First time orgasm and masturbation denial

Are you locked ?

 

It gets easier and harder once you’re caged Temptation to violate her rule against masturbation is removed. Sexual frustration from orgasm denial is increased.

 

Dies she expect to lock you soon or stay with verbal honor approach?

 

be aware that horniness levels go up and down and there's no explanation for it. You will, at times, get really, really horny and you'll have to find ways of managing that. It comes and goes. When you do get very horny you just have to find something else to do to take your mind off it. Or go into a public space where there is no risk of succumbing to temptation.

Good luck

 

Indeed find a different focus for your mind

 

The honor system can work, especially with a woman involved. I've worked on honor system quite a bit and for me, it helped if there were things I could do for her when i got very horny. To focus on chores, or activities that she would appreciate being done for her. That helped me realize why i was denying myself at moments when my will power was weakest. Good luck and enjoy.

 

Good information. I am 3 months plus. Honor system and time in Xmas gifts cages toll I can get her request of proper fit custom steel cage. After that may not be needing as much self control.

 

a lot of men cant do it cos they gets very very horny cos they have tell me so i shud ask your Mistress to lock you up in a cage.

 

The honor system requires a lot. If you're locked it becomes easier cause you can't do yourself. By her directive I am working to get custom metal cage that is capable of extended wear (her words), not sure but anticipating longer lock ups. We also have discussed options for my airport travel. Think the igloo lockbox may satisfy her requirements on that.

 

Her locking you up actually makes it easier. Temptation is a wasted effort and you move on to other thoughts.

 

From my experience while caged your frustration is much higher because at moments when you get aroused you have in mind that there is no chance neither to touch it nor to rub it even through your clothes. Moreover, full erection also gives a kind of pleasure which you are deprived while caged.

 

If you want out, go and say "I want PA piercing"

 

The hornor system can work, but when I first agreed to cut way down on my masturbation, I did a couple of 30 days of lock up, no sex of any kind. After that, it was easier to resist. I am now locked part time. I actually enjoy wearing it and my wife likes the break from sex activities.

 

That’s where a properly fitted cage comes in “handy” It doesn’t allow you to get erect - you just wish you could. Uncaged, find a hobby like learning quantum physics that requires 100% focus. You’ll lose the erection, keep your GF happy, and increase your education at the same time And, once you’re safely locked in chastity you can continue your studies without having to take time off for masturbation. Sounds like a win/win to me

 

I have been going long stretches with out masturbation on and off during the last four years or so. But also found myself getting into heavy self relief periods during the first couple of years as PIV events became further apart. My Wife finally told me it was getting more uncomfortable as she aged. Natural changes and she really only did it because I wanted it. Lubricants did not help Doctor daid natural elasticity was the issue. Even my small penis as she stated was still too much dilatation.

My Wife and I started changing to externally jumping joint masturbation with out penetration. During the last two years that has ceased. She quit letting me close and refused massage offers even with no sex or Rewards expected guarantees. During the phase down period a massage was the route to a rub off session. Her on top external PV. Then later just her leg. Then stay away no massage or anything.

I had turned to masturbation but several of the last sessions my performance fell from bad timing and my self relief made me require much more effort on her part to get me to orgasim. That helped end her willingness to rub me off in any form.

We talked at Thanksgiving deep and hard about ourselves and any intimate contact. Her simple answer was she did not trust me too be able to be close without expecting something in return via sexual satisfaction.

That sparked her I guess to suprise me with the Xmas gifts of 3 cages. I had tried for months note to use masturbation in case she got interested in fooling around with me. I gave up and started cycle of self relief.

Since before Thanksgiving I have not cum . I renewed that vow to continue with Xmas gifts. Her big step up buying the cages signalled a possible restart of our prior playing with chastity. I continue to fight off strong feelings to relieve myself.

After all 3 cages failed to really fit or work well. She declared my new year's resolution was to order sizing rings from mature metal and determine measurements to invest into a steel cage that fits and will allow extended time wear safely. Hope for future.

Chastity may yet bridge the trust gap and allow us to renew things.

 

I believe you can get past the urge if you focus. Our easy ability to whip a quick one makes self control difficult but possible.

Good luck.

 

I cannot hardly wait for a proper fitting cage. I believe it will be a fantastic experience.

 

I’m sure you and your wife will enjoy it - although for quite different reasons

 

It’s called edging and I’m sure your GF will enjoy it even more than you when she gets to do it repeatedly while you beg for the elusive orgasm that’s kept just out of reach.