I love FLR but can't seem to make it fit my very vanilla world

She's your Queen, therefore you are her Knight! Get out there and conquer for her!

 

First start: turn over all the family finances and your income to your wife. Every penny. You still run the business of course, but on her behalf. She decides where the income goes, what standard of living she has (and by extension...you), and where and when you go on vacation.

That will make it real very quickly.

 

We have a similar arrangement right now. I work full time and she takes care of the house. We have a fairly egalitarian relationship on the day-to-day, but she is 100% in control sexually. Of course they cross over from time to time, but in general it's just how it works. We each bring our own strengths to the relationship and do what needs doing to make it work. Compared to the male-centric world at large, it could even be mistaken for an FLR at first glance.

I agree with @Giles_English -- I view the 40 hours of work a week as me providing her with the lifestyle she wants and giving us the freedom to pursue our interests (and kinks) as we please. I don't feel like it's "half-assed" at all -- and I am one of those people who loves to go 1000% on any and everything

 

I own my own business and my wife doesn't work.

She is in charge of our house. I handle the money. You could say she delegated that task to me? She isnt great with money management and the task would take away from her homeschool passion.

She keeps me locked up and controls my orgasms and sex life. She also has delegated some of the house hold chores to me. I'm also in charge of the vehicles.


You can't look at it as you control those things. Look at it as your wife has delegated those responsibilities to you, so don't let her down!

 

The mind is your most erotic organ. It's all in how you perceive it.

It helps when your wife gets a more expecting attitude. We are really honing in on our dynamic. She has gotten to the point where she just expects certain things to happen. Her water must be fresh and icy by her bed with her nightly vitamins. She expects me to pick up after her at home. She leaves her clothes in the bathroom after changing, the bed unmade after she gets up. She has bad allergies some months and has to blow her nose during the night. She leaves them on the night stand or by the bed for me to dispose of in the morning.

We still communicate on big issues. Even though I make the money I must get approval before making large purchases. And she doesn't make large purchases without talking with me.

 

A FLR is what you want to make of it... I would imagine she would want to make the decision that you continue to provide for your family & she would be making that decision. Don't over think this, there are more important things that need to be handled & you are overthinking this one a bit. You have a family and you need to do what is best for them, and I am sure your wife understands that.

 

Same here. I handle the finances but she prefers it that way and doesn't like to be bothered with it. There are no rules. An FLR can be whatever you agree to, have fun!

 

I second that,