(N)ever go back ?

I could go back easily, I feel it on the rare occasion of being unlocked. But I dont think my GF could. I can see the disappointment in her eyes those times. She worked too hard to get here...

 

Ive only been locked by Madame Vanilla for 3 months during which Ive had to remove it for adjustments and some soreness a couple of times...
My brain immediately reverts to being a bad boy:staring, surfing internet porn and insta fitties, fantasizing, masturbating....no consideration for my good wife.
But as soon as the lock is back on its like going through a magic door to a world owned and operated by my wife.
I pray for her to never change this.

 

That is one of the most beautiful posts I have ever read, It actually choked me up a bit.
To have such a loving KH and mistress - your man is very lucky (but I guess that you are too).
Fantastic share. Thank you.

 

As with anyone else or other couples things change over time who knows in a year or to we may have completely abandoned TTTWD and taken up gardening or macrame... or both
If it works for us both does it matter what others think about what it is or what it becomes?

 

We are very aware how fortunate we are and always try to never take that for granted. Thank you for your comments

 

As we have progressed in our FLR, including chastity, we have taken breaks for travel. After returning, I always ask, “Do you want to continue, are you enjoying it?” Her response is yes she wants to continue, no she would not wish to go back. She likes us this way and she is enjoying her control.

 

We are not in a FLR.
Chastity is our sexual lifestyle.
My submissiveness and servitude concentrate in the personal and sexual aspects only.
My KH/Wife outsources the frecuent teasing,edging,tormenting,milking,etc to a Masseuse and a ProDomme.
She only reserves for herself giving me the rare full orgasms I get.
She enjoys the benefits brought by the transformation achieved due to chastity and ,as she is in command, the answer to your question is ..." I never ever would allow you stopping to be sooo nice"

 

even if not always been easy, our lifestyle have so many advantages that is impossible for us turn back. But we understood this few years after we started this journey

 

We could never go back, mainly because we have always been in a fetish/bdsm Type relationship, chastity and flr came a bit later. Couldn’t imagine life without it now!

 

we went in cuckolding and then in FRL and chastity, is very long time we are into, and we will never go back!!!

 

We started this within 2 months of dating, progressed, heck I was caged during our wedding 2 years later, and ever since. Her key and my cage are more of a wedding ring than our actual wedding rings.

Some of the kink has faded, we aren’t always “on”, but one structural component has and will always be constant...I’m locked, she has the only key.

 

My wife would be the one that would want to revert if there ever was a scenario. It would be extremely difficult for me and for us. She would still expect all the same things I do for her now.

It sounds selfish but I don't think I could do everything I do now without the dynamic we have now.

Though the more we practice this dynamic the more benefits to her she discovers, so I may not need to worry about a scenario in where we stop. I'm sure it will change over time. Evolve, ebb and flow but at the core be the same.

 

i would not like to have to go back to Spain and be serve in bars again. It was nice and warm tho there and at the mo its freezy here and all snow everwhere. but it nicer working here.

 

This all sounds very positive indeed!

 

Once a relationship turns off the vanilla road, I don't see it ever going back. The new road is so sugary sweet and delicious, plain old vanilla just doesn't cut it anymore.

This is a frequent topic in our household. There is absolutely not any possibility of going back for us.

One of the odd ones is chastity- once I finally got to 24/7 lock-up the dynamic changed. My Mistress loves the control and she's extremely vocal she's not giving that up. I will remain locked up until I pass from this earth. Oh, I get unlocked from time to time, the frequency of unlocks changes, but the chastity will always remain.

Another is the FLR itself. It's also changed over time, but in the sense that the power imbalance grows and grows. Both of us talk about an inflection point- that point at which the power is such that the sub will be forever trapped in the orbit of the dominant with no hope of escape, ever. That point has either passed for us, or we are going through it now. I'm good with that.

She's always pushing boundaries. Right now it's two things she is pushing.

One is duration of lock-up, as she's more pleased with my alternative skills than my penis. The better I get, the less my dick gets used. It's a hopeless conundrum that I'm sure most subs encounter. It's quite the mind-fuck for a sub.

The other is introducing non-monogamy into the relationship. She really wants me to take on a male lover or two so she can watch. But even more enticing to her is more big dick in her life.

For years she said size didn't matter, but nowadays... she's a size queen and an open slut. She wants big dick and lots of it. She fantasizes about multiple hung lovers working her over while her adorable husband sits and watches with his adorable tiny penis locked up in her adorable tiny hat!

However, she wants that within the framework of a loving, consensual agreement on both our parts so we are taking that direction very slowly and with great deliberation.

 

You never know. Maybe your sex life will take so many turns that it will get stale and you might end back up at vanilla just for the fun of it. Vanilla is a flavor. People forget that . Try giving vanilla ice cream to someone from the 1700’s you will blow their mind.

 

I introduced @Artemistress to my kinky side early on in our relationship, so we were never really "vanilla". But once we started playing with chastity and femdom, it was like a switch flipped that can't be un-flipped. Our Domme and sub roles suddenly snapped into clear focus, and once that happened there was no going back to the way things were.

Even when we weren't actively practicing chastity, she was still dominant in the bedroom. And even if we were to stop doing chastity for whatever reason, I imagine that the D/s relationship would remain permanently.

 

I asked my KH/wife if she would ever go back to normal and she just smiled at me and asked “what do you mean? This is normal.”