My wife doesn’t really like my being caged but she sees the benefits to our relationship in that I don’t masturbate any more and that I like wearing it. She’s been unhappy about it denying her access to my cock in bed so about a week ago I began removing it before going to bed, leaving the base ring on. She has been playing with my cock most nights or in the mornings, which I really like. Yesterday I told her how much I appreciate the extra attention she’s been giving me and asked her if she would, please, order me to wear the cage during the day, and order me to not masturbate. She didn’t respond so I had no idea where that would go. At this moment I’m downstairs and she’s upstairs. Just a few minutes ago she called me on my cell phone and asked if I was wearing the cage. I answered that I was. She said, “Good. From now on you will wear it all the time. You will take it off only for hygiene. When you go up to go to bed you will ask my permission to take it off. You absolutely will not masturbate. If you fail to do these there will be consequences! As she spoke my cock swelled in the cage. This was from my very vanilla wife. Life is good.
Oh wow! I don't wear mine all the time, but I do a few days a month. But, wife does have a rule, no masturbating ever without her knowledge and permission first.
What a nice turn of events. You need to be sure you communicate to her, how much you appreciate that step from her. As well as show her by doing things for her that this is important to you. Good luck and enjoy.
You have reached a critical point and @MissyB has offered good advise. Remember, it is all about her from now on if you want this to work. Be patient and let her learn to lead. Good luck!
how Have the nocturnal erections been with having the ring on? It’s hard enough to pee with an erection so mornings must be “hard” for you! Lol
"She’s been unhappy about it denying her access to my cock in bed so about a week ago" Why why wouldn't she just unlock you?
Yes it seems like she has impression that he locked it up, rather than it being her that controls releases and time in cage. A little better communication might solve that issue.
I think you captured it well. I would suggest that the original poster try things for a week, then talk about what she likes and what she would like to change. My situation is that the cage is not something my wife likes. However, if do put it on, she is entitled to ask for the keys at any time and take control of it. I am allowed to wear it for my own amusement or help with self-control, but it must be removed by bedtime. I am not to touch myself without her permission regardless if caged or uncaged. I offer my own situation in case it helps you find a way that works for the two of you. There are many ways to create the joy of being under her control.
To clarify our situation, I lock myself up and always have access to a key which I use when I'm showering. The role the cage plays for me is to reduce my feeling of urgent sexual need and to give me a little kink in my life. When I have the cage off in the shower and I'm washing my cock and the soap is slippery and it feels so good and I know that an orgasm would feel so good … I struggle my cock back into the cage. Once I'm locked again my "need" to masturbate goes away. My wife has a key which she sometimes wears on a gold chain I gave her; I always like and appreciate when she does that. She appreciates my not masturbating and supports me in that. That's part of her acceptance of the cage. She's not at all into the dominance that some women are. I'd like it if she was but she's not. As I said in my first post when she 'ordered' me to wear the cage during the day my cock got big fast. Later on I told her how I had responded and my cock swelled again in the re-telling. I guess she doesn't unlock me herself is that it seems a bother to her. When she's in the mood to play with me it's at that moment.