Hi! My sub and I have been playing around with dom/sub for about a year now. He proudly wares his cage most days. (I give him a 2-3 day break but he likes it when I put it right back on after I free him. I am curious to know some things you leave for your sub to do while he’s home alone. I work late at night, and I don’t want him to feel forgotten or bored. He enjoys feeling used and body shaming, but really let’s anything fly, (how do you know if you like it if you don’t try it;*) We talk about what we liked/disliked after. I guess my problem is that we get bored easily, and I don’t want a repeat of events every time we play. Any suggestions that I can put in the spank bank??
Sit down and talk about what you both like. Keep in mind the 4 tenets: Trust, Respect, Honesty and Communication. Open discussion without fear of being laughed at or ridiculed should open up a dialogue that will help open both of you to unlimited possibilities
We have had many conversations. He just kinda leaves it up to me. I feel him being a bit shy about what he actually wants, but he does tell me. I just want to surprise him one night to turn his head. He will let me try anything I just need a few ideas.
Hi We most recently started learning how to tie Shibari restraints and really enjoy that. CBT, flogging, orgasm denial, ruined orgasm, ass worship, queening. I think that sums it up. Thank you for taking time to reply to my question.
Here are a few of the things Ms Angela has implemented over the years, that has been fun. 1). Although she is not a fan of “sisification”, I haven’t owned a pair of men’s underwear in years. I’m only allowed to wear women’s panties in their stead. It’s a constant reminder of submission. 2) When caged, she will frequently peg me. On occasion she has also fisted me, which I wouldn’t have thought possible before she did. Both activities definitely put me in deep sub space, but do require pre game preparation on my part. 3) Any time we have sex, she always orgasms first and last. When I am allowed to orgasm during PIV, It’s understood that I’m to immediately go down on her to “clean her up” and continue until she has orgasmed. She will also frequently have me give it a quick kiss, after she has pee’d, to freshen things up. Just a few of the things that are part of the daily routine.
These suggestions are very doable for us! Thank you greatly. My sub will appreciate you as well. I am excited! I will let you know how it goes
LOL....he may not appreciate it as much as you do....at first. Just let me know when you need an additional activity.