contemplating a start to locking up

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    Hi, brand new to the site and looking to learn and to decide if this is something I should do. I will start out admitting that I am a chronic masturbator. Covid made it worse since I was working from home and now my job was eliminated leaving me a LOT of free time. My jacking has always been an issue with my partner. I am a gay male by the way. Anyway he started joking around about maybe needing to lock me up in chastity to keep me from jerking. These comments have increased. We have also had a few sessions with me in bondage where I couldnt touch it. I have been thinking more and more and more about it. My birthday is monday and he suggested that maybe for my birthday he gets me a chastity device and starts controlling when I may play with it or even touch it. I dont know if I will say yes. I dont know which device to choose for a beginner. Any advice or encouragement would be appreciated
     
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    you won't know till you try it, so give it a go! Nothing to lose.

    Welcome
     
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    thanks for the welcome. You do have a point there.
     
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    Welcome to our community. I hope you find it enjoyable as well as helpful.
     
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    thank you
     
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    loads of advice and different ways of looking at things on this very site, 100% would get in one just to experience it !
     
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    hi. thanks!
     
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    Firstly welcome to the Mansion and secondly I agree with pretty much all of the above.

    I would start with a cheap (Chinese) plastic cage to start with to give you a chance to explore. Try and buy one which comes with a number of different size back rings so then you can play around to find which one suits you. Also remember that it takes you body time to adjust to wearing a cage - especially if you've never done it before.

    Getting the right 'gap' between the cage and ring is also essential for both comfort and security and some makes (such as the CB range) give you the option of experimenting with this as well. Once again give your body a chance to get used to things.

    Remember what suits one person may be completely impossible to wear for the next guy.

    Start slow. Get used to wearing the cage for an hour or so at a time and gradually build up the time. Make sure you really are used to it before trying to go through the night. Use plenty of Vaseline or moisturiser around your balls to prevent chaffing - especially early on and you do build up tolerance.

    Get your partner fully involved. It is absolutely amazing how different the experience is when uyou don't have the key and realise that you are reliant on someone else to let you out and that they, not you, have control of your sexuality.

    Once you have worked a fit and style that works for you then you can think about switching up to something more expensive and steel ! By the way CherryKeeper makes 3D printed cages, included fully bespoke, and seems to have a tremendous range of sizes and styles for both cages and back rings.

    Happy hunting.
     
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    thanks for the kind words and advice.
    you are reliant on someone else to let you out and that they, not you, have control of your sexuality. <-- this is very exciting to me
     
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    Welcome to CM.

    Cherry Keeper by Shapeways offers wide range.

    Holy Trainer is popular and there are Chinese knockoffs. HT4 is latest model.

    Enjoy
     
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    Welcome @JustJack . To echo others, do it. You don't have anything to lose. Go with inexpensive devices until you can find that fits. Don't be afraid of a smaller cage, they do help. Go slow, don't try and wear it all the time at the beginning.
     
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    thanks
     
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    thanks!
     
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    Holy Trainer V4 small. You get different sizes of rings and I find it very comfortable. Welcome to the mansion, from an ex-chronic masturbator.
     
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    thanks for the recommendation and welcome
     
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    It may or may not be for you, you won't know until you try.
    There are hormonal reasons that orgasm denial can be not only pleasurable, but addicting
    For some of us, there is no going back
     
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    thanks
     
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    I would add to what White Knight said.

    I don't think ANY of us are still wearing our first cage. So please know that "good" chastity play takes some perseverance.
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    Greetings Traveler! Welcome to The Mansion!!!
     
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    Indeed cage 5 and 6 are in process currently for me now. Going with steel these days
     
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    thank you for that perspective!
     
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    thank you
     
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