Tired key holder teasing advises

Ok just enjoy your situation and stop pushing

 

Expect nothing from her. You wanted this, not her. Just serve her and be the best husband you can be. Buy flowers. Do chores without being asked. Do the laundry if she typically does it. Don’t mope about not getting any extra attention. Eventually she might or might not do the things you fantasize about. Just know that the fantasy is just that and not always a reality.

 

If carry on pushing her like you seem to be you’ll be back playing alone.
You should be lucky she’s even taken a tiny interest

 

I think you are doing a good job......keep moving forward and enjoy!

 

Have patience let her set the pace. Push and you may loose it all.

She needs to decide her participation if its going to grow.

 

Hmmm, you both just need to be honest with one another. There are a lot of "expectations" but I think you should ask her what she would like. Hate to say it but her "fantasy" might just be getting a nightly backrub and telling you that you are a good boy.... or you just taking more responsibility around the house with making coffee, cleaning it, making breakfast, cleaning it, cleaning the kitchen, doing things she isn't really interested in....

What is going to happen realistically is... you are both going to need to lay out what you would like and you are going to need to try all her stuff at least once & be honest about doing it again... and she is going to need to look at your list and pick which things she wants to try at least once & see if she likes them.

Honest and communication goes a long way... and not just with chastity... I mean she is your wife...

 

I'm going to add: what is she doing that's make her so tired that you can do instead?

Basically, there's nothing you can tell her that's going to keep her from being tired. You can't talk the feeling of being tired away. But you can ease her burden a bit until she's less tired, and feels inspired to play with you ... if that's the actual / only impediment.

 

it took 2 years for my wife to embrace wearing her key on the necklace i got her from lori. (looks really nice)
she would always leave the key on the bedside table. ie i can get out any time i want. then we got a jewelry box with a code she only knew. and keys went in there.
i put her necklace on her and gave her a long massage and told her very causally how beautiful she is with her key necklace and how it makes me feel seeing her with that around her neck. necklace has not come off since.
i love it.

 

This is going to sound harsh. Read your original post again and think how much of it. Is based around you and your needs, and how much your wife is there to do what you want.

You both need to sit down and talk through what you each want from this.

Good luck

 

Have a read of your post again.
your another with the “I “ worn out on the keyboard.

 

I know where your at.
Your head is full of this fantasy, you think of nothing else, maybe you make notes of all the things you can do or your wife can do. It is very exciting for you. You want to jump in and feel elated.
You know you have to be patient, but days feel like weeks.
I was there once. It will not work. You can not speed it up. If you push, she will step away.
You must learn to be very patient. Try not to think about it all the time. Make a subtle suggestion and step away.
What you Hope to achieve in a week will take a year.
If something does happen, a step in the right direction. Do not get over excited and start overloading your KH with ideas.
Simply allow that one step to become normal, this takes a long long time and a lot of patience.
You must. Must. make it worth her while. What is in it for her?
To begin with, having a patient man would help, who is now kinder and does not keep bugging her for treats, rewards, playtime.

Imagine you are an annoying child saying "I want a biscuit, I want a biscuit, I want a biscuit"
So maybe you get a biscuit and You are happy. Well it won't last, you will want another and another and eventually you will get no more.
Like many have said above, stop being an extra burden, start looking around to see what needs doing, don't offer to do something she has already started doing, it's annoying"
Replace you "list of kinky idea's" with "boring shitty chores my wife does while I am thinking about myself"
And then start doing them without promoting, without gloating, without expecting anything in return and eventually you will train yourself to be more helpful.
Step one is not about you, it's about making a long term difference that will eventually make an opening for step two.
Train yourself, not your wife.
I look back now and I am amazed at how little I did back in the days when I thought I did enough. My wife is not tired any more, now we have fun. Now she has a loving husband who is helpful.
Train yourself first. For as long as it takes to feel pride and enjoyment from sharing the chores and everyday tasks. And then you will start to enjoy sharing each other. It will just happen.

 

Wonderful to hear this. I am in hopes my Wife will decide to become my KH . Currently her medicine cabinet holds the keys. I do always now ask permission before use.

Best of luck

 

Good advice for you step up show her how you can support her and take over her work load.

Support her and her needs, not yours.

 

You seem to be cherry picking answers etc. And they do seem to be about what you want.
Ask not what my wife can do for me.
Ask what can I do for my wife.

Untless you get this bit, the rest won't happen.

 

A relationship serves to both of you. Both sides must win in order for it to survive.

It is We not I want in the equation.

 

Sometimes it’s good we help each other as we don’t always see some things that we do until someone points it out.
I hope all goes well for you

 

Have you thought about offering one-way sexual relief? Ladies may refuse massages and such because they sense it may escalate into a request for sex. Pleasuring her without expecting anything in return might do the trick.

 

Buy a Kitchen Safe on Amazon and play some games. Set the timer for several days and while the keys are locked away from both of you, pamper her with massages and other romantic things so you can make her comfortable with intimacy that doesn’t turn into sex. It may pique her interest that her toys are locked away from HER as well.

Also, get a lock box with combination with a key slot in the top where you can lock up, put the key in at any time. Make sure only she has the combination so she is the one in control of unlock. Make it fun and don’t try to turn her into a dominatrix.

 

Release? What release? I think she is ready for this. The real question is: are you?

 

Try at least 12 days.