How do you PIV after long chasting?

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    #1 borbulls1961, Jan 3, 2021
    Hi all we need some advice.
    After 22 days of lock up (longest ever for me) Madame wanted piv...I unlocked and basically came in my hand and then couldnt get hard to satisfy my good lady.
    Should we be planning in advance and releasing a first load 24 hours ahead? Sort of doesnt allow the lady to get piv on demand...

    Any suggestions welcome.
     
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    #2 collegeslave, Jan 3, 2021
    My wife and I will normally use numbing spray or cream to make sure I last long enough after a lock up.
     
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    #3 Guest 6019, Jan 3, 2021
    22 days is a lot, I'm not surprised you went off like a dodgy firework. I can only suggest, without numbing cream as it might not be vanilla enough for her, that you keep the O's to under 5-7 days maybe.
     
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    #4 Peaches, Jan 3, 2021
    Consider a high quality dildo to use with a strap on harness. The dildo won't go soft or cum too early.
     
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    #5 filltee, Jan 3, 2021
    How do you PIV after long chasting?

    if the actual question was
    how do you PiV after long term denial?

    I have no idea, and don't anticipate getting to know.

    certainly not in the foreseeable future, if at all.
     
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    #6 Guest 2684, Jan 3, 2021
    Wish I had an answer i never get piv now or ever again
     
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    #7 Chaste J., Jan 3, 2021
    Mrs Chaste ensures she has had her pleasure from my tongue and her strapon before unlocking me (a very rare occurrence). I literally just about get inside her before I cum! And it's like a ruined orgasm as well! Mrs Chaste finds it most amusing!
     
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    #8 Guest 6019, Jan 3, 2021
    Not everyone can persuade their vanilla to use dildos. It would not happen in our house for sure with kids around, and I don't feel like bringing it up, when she is doing so much already out of her comfort zone. L loves our PIV as much as I do, just not as often ready for it as I am. So I get that you want to last just the right amount of time. You are going to have to manage both of your expectations. She might be more pleased at seeing you shotgun it than you think. Let her know how you feel about it.
     
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    #9 Guest 6019, Jan 3, 2021
    Seems a bit hardcore for me. I couldn't imagine never.
     
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    #10 Peaches, Jan 3, 2021
    Maybe. But open communication is key. If neither of you bring up the subject you'll never know.

    My wife enjoys piv and even though I can last after a long lock up, I still have to slow down and stop during sex to keep from climaxing. She can get the the finish line but I probably wasn't as satisfying as it could have been.

    My wife was very vanilla but she always kept her mind and our communication open. When she isn't interested or ready to try something, she tells me. She doesn't have to try anything but you should at least be able to bring things up for consideration.
     
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    #11 TheKeyIsMine, Jan 3, 2021
    When Sub Hubby was allowed to have PIV back a few years ago i unlocked him and he was allowed to mastrubate in front of me. When he came he was allowed to lick me and make me cum with the womanizer.

    When he gets hard again he was allowed to fuck me. It lasts long enough to get my plessure, but he was not allowed to cum again. Our agreement was no cum inside me after all he was locked back in his cage....

    Ince one year he is not allowed to penetrate me anymore nor cumming inside my body... we use strapons as well for PIV. I love it !

    Greets TKIM
     
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    #12 New to cage, Jan 3, 2021
    Strapon for us, not even a need to unlock that way. Of course, you can also use while unlocked and it doesn't matter if you shoot early
     
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    #13 Stevejames732006, Jan 4, 2021
    I’m in the same boat as you. I barely get inside her and I’ve cum. In fact I prefer to give her an orgasm rather than have one myself.
     
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    #14 R2002, Jan 4, 2021
    Tantric breathing exercises help me refrain from ejaculating when I am allowed PIV (usually once a month or so), as does my Wife telling me that I am not allowed to cum
     
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    #15 R2002, Jan 4, 2021
    I highly recommend the book "Urban Tantra"
     
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    #16 R2002, Jan 4, 2021
    Also we are diligent about disengaging when my arousal levels gets too high

    She likes me entering Her while soft and pulling out while hard :)
     
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    #17 MSDB321, Jan 4, 2021
    My current partner does not allow PIV, it has been over 10 years since we got together.
    My previous wife for the last years of our marriage only allowed me to kneel before her and masturbate over her boots or stockings before being told to lick it up.
     
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    #18 R2002, Jan 4, 2021
    One other thing that helps is that during PIV I am not allowed to move my hips without my Wife's permission and she restricts my movements to not very many
     
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    #19 Guest 6019, Jan 4, 2021
    When she tells me I'm not allowed to cum that's like a hair trigger. Or if she tells me to come.
     
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    #20 Guest 6019, Jan 4, 2021
    Believe me, after 23 years I know what is easy to bring up and what is not. Open communication is easy if your vanilla wife is completely on board. I have to be very careful not to overload her. Just allowing me to be in chastity is a big thing. As for dildos, strapons, prostate massages the lust, sorry list goes on, I cannot just have an open conversation about it. It's too much for her to take on board. That's just the reality of it for some of us guys in vanilla relationships. I'm just touching on things gently all the time and using logic to point out the benefits she sees but doesn't really understand fully.
     
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    #21 borbulls1961, Jan 4, 2021
    Very well said.
    Madame Vanilla is just that and is only gradually taking chastity on board. So ofcourse I won't dump on her in ONE load all the heavy kink that us filthy scumbags have in mind.
    But the initial question doesnt have any clear answers...
     
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    #22 Guest 6019, Jan 4, 2021
    Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Like I said. She probably thought no worse of you because you couldn't last.
    Turn it around.

    She was so amazing you couldn't help it.

    Isn't she brilliant, that she can make you come so easily.

    You adore her that much.

    You have to break things down in to terms that are vanilla for her. What makes her smile, feel loved, desired.
     
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    #23 Alceste, Jan 4, 2021
    What's PIV?
     
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    #24 StubHub, Jan 4, 2021
    Penis in Vagina
     
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    PIV => penis in vagina
     
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