Control

My Wife's use is working for her control of having control of, no demand for or expectation of my sexual satisfaction . That is price to be allowed to be physically close with her in any form.

 

She actually sounds like fun.
But there shouldn't be anything you dont want to do for her. Maybe that's kind of her point.
But I guess this depends on what she has you doing.
So what is she having you do (and maybe instead of what?) and what are the other tools of control you mention and how does she use them?

 

What you don't want to do changes the longer you are denied. Limits seem way more flexible the more frustrated and teased you feel. Fortunately most KH don't take things too far. Then there are the ones that just want to see where the road ends. I think often the sub is curios also.

 

I am doing all she asks and directs. Detailing the journey in my journal " Vanilla to Owner"

She restarted chastity in our 39 yr marriage after our discussions about how to earn back her trust to let me be close. Right now trying to prevent her switching us to separate twin beds.

 

Oh great I'll check it out.

As I have the utmost respect for women and for what they have to put up with from men I'm very glad that you're doing what you're told now. I look forward to reading your story.

 

It's a work in progress but we seem to be building momentum in positive directions.

 

Oh. That's different.

 

That's certainly very true for me. I find my mindset changing as soon as I put my cage on.
If I'm not in chastity then 'theoretically' I'm happy to do anything She asks. Caged I'm literally amenable and 'open' to anything she commands.
And, not unusual I know, but the longer I'm in chastity and denied the more frustrated and kinkier I get - to the point where I'm happy to beg for anything in the hope, rather than expectation, of being allowed out to play.
Chastity is often referred to as a journey and I think that's true in the sense that the more time you have spent in the 'lifestyle' (rather than physically caged) the further you will have traveled down the road and the more your perceptions will have changed.
Once a particular boundary has been crossed you can never go back to it again and when the extraordinary becomes commonplace then you have to look for the next 'new' thing.
I think this is why a lot of men are constantly trying to set new records for the length of time they are locked and constantly searching for the Holy Grail of the escape-proof cage.

 

If she like control she should add some electronics to your device.
We are seeing the beginnings of wireless technologies entering chastity devices, most are not that good yet but in time they should offer KH almost unlimited control of her sissy. Total security and no way to escape.
Perhaps it will necessary to create a new body of chastity law to protect the sissies from undue punishment.

 

we're all different, which is why communication between couples is so important. Good luck to you both. I like her approach, I have to say.

 

It is good to see manufactures are starting to build electronic devices. I hope to price will go down as others enter the market. The electronic devices will give the KH total control of the sissy.

 

For us it’s a game, spice up our lives with a fetish, and a way for her to take control over certain aspects of our life. We have always had a vice, we were swingers, she is bi, we have always been on the kinky side, and it’s a way for her to blow off some steam. I do enjoy her control, but at times it is a little frustrating. However, when she does unlock me and the mood strikes her, I can take her any way I want until the day is done and I am worn out.

we are a loving couple and enjoy each other, but when we assume our roles it takes us to many places. Some are sensual and some are dark, in the end we are both satisfied. Our bdsm sessions are a way for her to let off steam and me to be that relief valve. My flogging is her way of getting out her frustration caused by a male client saying something inappropriate or touching her arm, shoulder, or knee. I enjoy the punishment and sometimes the reward she gives me when done.

She is very sensual and my time in the cage allows me to focus on her and the pleasure we find in each other.

 

this is just how my madam first thought of the cage! It is a way to actually take control of my body and my mind!

 

This sounds like a fantastic setup and quite an interesting thought process, both on her end and your reaction to it. Would you mind elaborating on it?

You talked about her restricting access to electronic media, what and when would she take away from you? How do you react to that and feel about it? If you are, for example, not allowed to watch Netflix, what do you do instead (or do you just sit, bored for the evening).
What does it feel like driving, knowing you are being tracked.

How does this whole setup make you feel? Are there things you do differently now because you know she is watching etc?

Sorry for the twenty questions, I just find this setup incredible. We all know how to spank or deny, but this sort of psychological dynamic can cut much deeper.

 

My BR is strong willed alpha cuckold. I too have absolutely no interest in a service sub at my feet waiting to do my bidding. I want a man with a voice with the intellect and ability to use it. A man who will challenge me and push my boundaries. The stronger the man the more fun he is to break. Chastity for me is also about control and exerting my will over a strong man. Our relationship has evolved over the years and yes chastity is but only one tool however this tool is significant and can serve much. Holding the key to my man's pleasure is paramount in controling and manipulating all of him to my will. Learning how to extract and focus that sexual energy and target it just so I can achieve just about anything I want
If nothing else it is a fun game that keeps us running hot for each other after 22 years of marriage.

 

Sometimes I feel that is also my wife’s approach. She’s loved the control since day one, there have been others femdom activities that we’ve tried but ultimately it’s about her telling me what to do and as you said, having me do things I probably otherwise would not do.

 

However along with the control she does like the servant behavior I exhibit for her. She likes to refer to me as her slave butler. She’s certainly not as hardcore about control as you have described your wife @enslavedbyc