Chastity without female led relationships

That’s kind of how we started out. I asked my wife for chastity and FLR, she liked the idea of chastity but FLR was a bit much for her to swallow initially. As time went on our relationship became a full FLR as she became more comfortable with her control. No turning back now

There are couples who do practice chastity without FLR. I’ve read enough threads here to know that “vanilla chastity” exists without FLR or femdom etc... From what I’ve read it’s usually a guy who considers himself alpha but wants control over his masturbation habit, or the key holder is only interested in vanilla chastity without the associated kink. Honestly though, in my opinion I think the women who aren’t interested in FLR at least initially has more to do With a lack of good information and understanding as to what these kinds of relationships are all about. I think in the long run most chastity couples end up in some form of FLR by default do to the automatically changing dynamics of the relationship.

 

im sure that there are... there will be people like myslef who enjoy the kink and portable bondage aspect of Chastity.. without being overly submissive

 

I dont think we are in a full FLR, at least not yet. I probably make 51% of the decisions outside of the bedroom. I expect it is coming - once she thinks I can handle it, which is not yet.

 

My wife and I are not in or interested in a FLM. We are equals in life and marriage. Chastity is a fun and sexy game we play to spice up an already exciting love life. On this site the people who are into FLR are more vocal. To me it is a separate activity and more power to those who enjoy it. I do worry that people may get the impression from many posts that if you are not doing both you are doing it wrong.

 

Chastity without FLR pretty much describes us. I tried to introduce FLR for years, never really made any headway. She was reluctant to try chastity, but has gotten on board with that much more than she ever did FLR. We're a normal couple in every way, with the same division of chores we've had for years, but instead of one orgasm a week last April, I'm down to around one every 3 or 4 months. She enjoys pushing my limits on chastity, which is more than she ever did with FLR.

 

I guess it would also be important to state that there are many different levels of FLR. I don’t consider being in a FLR that our relationship is 100% guided by my mistress’s decisions alone. As stated above in another post, we are still partners and on big life decisions it is important for us to come together to make the best choices for us. FLR for us is more of me being her slave servant, Obeying her wishes whenever she wishes it. The results of this are usually her not having to lift a finger unless she wants too. The vast majority of the time she’ll make the final decision but very much appreciates my input when she wants it. In many ways I’m her 1950’s house husband but again, on big decisions we work together.

 

We have a fairly "mild" FLR. Most aspects of our life are fairly vanilla. Mrs Chaste is more of a matriarch really, in a nice way! With my Chastity and in the bedroom she is without doubt in charge!

 

I wouldn't say I'm really in a FLR. We are very much equals.
I introduced chastity into the relationship.
She does enjoy it, and likes the control though.

 

Certainly you could use chastity for sex play and to ramp up desires. Not just for FLR.

 

Mrs Edge and I have a fairly traditional and (with the exception of the "permanent" device) vanilla relationship. It's worked for us for years.

 

This kinda sums us up, though we are at the beginning of our journey. I hope L takes a bit more control as time goes on, but I'm not expecting kink. I just isn't her.

 

I suspect it's common. A full FLR is probably at the rarer end of the spectrum.

 

Think what you describe is the most common some simply take it a step further all due respect. Neither FLR, cuckold, feminization is necessity to do chastity it more a extension.

 

Of corse, you don’t need to be in FLR to play with chastity, and visa versa. There are no set rules, just so what works for you and enjoy it!

 

We are definitely not in a fully female led relationship.

She does enjoy my submission to her when I'm in chastity, and she takes advantage of the opportunity to control me, make me behave better, do more chores, etc. And whether I am in chastity or not she sometimes enjoys punishing me with various implements. She also has decreed that I am "pussy free" and can no longer have PIV sex, ever, and cannot even look at or especially not masturbate to uncensored porn. In all things sexual I am her subordinate and her submissive.

But we are basically equal partners in terms of parenting, finances, and many other non-sexual activities.