My journey to FLR marriage with husband locked in chastity

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    It looks to me like you are doing a fantastic job of running your partner.
    You definitely deserve everything you get from your relationship and control of it.
    Keep up the great work and it was lovely reading your posts.
     
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    Indeed. There are a lot of benefits to being the dominant partner in a relationship, but it comes with a lot of responsibility and a lot of work too in order to make it last.
     
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    You're very welcome.
     
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    What part is 50/50? I have sacrificed and worked an enormous number of hours to bring in the sizable income that supports our lifestyle, I have had to take responsibility for all of the decision making that he is incapable of handling, and I carry more than my share of the load to provide him the comfort and security that he wouldn't enjoy otherwise. In return he has had to assume the subordinate role in our relationship and accept my leadership without complaint. I would argue that on balance our marriage is 50/50.

    He is not depressed at all. Frustrated yes, but he has motivation and purpose. It was before I took control that he showed all the signs of depression. He was lethargic, aimless and directionless. I actually was concerned about his mental health. But under me he is proud of getting in shape, contributing to the household and performing up to my exacting standards, which has actually helped him avoid depression.

    Yes I am selfish. That doesn't mean that this lifestyle isn't the best thing for my husband. And I deserve this life because I had the courage to make it happen and to make him bend to my will.
     
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    Power is addictive and given that I have absolute control over my husband I could abuse my power for sure. But I love my husband and know the proper balance that works for both of us. It is a delicate balance that requires being sensitive to how hard I can push my husband and how hard he needs to be pushed.
     
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    Thanks!

    He hasn't shown any inclination to look for a job, as it stands he does work hard at home but it's still a much more comfortable situation for him than working outside the home. If he did work outside the home he would be expected to contribute all his income to our household and to accept that I would continue to be in complete control of our finances, so in that sense he doesn't have incentive to seek a job. Obviously if he left the relationship it would be different but thats not what either of us wants.

    Permanent chastity seems very cruel to me if I understand your question correctly. Once a week has worked out well and I always have the option to increase the period to two weeks or more which I do periodically, but he has a pretty active sexual drive so once a week keeps him in line just fine for the most part.
     
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    Thanks!
     
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    Doing well, just been working hard. For the most part we have been in lockdown. I have been working almost exclusively from home and avoiding travel, so my husband and I have been home together much more than we were used to. Having me at home all the time means that his leash is shorter and tighter, but also made for more intimacy and brought us even closer as a couple.

    I peg him at least once a day, he seems to have started experiencing something akin to orgasms although I would say he still doesn't enjoy it that much overall.
     
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    All responses (both positive and negative) are thought provoking and worthwhile for me. It's impossible for someone who is not in the relationship to fully understand why it works and why it's good for both of us, so I don't get bothered by criticism since the writer can't fully comprehend what my husband and I are living without being one of us. Nasty criticism is usually based on faulty assumptions even though I try to be as transparent as possible here. In any case I have a thick skin.
     
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    Yes. Nesosteel has really worked for us. It's unrelenting. My husband is not as big a fan as I am though, lol.
     
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    Thanks very much.
     
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    Thumbs up!
     
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    Very well explained, 50/50 does not exist when only one is in charge. I congratulate you for being able to mold your man to your standard
     
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    i wish you were my wife xx
     
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    Love the control you have over him. Glad you both are happy.
     
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    Hope you are both well and things are still going well as I’ve not seen you update for a while.
     
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    Just remember that serving in a FLR to a woman like me is not easy, you need to think carefully whether you can handle it because it will be hard.
     
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    Things are going well. The reality is that a FLR like mine gets easier and more comfortable over time. For those considering such a relationship consider that at first things will be challenging. The man will try to hold on to his manhood and will struggle with some of the adjustments that will be required of him. Similarly, the woman will have to come to terms with how much actual responsibility and micro management is involved, and that it's not just fun and games but rather a very serious commitment.

    The good news is that over time the man will gradually know no other way to live, he will lose all his rebelliousness and become the ideal partner that you have created. My husband is like a wild animal who was captured and caged, he wouldn't have any chance to survive if he was released into the real world again, and most importantly he knows it.

    At this point my husband understands that he is completely dependent on me, that he would be lost on his own. Years of serving and having all his decisions made by me has turned him into the docile, obedient husband that I desired to create. The lesson is to have patience. You can't simply expect total control on day one. But gradually your will and the power of the chastity belt will result in the ideal relationship that you crave, and it will basically be impossible for your husband to undo the changes that you impose, or for him to even consider doing so because his self confidence will have been fully stripped away. Things will simply keep getting better for you.
     
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    Depends on a lady, doesn't it?
     
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    what would you say would be the hardest things to handle that a man would have to adapt to ?
     
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    you seem to have got your life going really well and of course the time you have taken and put into the lifestyle you choose is now paying off.

    it’s great to see someone that is totally running things in all ways and it definitely seems that your husband has fully benefited from your ways with him.

    you are very right in saying that things need time to fully change and there does become a time when there’s like a point of no return that’s for sure. I have experience myself of that point.

    it’s lovely to read your updates and see how nicely your relationship is progressing and how you are enjoying your life.and of course anything new you have added into it also.

    take care suewiang
     
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    This is so beautifully and accurately described! I agree, it wouldn’t be easy, but I like the idea of essentially being forced to accept it, like it or not.
     
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    At some point as this progress, if your husband might no longer consider himself a ‘man’ but more like a ‘woman’, what do you think how your relationship would change? Would you be less interested in ‘her’?
     
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    Hi Mean bitch,
    If ever i need a lawyer, i want you!
    Deepest respect :lockkey:
     
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