My husband and chastity, the real world, not fantasy...

We have our closet set up for alone time, no one is ever allowed in our closet so it works for us. I was thinking of getting something like this for quiet (and punishments) time so he could not move at all:

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/266498648/mature-audience-only-dungeon-delights

My bad girl fantasies run wild with quiet time and possibly including my friend into play. One thing that crossed my mind is to have someone peg him, whether it is a friend with her strap-on, one of her pets, or me doing it while he has his sensory deprivation hood on and not removing the blindfold to see me to make him wonder what is going on; the big decision is that if I should tell him what happened or not. Out of respect I probably should, I do not want to betray our trust.

I think it is fair to him that if I expect him to be silent to make sure he is restrained to do so.

-Junechas

 

Hi everyone!



I am so sorry it has been so long since my last post, things have been crazy with everything going on, job losses, job changes, but one thing has not changed, it is my husband and I continuing our adventure together.

At this point, we are into a routine of what we do and what my expectations are of him. I still am not locking him 24/7 but do this when it is necessary. The device depends on my mood and if correction is needed in attitude. The most severe punishments are those with the devices with spikes. Sometimes as I had mentioned before I feed him n ED pill to increase his suffering. What I have noticed however is that the frequency in which I need severe punishments is reducing over time, this means when a punishment is needed, it tends to be very intense and that his behavior continues to improve.

I had mentioned this before but depending on my mood, I do not always put the toys on him that I want to. I took two pictures, one of toys, and the other of pain implements. I labeled the toys with letters and the implements with numbers. If I give him a set of these then he knows it is his job to prepare for me.

For example, if I send him C-G-P, he looks at the picture and will put the butt plug in, lock on the spiked chastity cage, and restrain himself to the points we have in our closet, he must then wait for me, I determine the time. I leave all of the locks open so he can get ready and I have the keys hidden away. If a punishment needed, I give him a number or numbers and he must have the implement ready for me.

2-13 means to have the nipple clamps and the riding crop ready for me.

I do not do this all of the time, sometimes I just lead him into our room and put the things on him, I really do enjoy sliding a plug into him or attaching his cage, there is a bit of a psychological effect of having him get ready though because the time to when I arrive may be minutes, or an hour, it depends on when I am ready. Making him wait for an unknown period of time is empowering. I like to make him sweat with anticipation.

I had mentioned before about inviting someone else to play with us which we have done. It was not a woman but another man and I “forced” my husband to be sexual with him. There was a bit of reluctance at first but when I explained that the action is to please me, he understood and did as he was asked. We have done this 3 times so far, the last time, there was no hesitation on his part which he said was due to how much he saw that it turned me on when he did things to him and the other man doing things to him. I really do enjoy controlling his head, how deep he takes the other man, there is a good amount of dirty talk too! They have both been inside each other as well, this was something that really got me going, seeing my man being dominated by another male. I mentioned this in a post last year, but it takes a real man to be open to what we have been doing.

I have really embraced my dominant side and do my best to punish or instruct at the time he is bad versus waiting for later, it is more effective like that. I love that I can be adventurous with my husband and he is always eager to serve me and comply. I am now looking for new ways to push his limits and am very open for ideas, we have done a lot but I am sure there is a lot out there to do still!

Ms. June

 

Hello!

It has been a while now since we occasionally bring another male to play with us. I do have to say, I am jealous of how good my husband has learned to give head and it turns me on so much! It was a difficult thing to do emotionally expanding our play to include others. Lots of things went through my mind. I was not worried about my husband leaving me for another man or anything like that; we are so much in love I knew that was not an issue. If anything, doing what we have been doing has brought us closer together. I have a female friend that will occasionally co-domme with me and play with my husband but I have not allowed him to be inside of her.

Many of the issues that I had were internal to myself. I thought things like “If he puts a cock in his mouth, will I think differently when I kiss him” or “will he drift away from me because of what I want him to do.” I can say without a doubt that none of this EVER became an issue. One of my favorite things to do is ride him while he is giving a BJ; ladies, just let me tell you… WOW what a turn on. I have even given a BJ our play buddy while hubby was tied up and forced to watch (and yes, I gave him a huge kiss after). At some point, I want to make hubby watch me have sex with him, which I know would not bother him, I actually think he would like it. Maybe instead of tying him up and making him watch I will let him sit underneath and watch close up me getting it doggy and have him clean me up after.

So, long story short, we are having fun, including others has brought us closer together but is NOT the reason for our closeness and my worries were unfounded. There are no issues with us showing each other attention or anything like that.

Right now, he is restrained in the closet, he has been a moody little bitch for the past few days. So much that I fantasize about having two guys come over and really use him, any way they want. That will not happen right now, but what is happening is that I need to go check on him, I put him in the spiked chastity cage and fed him a Viagra 30 minutes ago; he has been tied up in the closet for a few hours hooded, plugged, and gagged. I need to go encourage the drug to work and enjoy his suffering. I will write again soon.

Ms. June

 

Nope, there is no going back, we would not want to anyways!

This was not something we talked about before chastity and all of our activities, it came after as I became more dominant and him submitting to my whims; that was one of them.

I do not give him "chore lists" per se, but he does have some expected tasks plus anything I add to them. Whether he sleeps in the closet, or in the bed depends on this and his behavior.

Ms. June

 

Hello Everyone!

Things have been going very well, honestly, not too much is new, my husband and I are set in our routines and adventurous activities right now!

However, last night something happened that I instantly though of sharing here!

My best friend called me upset because her husband yelled at her. A little background, he is in 24/7 chastity and they are in a FLM, she is not a hotwife per se... She wanted to punish her husband and asked if she could come over, I figured that she was bringing her husband to use our punishment room, but was I wrong on that!

She shows up alone and asks where my bull/lover/boy toy (we do not have an official name for him) was. Completely unrelated to her visit, he was on his way over, I will call him “toy” for now. She wanted to convey to her husband that yelling at her has severe consequences. When toy arrives, my friend asked if she could “use” him and text her husband some naughty pictures, of course I was intrigued and agreed. She wanted to put “toy” in her mouth and send her husband a picture on his phone, lucky me got to take the pictures! She is coming over again this weakened, I will see I she can screenshot the text messages and get her permission to post them, they were HOT! Their relationship has been monogamous, so when he got a picture of her sucking off “toy” that said “There are consequences for your behavior, you need to be taught a lesson”

At first, he was angry and tried to go all alpha sub, but that did not last long. After a bunch of pictures and text messages, he began to calm down and apologize for his behavior. She asked me to take some video of her giving “toy” a WILD BJ, more intense than she ever gives her husband and told him that if he wants it like that, his behavior needs to improve; what made it awesome is that “toy” is much bigger than her husband. He started getting upset with her again so she decided to have sex with him while on facetime with her husband, with me recording I could show him every angle! She talked so dirty to him when I had the phone in front of his face telling him that what she is doing is his fault for being such an asshole. She did ask “toy” to stop before he finished in her and to finish on her boobs, some of it ended up on her face. Her husband got so upset, she took the key for his cage off her necklace and left it with me, I still have it. She has always fantasized about being a hotwife and I think she wants to try some of the activities my husband and I do. She did ask me what should she have him do before I unlock him, I told her that if it was my husband, I would make him blow “toy” until he cums for 2 weeks and he must swallow, and if he starts his attitude, the clock resets.

She said that would turn her on so much, but did not think she could get him to do it. My response was “leave him locked, no teasing, no edging, nothing, once he is desperate enough, I guarantee he will do anything to be released.” As of right now, she has no plans to unlock him so time will tell! She has not discounted my suggestion and would like to see it happen. We are very close friends and she is beginning to explore the “kinkier” side of play as my husband and I have and incorporate more of the lifestyle play that we do. FYI, my husband is locked in the closet right now, he did not follow directions correctly during a task earlier. Maybe I will have “toy” come over and let him hear us get loud! He says that when I do that, it is a real punishment for him, but I am a bit tired tonight, maybe I will just leave him there bound until the morning.

One thing that I absolutely loved about my friend is when she told her husband that there are consequences for bad behavior she did not just spank him, she went all out and went total slut on him and sent naughty pictures to her husband that he had no clue were coming. I would not be surprised if it turned him on a bit. I know when I started playing like that with my husband, it did not take him long to truly start enjoying it! I am really hoping that she gets her husband to do some forced-bi on “toy” to be released, every female I know that is in a FLR/FLM loves watching their little subbie/cuckie take it in their mouth.

Bye for now!

Ms. June

 

Hey!

Oh that has happened plenty of times with my husband, trying to help my GF work up to that with hers! haha

Ms. June

 

Wow a reply to an older post! I still remember that, kind of a little WTF on that one but interesting, never did try that.

Ms. June

 

What would be a one way ticket to divorce? Curious....

Ms. June

 

You hit the nail on the head! here are so many types of relationship dynamics, and my GF loves pushing limits with her devoted husband and she did just that the other night. I am sure that even though we are close, I do not know the whole dynamic of their relationship. I do know they are devoted to each other and she is VERY dominant, he follows her lead in almost everything so what they did from his perspective I can only assume that because of their dynamic, he eventually accepted it. To each their own, if it works, then as you said, who is anyone else to judge! It's like my perspective on forced bi that I have mentioned in previous posts. Others see it as a homosexual act period where others believe that it is not gay if you are serving your wife/domme/mistress in a FLM/FLR capacity.

Ms. June

 

Good Boy... You're welcome!

I do not know if he has fantasized about being a cuck, but for all I know he may have been majorly turned on but pretended to be angry, who knows. She is 100% in charge from what he does during the day at home and away, where he sleeps, what he wears, what he eats, etc.; they have a FLM that has a great deal of TPE. She is coming over this weekend with her husband, I will ask her in private if he has ever had secret cuckolding fantasies, maybe she was exploring one of his fantasies as well, I have no idea right now but now I am curious! My husband has his limits pushed often he loves it, that is part of our dynamic, respect upper hard limits, and push the rest hard! It was hard for me to do at first, but I actually enjoy being a bit cruel sometimes, and so does he. I know my plans for the weekend, learn more about their dynamic if they want to share, I know she will share more than her husband.

i have an idea, maybe we will tie our husbands up in the punishment room or closet clothed, let them talk without us while my GF and I enjoy some wine and a nice conversation about our dynamics. I know my husband will share what they talked about! I do not think that is too deceiving.

Ms. June

 

Hello again!

My friend was unable to come over last weekend however she did come over this afternoon, my husband was “occupied”, haha, and she came alone. I asked her about what she had done last week to get her husband upset, she told me a little more why she did it, it had surprised me to because she is not like that! The have been talking about cuckolding fantasies for a while and a few months ago, they both agreed that it is something they will try. She did make some conditions however which he did agree to. When it was to happen, it would be on her terms and nothing that was set up in advance, she did not want him to have pleasure through anticipation. It was to be a complete, unexpected surprise to let him experience the raw emotion of her with another man. I think she met those conditions with “toy” last week! She told me that when they talked later that night, there was a huge rush of emotions ranging from jealousy to being turned on. When it came down to it, she said that her husband mentioned that the jealousy is a turn on and he would like her to do it again sometime. He was so turned on, and so was she that she almost unlocked him, but decided against it because she wanted to keep her word for deciding conditions for him being unlocked, plus, she forgot she left the key with me; she did take it back tonight. She has not talked to her husband about my suggestion on how he can earn a release, but she intends to over the next week sometime.

She already knows what he will say, that he is not gay. I have mentioned this in previous posts that what you do with your wife or significant does not make you gay. If your husband goes out looking for a guy on his own, that is, but not carrying out a fantasy with your wife. My husband at first was against interacting with another male, but eventually did so to show his devotion to the directions and leading I give, and now, he does it on command without hesitation which is a HUGE turn on for me. Just as with my husband, they are going through their transitional journey where they are enhancing their play. Hesitation is normal at first as new things are tried, my husband and I have gone through it, but eventually, hesitation goes away and makes new activities easier to try.

Goodnight!

Ms. June

 

Good boy... I love saying that.

Oh yes, cuckolding really exists and can be very fun when rules are set and honored, trust me. I have permission to go on a date from time to time, it does not always end up sexual, but sometimes it does and he is ok with it as long as I tell the other man that this is just a fantasy, nothing will come from it, it is just physical and nothing else, and I send him pictures of course and ask permission; if he says no, I honor that. I never stay out overnight, it really turns him on. I do not do it because my husband is lousy in bed, he is FANTASTIC, but it is just for fun, it turns him on and is not to compensate for a short-fall in him.

She is excited about my idea, it is something she would to love watch her husband do. Has anyone ever given blowjobs for 14 days in a row, I have such a large grin on my face right now it is ridiculous. In the end, it is up to them, I am in no way pushing her. Just because I enjoy my husband doing it does not mean it works for them.

Toy is a VERY virile lover, let’s just leave that question at that! Stop using the term gay, gay is an attraction, not an action, I know many that share this perspective. If a male services another male under my direction, then it is not gay, at all. I have been with females to tease my husband but I would never run off with one or do anything with another female behind his back, I would ask him if it is OK first. So no, getting sucked by another guy is not gay unless you go around looking for a guy to suck it. If it is a consensual activity, then there is not label for it.

To your last question, I have dominated “toy” before, tandem domming him and my husband at the same time is so very hot…

Tell me a bit about the D/s dynamic between you and your wife if you feel like sharing.

Ms. June