Punishment proposal for wife

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    Real chastity couple here and wanted to run this list of punishment ideas by a few like minded people. I haven’t seen a whole lot I like online. We have kids in the house and can’t do most of what’s usually suggested. I guess these are passive punishments! Please comment if you’d add or change anything! My wife likes the ideas so far especially #4!


    I think punishment when/ if I’m bad could be :

    1)No touching or playing with you for a set amount of time and time gets added for repeat offenses

    2)no orgasm for me with you for a set amount of time and time gets added for repeat offenses

    3)”locked and forgotten” for a set amount of time and time gets added for repeat offenses

    4)Having to get you the toys you want ready, leave the bedroom while you get off and cleaning up the toys for you after your done.

    5)No Reddit or porn of any kind(phone content restrictions) for a set amount of time and time gets added for repeat offenses.


    Or a combination of the five until I’ve earned back privileges
     
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    I like #4 too, but she can also blindfold you and tie you to a chair in the room, so you can just hear her pleasuring herself, but cannot see it. that is a form of torture in itself.

    We had kids in our house too, but you just work around them. I have a huge foot fetish too so I would rub her feet in the living room, the kids thought nothing of it.
     
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    Definitely some harsh punishments.
     
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    These are all sexual, does she use any domestic punishments?

    I like to add painful twists to any punishments. Clean the bathroom while wearing clover clamps on your nipples. Clean the oven whilst wearing a remote controlled e-stim butt plug.

    Gets jobs done around the house and causes pain. Win win.
     
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    Lock and forget is the only punishment I see on that list, the others are play. For a greater effect, only she knows the duration, and any mention you make of sex or chastity increases it.

    For a short/sharp punishment, cold showers are very effective, if you are in good enough health to bear the thermal shock.

    Standing arm's length from the wall, leaning forward as straight as possible to trap a small object against the wall with your forehead or nose gets old very quickly.

    Search "stress positions." There is literally no need for any props whatsoever to induce suffering in a human body.
     
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    What is fun and what is punishment varies from couple to couple. Sometimes, just Her ignoring me or giving me the silent treatment can be a terrible punishment. She also has me wear my old male boxer shorts instead of my lingerie, which makes me appreciate Her and my femininity more.
     
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    Ahhh i cant agree more! Those kind of punishments are the best!
     
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    Personally, I can't do the clover clamps while doing chores thing. The pain is too great and I end up doing the chores badly. I know that having to redo them while still clamped is the answer, but I'm not sure that you can expect a job done correctly while in pain. Just my opinion.
     
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    Then don’t misbehave in the first place.

    Yes the chore will be done until it’s done right.

    Repeatedly.

    It’s a punishment not funishment.

    And then you’ll appreciate doing that chore a lot more next time when you do it without the clamps, after you’ve learned to behave and follow the rules in the first place.
     
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    Something to be said about proper guidance when learning to serve. Make sure sub meets your needs before theirs. sort of the same with punishments. Her choice of what to use, when and why. Sub should accept and be thankful.
     
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    Good god your man is lucky!!!!
     
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    I think she would see this as a reward I would be loving it!
     
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    No we haven’t yet added any. Not sure she would be into pain punishments.
     
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    I like these I’ll look more into them. While the list is made by me they are all things I believe I wouldn’t like. Especially if the default duration would be a month or more. Especially #5, I have played around with the “child lock” on my phone and it takes away apps that are rated by age and blocks websites including this one! And uses a separate passcode that only she would have! That would be torture to be locked and not view anything sexual or read about chastity!
     
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    You are absolutely right, I had overlooked #5. A revocation of privilege can definitely be an effective punishment. Also look into non-sexual "groundings." Loss of a favorite TV show, food, or any comfort/leisure activity can be highly instructional.
     
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    i raised several kids, and saw a familiar pattern in the creative methods that kids ask for things. At first, they're honest. Dad, would you buy me this? Later, they develop rudimentary guile. Dad, you could buy me this. Then, Dad, you could buy this for me. Then, Dad, I could get this for you. This actually means, of course, that I could help finance the purchase of what the child really wants, with the pretense of giving it to me, though we both know it's for him/her. Then, at it's highest form, Dad, we could buy this for Sally. Except we both know that Timmy isn't going to be giving the toy car to Sally, and Sally doesn't want the toy car, but that Timmy will selflessly retain the toy car to make sure it doesn't go to waste, when Sally rejects the gift. And on it goes.

    So, here we have a similar mentality. Honey, you could punish me. I know I asked you to lock my dick up and treat me sexually under the transparent, but unbelievable guise that some how I'm doing this as a favor to you. You could punish me with more of what I asked you to do.

    Honey, you could punish em with something non-sexual, Real punishment, something I'd hate. yeah, I could do chores, naked. Oh, wait, that's sexual. I could do chores while wearing nipple clamps. Yeah, gee, that's sexual too. In fact, it's just giving me what I want. Okay, not really punishment, but we both know I'm not actualy asking to be punished. I just want sexual stimulation and am trying to be sneaky. We both know that, right?

    Of, if you're serious about actual punishment and don't want it to be seen as using the see-thrugh creativity of a four year old, you could actually do whatever she decides, or suggest something that's not sexual. Your wife has more than two brain cells. She actually sees through the I'm-doing-this-for-you falsehood, and she understands that your hair brained attempt to say it's punishment, is, well....not.

    Ever been sent to bed as a kid, without dinner? Of course not, that's child abuse, today. I was sent to bed without dinner, but I also grew up on an abandoned house full of mice and rats, without heat, quite literally without two coins to rub together. Perpetually skinny, never much to eat. Always cold. Often sick. So going without a meal was noticeable. And likely. How about you? What if the wife tells you to go to bed without a meal?

    Is the charge cord for your electronic device like an umbilical cord? Suppose she severs the cord for say, three days?

    If you live in a typical home, there's probably plenty of menial labor that needs doing, that you should probably be doing anyway (hint: not her). Go do it.

    If you absolutely must have a punishment that's got sexual overtones, and you probably do, or you wouldn't be here or making up excuses to pretend it's "punishment" or to pretend that it's non-sexual, then time-outs are always useful, as is corporal punishment. My personal hell and a perennial favorite is the use of pepper rub; an arousing concept intellectually, which quickly turns to regret moments after application. Specifically, Capzacin HP, which can cause an excruciating burning pain for about 20 minutes after application, cannot be removed or neutralized, and dies away to a warming sensation for another two or three hours after (unless water is applied, such as climbing into the shower, in which case the pain starts over). Combine that with time in a corner or a dark room, and put it in very sensitive spots, and it does reduce one to a quivering blob of sorrow and regret.

    Stand, feet facing forward, a little more than shoulder width apart, then bend the knees until in a sitting position, sans chair. Stay there. We used to do this as a training session in a martial art; during "special trainings," it was done for an hour and a half, and while that's clearly overboard, fifteen or twenty minutes is enough to cause the legs to shake and burn. Now hold the arms straight out to the side, palms up, level with the shoulders, and let someone explain imagining a stack of books on each palm, and soon the arms shake and droop and burn. The body naturally tries to relieve the pain, rise, but someone who insists on staying "lower" can help keep the participant honest.

    There are quite literally thousands of such practices which will take the most fit and leave them struggling, and the rest of us, just straining to get through. Not very sexual, but I did hear someone say "punishment," right? Then again, what's punishment to one, is fun to another. Maybe you abhor her Christmas hallmark movies. Your sentence might include watching them. Writing a line a thousand times cramps the hand and numbs the mind, and might be just what the warden ordered. Let her drive you a few miles down the road, kick you out, and let you walk home, or let her have you walk to the store to buy a stick of gum. Then send you back for another. Then another. Maybe you lose bed privileges for a time, or you only get cold showers today, or this week. Silent treatment is painful for some. You're ignored today, or for 48 hours. It's worse than you think. sensory deprivation is trying, for some. Stand in the bath in the dark, and be forgotten. It ceases to be fun early in the process. There are ways. Find one. Or, let her find one.

    It is, after all, not up to you.
     
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    Recently my Wife played in the bedroom alone while I had to wait for her kneeling in the bathroom nude and collared. But it was not a punishment, just my Wife's whim.
     
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    It depends what is a reason for punishemnt and for what it is ordained. If it is a part of sexual play a punishment may be painful but still exciting. But if I really disappoint my Wife she invents a punishement that is not a kind of pleasure for my masochistic nature. In her opinion punishment must be punishment then. It should not be sexually arousing, but sore.
    You can read more about the last idea invented by my Wife in the today's post here:
    https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/our-flr-diary.40544/
     
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    Yes we all know that to a submissive, most punishment will titillate and garner attention. So the real purpose of the punishment must be known. Context.

    Is she actually mad? Is it meant to be retribution? Is she trying to curb bad behavior or train a new one? Is she doing it because she enjoys seeing you suffer for her? Is he doing it because she knows you enjoy suffering for her?

    I just heard a joke about mom finding a s&m magazine under her sons bed with all the gear, and asked her husband what they should do about it. He said “well we’re not gonna spank him for it!!”

    There is nothing wrong however with good ol fashioned fun. If someone wants to come up with a litany of personal kinks and label them as punishment...go for it and have fun.

    If however someone is trying to change behavior or attitude, I suggest adding a portion that isn’t as fun. I myself need a mix or I would just quit and not allow it. If she said something like kneel on this rice, I would be like “yeah I’m out”. She has stopped a few arguments, and settled some things with a serious paddling though. Don’t get me wrong, a sexy paddling can be fun for me, but a hard one meant to adjust my attitude...not arousing, no erection. At first you say sorry like normal, near the end you revert to “sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry I won’t do that again I’m sorry!” as your backside is on fire.
     
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