept. I have not told her everything that pops into my head. I have asked her for a list but she "doesn't have any"
Having input from your wife sounds great. It is more communication which should strengthen your relationship. It also seems a but rare, as it is normally the guy who supplies his list. A very positive sign, it seems. Good luck and enjoy.
Watch out for the trap. She wants me to go first, I get embarassed, open my mind of fantiasies, then when her turn, she says she doesn't have any. I spilled mine, and got nothing in return. Well, plenty in return in other ways, but you get what I mean.
I have been down that road so many times and get from " no fantasies" to " oh honey you are my fantasy" or "it's all you baby" .... I think women have been so programed she has really started to enjoy the FLR and I am over 70 days locked ... So setting is there
Over the 30 years of marriage, we have discussed many fantasies we both held. We have acted on many, swinging, threesums, FF bi sex with me watching, watching each other with a partner, bdsm, and chastity. She will act out many except for one, that is her and another guy while I am caged and tied to a chair. This she will do with another girl, but not with a guy.
I heard about a site that you could each fill in a questionnaire about your fantasies, what you would be willing to try for them, and what you really wanted. Then after you both submitted you would see the answers that match up. To help prevent any shame etc from going into something they are grossed out by. Does anyone know of a website like that?
My wife loves making up fantasies she is very good at it when she finds a subject she likes she works it to the point of overload its like being brainwashed
There are several Apps and websites for this, here is one: https://www.weshouldtryit.com/ Apps like Spicer are good, they have chat functions to discuss the fantasy or just a general chat. There is another one called Desire as well that has ideas and chat.
She has things like she would prefer I fantasize about: cunnilingus, her cuckolding me with a woman, pegging, me massaging her, thinking of her naked Things she would prefer I limit thinking about: blowjobs, any sex involving me thrusting, threesome sex It is just a start...we'll see how it goes.
If she’s creative, she can take your fantasies and use them to manipulate you in ways that fulfill her fantasies, whether she’s communicated them to you or not.
I have dreams and fantasies all the time and could write a book LOL, my wife on the other hand and says she never has sexy dreams or fantasies...but yet she's cuckolded me several times, so is she not telling the truth ?
My wife knows my fantasies, and she uses them to her advantage. There are a lot of things she refuses to do, but there are also a lot of things she is willing to do....if she feels I deserve them. I could list all my fantasies that she will and will not fulfill, but this would be a long post! One of the most incredible things she has ever done for me was when she literally made my dreams come true. I ejaculated in my sleep one night dreaming about her sitting behind me on the bed, with her legs wrapped around my body, immobilizing my arms. Then with one arm, she had me around the neck, choking me. With the other arm, she was using a massager on my penis. I was completely helpless. She edged me numerous times with the massager while I struggled. She then finished it with a ruined orgasm. That is the point where I ejaculated in my sleep. I told my wife about the dream I had, and she made it a reality!
The wife and I did this questionnaire blimey was I surprised at what she said yes to do to her partner things I didn’t think she would say yes to. Looking forward to the future
Madam and I have always shared our fantasy’s with each other and she has made most of mine a reality, as I have hers, but as others have mentioned once shared they do make very useful bargaining chips!
After doing the quiz a few days ago. Today I have had to go out and get hold up stockings and some lace knickers for the weekend. High heels are apparently next on the list or possibly a hood.
My wife and me have a homemade card game in which we have written ideas and sometimes we draw a card and practice whatever is there... There are different categories, like positions, items to use, activities to perform, etc... She loves using the game as a way to reward me for some behaviours... For example, she will ask me to run some errands for her and I get to draw a card as a reward. The other day I got a nice spanking with a wooden spoon as a reward... Tricky game
I tried Spicer by myself to see what it was like. Basic questions are ok but I don’t want to pay for all the other question packs.