How do you PIV after long chasting?

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  1. Alceste
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    I know. I meant I don't remember what it is like anymore.

    Sorry, perhaps that was a little bit unfair of me.
     
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    Once you get it back under control of embarrassing yourself a couple times you should be fine, but if that doesn't you both need to plan accordingly... Maybe a release earlier in the day would help, maybe she would be fine with using a strap on, maybe she would be cool with the idea of you using a sleeve, maybe you could get Viagra type pills to help...

    There are plenty of options, but the best option is Honestly and Communication with your partner. Only then will you have your true answer, and this goes for everything. This isn't about chastity, it is about building a good relationship even if it is a tough talk.
     
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    for me its not too big of a deal. When I get unlocked now a days, she will rub and pull on my cock or give me a blow job to get me off. After a few hours, its time for sildenafil and an hour later I'm ready to perform. She enjoys the PIV and whatever makes me hard and last long its her call.
     
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    It's funny how we actually derive more pleasure from our partners orgasms than our own! If in the days before chastity Mrs Chaste had orgasmed and then made me stop and left me denied I'd have been well pissed off! In fact there's no way I would have stopped until I was finished! Now with her strapon and my chastity cage I love the feeling of frustration is just so delicious!
     
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    Have you considered using a strapon? Will certainly eliminate any erection-related problems, plus the lady can pick a size she'll enjoy.
     
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    I know this feeling. I have gradually added a few things by subtle suggestions. Regarding going too fast, numbing cream isn't that extreme of a thing to suggest. They normally have some in the drug store. Throw it in the basket next time you're there and tell her you got it impulsively and see if she wants to give it a try. The next thing I tried was a penis sleeve. I justified it by getting the smallest one I could find (basically not really adding any size) and rationalizing it by explaining that it is not much different than a condom. It takes away some feeling so I can last longer, plus it makes less mess for her.
    It was enough to break the ice and she ended up liking it enough that a larger sleeve was next, and then a dildo even came into the mix occasionally for when I was locked up. (Although only used as a hand toy. A strap-on harness is still too weird for her. She said she feels like being a lesbian and not in a good way, lol.)
    Anyway, you've been married longer than me, but my point is that if you work in baby steps, you might just find things she's willing to try.
     
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    I live in hope. But it is definitely the slow lane for us.
     
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    "how do you do PIV after long chasting?"

    very very quickly.
     
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    For me, on the rare occasions that she wants PIV with me and not the Vixskin, I have to go slow and use tiny thrusts. I find if I do full thrusts, I’m done in 30 seconds, but if I go deep and then tiny thrusts, she gets feeling and I get very little.

    I still have to pause occasionally along the way, but if I don’t wait too long it keeps her going until she finishes. After that I have to pull out and lock up while deliciously frustrated.

    We’ve tried numbing cream and it works (quite the head trip to be thrusting without sensation), but she doesn’t like waiting the 20-25 minutes for it to take effect, so we don’t use it too often.
     
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    My own suggestion might be to first use a strapon, which would allow your partner to at least enjoy some PIV without you shooting off in 5 seconds... it certainly won’t go soft on her and she can get off on PIV then at least she will be satisfied - which is right!
    Afterwards maybe she will allow you to be unlocked and you can have your turn - even if it’s only 5 seconds...
    If she is the perfect keyholder however, she could simply say she is now too worn out and a bit sore, and tell you that another time would be better... and keep you locked until the next time.... lol
     
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    When my wonderful wife wants penetration she first goes for an O or two with her clit vibe and dildo (or my favorite, pleasuring herself with her clit vibe while riding my strapon)...then she may or may not unlock me. On those times that she does unlock me, she hops on and I last maybe 30-40 seconds. I love it either way (denied or PIV premature ejaculation), as long as she has had her fun.
     
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    Ok, showing my newbie status here, may I ask please what "PIV" means? Ahh, found a previous post. Sorry! I'm learning.
     
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    Penis in vagina
     
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    As a joke, that was a good one. Made me smile.

    As a real life event ... bloody frustrating and ... sad.

    There was a period in our (me & my now-ex wife) where we needed to use a condom. She eventually got a thingamagica (stringy coppery hormonary thingy inside womb) and she finally let me in without a rubber.

    It had been a long time (month or two) without any sex between us.

    And that time ... I lasted almost a full second.

    And that was that. For the coitus, for the sex life between us and ...

    for the marriage, as couple of weeks later she moved away and I was set free to pursue another venue as was she.
     
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    Always a shame when a marriage ends. Quite often it's for the best in the long run! Mrs Chaste was married before and her ex left for another woman. She thought her world had ended! In fact it was just the end of a chapter. She's been my Mrs Chaste for nearly 30 years now! Our journey is still very much ongoing!
     
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    Me too. On Christmas I was allowed PIV after 355 days pussy-free. She allowed me only to put the head in for about a minute and I wasn't allowed to move my hips or thrust. Then I was allowed to go halfway in and then all the way in -- she used a lot of lube so I slid easily. Once I was in I wasn't allowed to move for another minute, just to feel how wonderful it was. Then she moved three or four times and I felt myself lose it without asking permission, totally no control, two or three thrusts and I exploded. She told me it was OK, but that I had to lock back up. Total PIV time after 355 days was about 3 minutes. Other than the need to be a "man," which I proved I wasn't, I'm not sure why I thought this was a good idea.
     
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    I don’t, madam has a bull for that.
     
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    If she ever allows it doubt I could last 3 minutes. Unlikely this will be tested.
     
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    420 could help.
    It’s made it hard for me to come before
     
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    Weed?
     
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    Is that a desensitizing product?
     
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    I believe he's referring to marijuana.
     
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    Hmm but that might also diminish the hardness...
     
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    I am a heavy marijuana smoker for 30 years. Never had any problems getting it up. As for lasting a long time. Before chastity yes, but only because I was masturbating mostly every day
     
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    Probably will never get the opportunity to enter her temple again. But appreciate the comments.
     
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