Chastity without locking

Although i'm caged more lately, i used honor system with only partial caging for a long time. It does take a bit more self restraint but if it meets your needs go for it.

 

it was always a struggle if i got horny enough. the desire to cum can be overwhelming but you have to focus on why you want to be chaste

 

I've used the honour system.

There are times when temptation is great. There's no rhyme or reason to that, though. You can go for days, weeks even, without any problem and then, for some reason, you get incredibly horny. You just have to tough it out. Go for a walk. Do something physical.

Personally, the honour system is much more interesting to me than being locked.

 

I admire those that can work the honour system, for me though it’s not enough, and also one of the aspects my madam loves most about chastity it the fact that she has physical control over my penis and also the challenges that I must overcome with being caged for her.

 

I am instructed to wear my cage only during day-time, as during the night my Love requires unrestricted access. In particular this is a though job after my Love allows me to have an incidental release. Wearing my cage more permanently, my recovery after a FO takes less time I discovered. Furthermore, also I found it much more difficult to neglect my "morning woods" (this are my difficultiest moments to obey). Therefore, my wish is to be locked 24/7/365 but her instructions prevails....

In any case I'am always open to her when I not obey the instructions, which happens past year a few times, in particular during heavy stress periods. Most of time a correction of my behaviour is than the result...

 

It would probably help to have a device to use if you think you are feeling weak. You can always throw the keys into a lockbox with a timer (Kitchen Safe) to get your keys back right before Mistress comes home or whatever.

Or you can cut a slot in a lockbox so you can put keys in but only someone else can retrieve them. I know I don’t have the willpower to not play if unlocked. I can handle being at work or out and about but don’t leave me home all day alone and unrestrained.

 

Im usually cage a couple of days a week and remove it to sleep. In rare occasions I sleep caged (if she forgot to tell me to remove the cage).Im used to cum only when she wants.

 

Went from masturbating to porn most days to being caged cold turkey 6 weeks ago. I couldn't do it without the cage. Certainly not yet.

 

The honour system is no good for most of us totally dishonourable blokes! We are simply to weak. It's also great fun being kept locked! Just my own thoughts!

 

I have recently started the honor system, as my wife is growing to like the idea of chastity and control, but is not into the actual devices. Our first serious run was about 5 weeks, and I found the first 4-5 days the most difficult to abstain from touching. After that, it became easier (maybe because I had enough days behind me that I'd hate the thoughts of starting over at that point). Towards the end of the five weeks, I had a feeling of being always frustrated but very content and happy at the same time. Our next period was about a week long, and currently, I'm at 2 days, and the urge is almost uncontrollable in the mornings. I think she'll push things a month or more again, which is where I think the sweet spot seems to be for me. After that first week, I have the willpower needed to abstain

 

I am in limbo right now as I would love to be locked but wife will not let me wear it to work. Also having a problem with cages. I am working on a month right now and almost don’t want to start over. Honor system. Very confused but definitely am finding that being chaste keeps me more focused on her.

 

I am a part time locker, but full time on the honor system. I never masturbate without wife's knowledge and permission. A book that helped us both was "Locked in Love" on Amazon. It is male chastity done in a loving, caring way, not mean or cruel. My wife read it and understands more now.

 

I’m not caged yet. And I have a strange situation where I’m away from home to work.

When I am at home my wife decides when and how I cum. She enjoys controlling my orgasm. It’s hard sometimes to not take care of things but the anticipation is a thrill and the orgasms are much better knowing I waited as per her wishes.

I work out of town and am away 2 weeks at a time She’s never asked me to not masturbate while I’m away but I’ve recently found myself pushing through the shift to see how long I can go, and recently started feeling some regret when I do cum. So that’s all fairly new as I start exploring this.

I haven’t done anything without my wife’s permission in about 8-9 months now. Even if I masturbate, she tells me to and she is there watching.

so far so good!

 

See if your wife fancies maintaining control and making a bit of a game of it?

Years ago when I was married we were used the honour system for several years but for a period I was living away from home for months at a stretch. On the basis that too long at a time without orgasm might not be healthy my wife came up with a system that she'd give me a chance to masturbate once a day, but as a game that made sure I only managed it once or twice a week and had plenty of frustration in between. Masturbation was restricted to a time window after she sent me a text message which would be at a random time of day. If I'd orgasmed the previous day then the window was 30 minutes and increased by 30 minutes for each day I'd gone without until next orgasmed when it reset to 30 minutes. What made it harder than it sounds was that often I didn't see the message until later but above all I wasn't allowed to do it inside the apartment so I'd have to find some way to do it outdoors - the privacy of a public toilet (but I wasn't allowed to use a cubicle) or discreetly rub myself through my trouser pocket for instance.

Often I'd take the message as a cue to walk to the shops rubbing myself on the way but another rule was that I couldn't wipe or change my underwear so they'd be messy for the rest of the day. Often the message would come through as I was on a conference call so I'd be impatient to finish to try to get out during the time windows, or I'd already be at the shops or out with friends with no opportunity for privacy so I'd read the message knowing I had to wait another day. As days went by without I'd become hornier so it would become easier which led to coming in some interesting situations like on a bus or a park bench or the corner of a quiet bar. If I went a week (or maybe it was ten days, it was a few years ago) I'd be allowed to do it in the apartment so I could have a bit of a marathon and empty myself out fully.

 

I recently came across some chastity hypnosis tapes that are really hot. The link is here:

https://hypno-fetish.com/music/6403/eternal-limpness

There are two about using hypnosis to keep your penis limp, without being able to get an erection when aroused but still able to feel intense horniness. It would probably take several weeks to achieve this, but I know someone who has been using these tapes for 2 weeks now, and says they do work.

 

i dont wear a cage i wore one for only 4 days and it made me very sore still recovering and that was weecks ago . first atempt i went 54 days and then had a orgasm from nipple stimulation im on 24 days at the mo and im hopping i can last at least 100 days . if i get there and im in a good place i may well just carry on indefanatly without cumming . i find i feel so horny wich is always a good feeling also i have far moor enegy .

 

I'm without a cage since October end, alas cage troubles - miss I the feel - but my last orgasm was on the 1st of November... Ah, me being teased by hopes of an O by my Mouse intentionally and not. But yep, it surely both is doable and easy most times - but at getting your mind turned on but smth or just seemingly randomly it peaks to hard to bear levels of frustration, yes. Me has to pay attention not to break denial and no touch conciously, sorta so, but also no, me not breaking no touch consciously: it would be robbing self of real pleasure, just not worth it.

 

RedHeelsToy has been on the honor system for almost a year now. He'd prefer to be locked 24/7, but we haven't found the right cage fit...yet. He has to deal with unrelenting erections and profuse leaking...but he's the one who asked for chastity and orgasm denial in the first place.

He's slipped twice - once early on, and again about two months ago. The first was a full-on orgasm in the middle of the night, to which he confessed later in the week (we don't live together) and was aware of the consequences. The second, well, was about 30 seconds of touching, followed by profound guilt. Privileges were revoked, significant punishment ensued, and it's proven to be an effective deterrent.

However, he almost came the other night just from laying in bed. Think of a wet dream, but awake. He didn't used to *need* to cum, but ironically enough, with enforced chastity, that has changed.

 

how was he punished ?