Should a sub in a FLR be allowed free access to the household finances?

Discussion in 'Female led relationships' started by BR_Saiph, Jan 15, 2021.

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  2. Hell no it's his money too

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    Whatever works for you and your woman. I am a stickler for the details and it feeds my controling nature to manage the finances
     
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    This is a fun thread, so thank you to A/all for contributing!

    W/we believe that there are two things that are necessary to have a Female Led Relationship:
    1. The Woman controls the orgasms of both individuals.
    2. The Woman controls the finances (through whatever mechanisms She chooses).

    I'm glad to hear that others do the permission / allowance model too. W/we do it where I need permission for any purchases (of any type), but I also get $25 a month for a new record (because new jams are a critical part of life!).

    This is something that evolved over the course of YEARS, and @Mistress Davenport had a learning curve and Her share of successes and failures as She took the reigns. Throughout the whole process, I knew that She had the best interests of U/us in mind and that it would take time to reach a good point, and it really has. For those considering going this route, I recommend it, but understand that there is a transition and to never value one person's hours over the others, despite differing compensation rates.
     
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    However you do it and find happiness and success, is the right way for you.
     
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    As long as it doesn’t create to much busy work for each of you to monitor his pocket money habits. Practicality is the order of the day.
     
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    I believe in FRL woman have to control the finances; how do that is up everyone; over time i used different way and system, and of course with evolution of our relationship is change as well. He have to get my permission for expense over 10€; and but i can control the expense of his credit card when i want to check and if necessary ask explanation.
    Said this, of course for major expense we always have a discussion and take the decision together.
     
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    Yeah well if I was in BR's shoes I wouldnt want Mrs BR eating donuts every day...o_O
     
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    Wtf, cheeky!! No worries I try to take care of myself.
     
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    Wow.
    First, you're not me, nor will you ever be lucky enough to walk in my shoes a single step. So we can just move forward with you not having the capacity to fathom what I could possibly want or not.
    Second, a man presuming to tell any woman what they can or cannot enjoy, especially on this site, shows a remarkable misunderstanding of your position/place in this lifestyle.
     
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    Out of line my friend.
     
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    My wife and I are both Store Managers of big retail stores. Wont disclose which ones, but you would know each of them.
    I make roughly $110,000/yr and she makes about $90,000/yr. So good money.
    However, I have a separate bank account from her. My paychecks are directly deposited into her account and she transfers money to mine. I'm allowed $20 weekly. If I need gas or anything like that, I have to ask permission and she will load it over. Anything extra has to be granted permission. And lots of times, if its a want, she will require me to save from that weekly deposit until I have enough to spend, sometimes taking months.

    With that being said, very important financial decisions (new car, house, major money vacations) ARE discussed between us, but ultimately she does have final say with that as well.
     
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    So true, so true.
    Its just that when I even think of an original honey glazed...yum... my brain gets scrambled.
     
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    Sorry...it was tongue in cheek, not more.
     
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    Thanks for the apology
     
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    Woof. Anybody else having regrets about the career they went into?
     
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    Not to get into a dick measuring contest. LMAO.

    My salary is about in the middle of what they make. Although we are a one income house. So definitely props to them for being successful.
     
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    Yep, I want to be a pro golfer. Unfortunately my swing and my desire aren’t aligned
     
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    Back to the allowance question. BR seems like a fairly responsible guy. I doubt if he would make it rain all over town even if he had the opportunity. I’m all for BR having a larger budget and daily donuts for the Missus.
     
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    Whatever works between two people surely.
     
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    Personally, the more I explored this lifestyle the deeper I fell in love with it and all of its facets. Those facets include occupying the submissive role in a relationship and the woman the dominant. In fact, I believe this is only possible in my case because I’m lucky enough to actually be submissive and was only pretending to be dominant to fit in. I seek ultimate submission as it relieves stress in my life and promotes a feeling of wellness in me. That being said, I wasn’t able to consider myself truly submissive and worthy of the title chastity sissy until I was truly submissive. Simple. As long as I controlled something in her life, I was not submissive. Even if I yearned to only control one thing and one thing only... who she had sex with and when... I wasn’t truly submissive. It was only the moment when I no longer had a say nor wanted one, did I become truly submissive. This took years. And yes, it includes the finances. His pay check should be directly deposited into your account and he should be given allowance based on tasks.
     
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